We didn't work to arrest it as quickly as we should have, so he was up twice a night until he was 11 months old. It was awful. I was a fucking zombie.
Sleep train the shit out of him/her. Don't give them a bottle, don't pick them up, etc. Just lock your wife in the bathroom and let them cry until they go back to sleep. 3 more days of misery is better than 7 months.
Wife thinks it's to soon so we are battling about that. Her and her mom rush over whenever she makes a peep.
Mothers can be like that. Hopefully it will correct itself, but I wouldn't let her go past the end of the 4th month. 5 months is definitely not too soon.
From everybody we talked to that had to do it, that is a terrible habit to break later. A baby is going to wake up in the middle of the night. It needs to learn to self soothe and put itself back to sleep.
Tv just started cutting in and out as a storm is approaching. My 3.5 yr old girl says "what in the heck is it doing". I say don't say "heck". She goes "sorry, what the hell?" I'm not mature enough to not laugh. Caught me off guard.
Built a crib tonight. On one hand, that was much easier than cheap Walmart furniture that I used to make as a single fella. On the other hand, holy shit it's getting real. A "long" ways to go but it feels like time is flying. Ready to officially join you guys!
This. It is so hard to get anything done with a little kid and two working parents. Even mowing the lawn has turned in to a challenge because I either need to make sure my wife is home to watch him or I have to get home early to do it before picking him up from daycare.
She wants her whole family to come visit right when the baby is born. Mom, dad, two sisters, brothers in law. I told her that was a horrible idea and maybe she should stagger their visits. Her sister thinks I'm an asshole now so of course she's upset at me too.
That's too much. Then they all leave and you're on your own. They should spread it out a bit. Of course:
fwiw- I think you're right. But, being right doesn't necessarily matter in these situations. Some mothers love having people there and others just want to have private family time with just the parents and baby bonding. I think most people think they are going to want their extended family there but those first few weeks are exhausting (especially for mothers that choose to breastfeed) and a lot of parents regret having everybody there and not putting up more boundaries. The fact is, if it is just the parents it is easier to nap whenever and whereever you want, it is easier to breastfeed (which is really hard at the beginning as the kid is learning to latch) without other people hanging out in area, it is easier to have downtime without feeling like you need to have a conversation with someone else in the room. It takes a couple weeks to get in to a groove with what you're doing. Personally, when our son was born I felt suffocated by my mother-in-law thinking she needed to constantly be at our house "to help." I know she was being sincere but there were certainly times where she made things harder instead of easier.
Right, that's one thing I thought of too... I get 5 weeks off, she gets 3 months. I want some personal time with just me, her, and especially some baby bonding time. Going to really piss me off if someone else is always there taking that very valuable time away from me. I'll wait for an appropriate opening to bring that up. I'm all about family coming to visit and such, no complaints there, but I don't want to be suffocated and I want as much time with that kid to myself for those first few weeks... Don't even care if that makes me sound selfish.
Likely an unpopular opinion, but, as the parent of a 17 month old and living in a southern state that just legalized the stuff, fireworks can fuck off for now. We've been getting destroyed all weekend and have had enough.
I'm extremely lucky in that regard. My 11 month old daughter doesn't give the slightest fuck about any form of a firework, even loud ones. She also sleeps right through severe thunderstorms. If only it wasn't such a pain in the fucking ass to get her asleep.
My wife bought a cheap Walmart crib, against my wishes and god it sucked putting together. I remember having to chew stale ass gum from the bottom of her purse to get some of the bolt holders to stay in. My mouth tasted like strawberry starburst and stale ass change for the rest of the day. Yum. Now she's got a wonderful habit of chewing the paint off the wood. About to toss the damn thing.
Sound machine don't cover the feeling of mortars blowing up a few hundred yards from the house. It sounds and feels like WW3 in my neighborhood right now.
Mine too. But my kids are sleeping and I'm a rational adult who knows my house isn't being bombed. So fk it. I'm ok.
Mini Boom learned the Pledge of Allegiance at school, and he was so proud to recite it for me. Still, after hearing "I pledge allegiance to the flag," it took all of my restraint not to yell, "MICHAEL JACKSON IS A FAG!"
Agree. First night home with our three day old and it's like Baghdad circa 91 outside. I guess last night teenagers were sitting in front of the house next door launching fireworks. Fortunately the 2 1/2 year old slept right through them.
I definitely got a little 4th of July grinchy last night. It was 10:30, my kid was struggling to stay asleep, and I was getting frustrated. I got over it eventually though, and my daughter stayed asleep. I was not as happy when it was 2:30 a.m. and some assholes decided to fire off four mortars nearby...
Had to take my youngest to DC for some medical tests (he's part of a study for a condition that I've mentioned before ITT) and my older two kids had a swim meet mid-week so my wife decided to meet me down there - basically I was alone with my youngest for 4 days. It was really cool - my wife and I are so busy that 50% of the time it's one of us with all 3 and the other 50% of the time it's both of us with all 3. Neither of us ever really get 1-on-1 time with any of them. I think that I'm going to start scheduling some more events like this. He loved it because he had my entire attention (he talked more in 4 days than he normally does in 2 weeks) and didn't have to fight with his brothers for where to eat, what movie to watch, etc.
That's awesome. My 3 year old is the middle of a big daddy phase - he wants to play with me and 'help' me fix things non-stop. It is cool, except when he desperately wanted me to stay home from work and play with him today and I couldn't.
i'm tryin man. my wife wakes me up every 30 minutes or so when she gets up to pee or tries to roll around in bed to get comfortable. she makes grunting sounds like I'm sharing the bed with an ogre. whats the TMB record for longest pregnancy?
Just got our blood tests back from the second check up. Baby is healthy and good to go. Spoiler and it's a boy
Taking my son to this today: http://www.jurassicquest.com/index.html?devicelock=desktop He's super stoked
Mini Boomette has a blowout every fucking day. Why are girl shits different from boy shits? Mini Boom had maybe 5 the entire time he wore diapers.
My wife went 42 weeks and still had to be induced. Took the shoat to her first Mass this morning. She stayed awake for the first fifteen minutes, then drooled and snored all over the Warden. Pretty much how it went down for me too.
Finished painting the nursery today. Wife isn't too happy with how the colors she picked out ended up looking. I'll probably have to do it all over again. Fuck.
I knew this day would come, didn't know it would happen so fast though. Went out this AM and hit the tennis ball with my son, it's the 1st he has hit with me this year and man he ran my old ass around the court. I can still get him with my serve and over power him but man he can chase down drop shots and he is hitting the balls back really hard. I don't know how it happened but all of a sudden he has power in his swing and I had to run my ass off to keep up.....
Wife said our son is accident prone and responded with "that's weird, he never seems to have accidents when I'm watching him" Guess who's getting the silent treatment