Very normal- teething wasn't fun, but not horrible. Just enough to mess with sleeping few nights at a time for us The Snuza, and owlet are basically monitors that go off if the baby quits breathing for any reason (owlet monitors a little more). My wife works as a social worker at a childrens hospital, so she sees pretty much every sids case there is and was paranoid- at first. The snuza really put her at ease, and me too- as long as that thing is on, you know the baby is ok.
the wife and i are due to have our first kid in early July too. we're not scheduled to figure out the sex of the thing for another 3 weeks. how did you find out so soon? question for the group...we decided not to do any of the genetic testing or the testing for down syndrome. was that dumb?
Update to our upcoming NYC trip...FIL is sitting at our place tonight and I say something about Friday I have a work meeting near New York and I was considering just having my duaghter and wife tag along and meet them in NYC Saturday for the show. I said we would have to take 2 cars anyway. FIL starts asking a million questions until he finally pulls me aside and tells me he rented a limo to take all of us and I need to keep it a secret. I swear I can't make this shit up. FIl is always cost justifying everything and then out of no where it's a 2 hour limo trip for 7 people to a Broadway show. Big question for the group is my daughter just turned 3. How awful is this trip in a limo going to be and should I be asking about how to fit her car seat? Again...not trying to sound ungrateful...I just don't think they ever consider the fact that we have a 3 year old and sometimes it makes things more complicated then they ever thought.
Do you guys have her old carseat that you can buckle in? I bet the limo has the lock system or whatever it is called, but you never know. I hate people who are impractical. My inlaws took us and the rest of the family to Hawaii last summer. Awesome gesture, except for the 2 year olds flying 10 hours, a 1 year old and a newborn flying 6, and all of those very young children staying in a big house with no air conditioning in late June near the southern tip of the US. Hate to complain about Hawaii, but most of the county is pretty nice in June and there are lots of closer places that are less expensive and more accessible.
We do have the car seat. I'm with ya. I hate to complain but if we didn't have the conversation I would have shown up and been blindsided by this. On the plus side...this means we literally go up for the show and turn around and come home. I don't have to worry about walking around New York for hours.
Didn't do any testing either. Think we just took the stance, we have no control, let's not stress more now. If she has it, well she has it.
We did the testing so we could plan if necessary, but it isn't dumb not to do it. It's personal preference.
My wife is 35 and that's considered advanced maternal age apparently and there is blood test at about 10 weeks to check health of mother and baby I guess, you can find out the gender through that test. I don't know how but it works. We didn't do this with our first so I think it's just a required test for >35. We also go to a parinatologist every few weeks because it's a "high risk" pregnancy because of a few health issues my wife had and they could tell gender at 14 week check up.
interesting. thanks for that. this whole process is so new/overwhelming. thanks guys. it was crazy how many folks were shocked that we decided not to do the testing and were not afraid to hide their opinions about it. people get obnoxious about this shit. I'm thinking about hiding away in a cabin with no internet until the baby is born just to avoid all these annoying people/questions.
I'd just ask them why do they think you need to know now. You're going to find out eventually and it isn't going to change your plans any to know ahead of time.
My wife had a high risk pregnancy with weekly ultrasounds because of a large fibroid. They watched everything closely and noted one potential marker for down syndrome (that was easy to explain away as he had most likely swallowed some blood when she had bleeding early in her pregnancy). Because of the marker, genetic testing was offered but there was no pressure either way and I'd say it was closer to being discouraged by the doctor than encouraged. We chose not to do it because it added a small risk of miscarriage for her and we weren't going to do anything different with the pregnancy if the test came back unfavorable.
So potty training... whose kids started it doing pretty well and then abruptly turned to hating it? The boy, just a turned 3, was doing really well for about 4 days and then started freaking out every time we tried to put him on the toilet. My wife asked him why he didn't like it and he told her that's a baby. When she asked if he was a baby or a big boy, he told her he was a crybaby and got sad. We're taking a week off from potty training and re-setting this weekend. Also, I have no idea who called him a crybaby. He's certainly never heard that from me or my wife. I'm guessing it was from a kid at preschool. He'll get over it, but it makes me sad.
We didn't test either. Bottom line was we were going to have the baby and love it unconditionally no matter what. So we figured, what's the point?
I constantly joke/rib on my girls about being crybabies. They adamantly reply back "i'm a big girl not a baby!" Then i tell them to stop crying if they're not crybabies. It doesnt really work but whatever.
We haven't really got to the point where he wants to be a big boy, so we haven't played that card at all. The main reason it was notable was because it made him sad, and I think this is the first time for us that an external influence has made him sad (or that he's been able to express it). I'm not really concerned in any way - he'll get called worse in his life - but it was interesting how those protective feelings welled up. If he'd said, "me jackass," to me wife, I'd know exactly who to blame.
Guess it's time I join in on this thread. Found out today it's a boy, due July 6th. What aren't the baby books telling me that I will need to know once he arrives
you, MODEVIL , and I are all due around the same time. my wife is due July 9th/10th. Its our first though so folks keep telling us to add two weeks before that date and two weeks after that date and thats our 'due window'. #virtualbabyfriendsforlife
we are due July 15 but it will be probably the week prior for a scheduled C Section. 2Poor The first few months are rough in terms of sleep but every baby is different. If they breast feed well, it will be better. We had to wake him up ever few hours the first month or so and that was brutal. They say feed every three hours but feeding for us was 1) wake him up and feed for a half hour, 2) bottle with formula because my wife had low supply 3) my wife would pump for a half hour so by that time it is two hours between the start of feedings. 6 months through the 1 year mark were pretty easy and awesome. We got him sleep trained and he had a nap schedule. Didn't walk or really have opinions. Just would play and hang out. Once they can walk, it is really fun but also a lot more work during the day. Lil Mo turns 2 Super Bowl Sunday so we are going to have a 2 1/2 year old and a newborn. Should be fun.
The number of Tulsa fans is going to go up about 7% in July. Or now, if you believe fandom begins at conception.
Same here. She did great months ago and then we went on a vacation and I think we weren't as prepared and she regressed. My wife did a sticker board and it really worked for a while. She went to my in laws and they didn't have it one day and started with candy. That killed it too. Don't ever promise candy for going potty.
I remember having a 2 1/2 year old and a newborn. I think I posted something like "why the hell do people have more than one child what have we done."
we were just on vacation with friends who had three under three (the oldest just recently turned 3) and they made it look so easy. Crazy. The middle child would just chill by himself and play, the baby slept and the oldest would play with the dad. It was crazy. That won't be us I'm sure.
-As long as feeding is handled, if you figure out a sleep schedule, taking care of an infant is way easier than you might think. -Don't listen to any of the tens of people who feel it necessary to regale you with ways to raise your child more appropriately. -Don't drop the baby. -Learn to fall asleep quickly. ...... Profit?
Haha, we started with candy. It stopped working almost immediately. We've talked about the sticker board and I think we'll try that next.
That's insane. I felt like we broke our older child for a couple months but once he adjusted everything was great. Now it's awesome.
Move them to their crib as soon as possible and sleep train as soon as possible. The most valuable commodity for parents is sleep, and if your kid sleeps you'll be better parents. If they don't sleep, try not to take it out on your wife or get too upset when she takes it out on you.
Dont promise candy for anything. Period. We found that stickers are a great motivator (at least for girls). It's like crack for them. And you can buy them really cheap.
I am going to be joining this club July 4th this summer....really looking forward to it. Going to be a lot of changes but all welcome changes. This is definitely special considering in November of 2014 my wife was told it would be near impossible to have kids - family history/health/etc. We didn't find out she was pregnant until she was nine weeks and one day. We find out the sex the second week of February.
Don't waste your time or money on the baby books- randomly google things as needed. Don't shake the kid, don't drop the kid- and you'll be fine. Try to get a good schedule and stick to it, try to always do what is best for the kid long term instead of what is easiest in the moment (especially when trying to get them sleeping in own bed, sleeping schedules, etc.)
Getting a 2nd set of tubes Friday- yay. One tube fell out around Thanksgiving, have had 3 or 4 ear infections since then so definitely need to get them in there just going to be a shitty morning.
That sounds terrible. Our son got tubes in early November. He has had one ear infection since then but it was much better than previous and he has had numerous colds that likely would have turned in to one in the past. He has something going on right now but I'm not sure what it is. He has woken up in the 11pm and 4am hours the last two nights and just been absolutely hysterical. Normally if you go to get him he cuddles tightly on our chest and falls back asleep in our arms and can be placed back down in his crib (unless he has an ear infection and then the pressure build-up causes him to cry). This morning when I went to get him at 4 he was sprawling all over, arching his back, arms flying all over trying to push away from me. It was really hard to grip him tightly to settle him down and then after a minute or so he finally cuddled in tightly to my chest. My wife thinks it is something called Night Terrors but I'm not really sure. When I tried to bring him back to his crib he started crying again when I got within a few feet of it. Whatever this is, it sucks.
Ours has started having bad dreams from time to time- everything is completely fine but wakes up crying, and as soon as we get there she is fine. We haven't had a true night terror yet, from what I've read those sound like they suck, a lot
Hey, lil Baron was born in July last year, do I get to be a part of this July club? HotMic had a kid too.
My four year old's favorite show is Community. He thinks mommy looks like Annie. Daddy fucking wishes.
Yessir. Had my second little man on July 28th. My oldest is December 14th, so we get a winter and summer party, which works out well.
I discovered that my girls love futurama which is awesome. Finally a show we can both enjoy. You know, a happy medium between archer and paw patrol. I'm very happy.
We are on week 7 of the same double ear infection. Whatever modicum of nighttime schedule/routine we had going for us has been completely obliterated by the impact of a 1 year old in pain. While I feel bad for my kid and am doing the best I can to be patient night after night, this shit is starting to wear very thin.
This is awesome. Anyone want to teach me how to weld? https://www.yahoo.com/makers/dad-sp...222/photo-fairytale-forest-1453841222710.html
Painted Boomette's nursery last weekend. Mini Boom has been so sweet as we're getting her room ready. Can't wait to see him with her.