I thought it couldn't get any better than that, but I discovered post-blowjob pancakes on Father's Day. Marriage is cool sometimes.
Still pretty good. She's in a shitty mood today but she still got me a beer and bag of pretzels before she went upstairs.
$300 to get it fixed. Don't remember what the problem was. I don't pretend to have the handyman gene. I still have night terrors about the laundromat.
Not a significant other but a female friend. We work for the same state agency, me in Tallahassee, her in St. Augustine, very close to the beach. She just sent me an IM on Lync or Skype or whatever: "Do you guys get a lot of spiders and crabs in your office?" Why in the world would you think I might get crabs in my office in Tallahassee, Florida? Which is 45 minutes from the closest thing you could consider a beach. Which you know. Cause you grew up in Tallahassee.
She thinks she left her bag, that contained her iPhone, in her parking spot at work. Losing her phone is becoming far too regular of an occurrence.
She got really sunburnt this weekend and we were at the grocery store. I ask her if she wants any aloe since I cringe just looking at her. ( I Know we dont have any because I looked for it earlier and let her know we can get some at the store later.) She says no, she will be fine. It doesn't even hurt. Fast forward to going to bed and she gets up and leaves for a few. Comes back and I ask what's up and she said she can't sleep due to pain and was going to find the aloe....haha, women.
She ran out the door to go back to work and find it. I didn't even have time to yell "let me do a Find my iPhone." However, I can confirm that it is still at her office and only has 5% battery remaining. Her other (work) phone is still at home. If it was me, I would have brought the work phone with me so I could make the first phone ring (if it had been moved/picked up). The last incident was a few months ago when she left her phone at a hotel in Philly and didn't even realize she left it until I mentioned it showed up there on find my iPhone. The one prior to that, in early April, she left it on a plane. I just realized this is the 3rd incident in 3 months.
She called from her office phone. It isn't in her parking spot but the security guard hasn't seen it either. It does still show up in the building but the battery is down to 4%. We've only got one chance at it so I'm going to make it play a sound while she walks around. Lol. What a disaster. Edit: Update. It is found. The annoying beep must have worked. She isn't sure how it got there but the security guard had it by the time she went back down the elevator after calling me.
Need to invent a ring or some other jewelry that has Bluetooth and anytime it goes out of range the phone makes a sound or the ring vibrates. So they can never leave it somewhere.
So awhile back I posted in this thread about the possibly of moving from Baton Rouge,LA to Iowa City and getting anapartment with my SO. I wanted to get some anon peoples opinions on recent events (I've spoken to my friends and they seem to be on my side of the situation. But that isn't too shocking) Basically the job prospects in Iowa City and the surrounding areas aren't exactly amazing right now. I applied to 20-25 jobs with in the area and somewhere between 10-15 denied me for "lack of experience". In that time I told my SO that moving to Iowa City in August looked like a shacking situation. She would kind of brush my statements off and still act like I was moving there in August. One night (I believe in late May) I literally had to tell point blank that it would be wise to come up with a backup plan because the spring semester ends. Fast forward to the month of June. I visited Iowa City two separate weeks (The second week was a mix of STL & IC). The first visit went fine until the night before I was going to drive back to BR. She said that we needed to talk about things. Basically she believes that I should quit my salaried job and move to Iowa City because it would be a fresh start and that I would eventually find something to do there. I openly told her that this would be a shaky plan because what happens if I don't find something and we are left with months of rent and bills to pay for. She responded with "I can cover the financial situation for 2 or 3 months". That entire deal seems like a red flag in my mind. In no way is it a good idea for one person in the relationship to handle all the financial situations because it builds up resentment between both parties. She also openly told me that she has no plans to stay in IC long term (She finishes her masters program in 2 yrs). Which to me seems like the gameplan should be that we both finish our grad programs and in the meantime plan out a city that fits what both of us wants in a place to live/work/play. Which brings me to last night, we didn't really talk much yesterday. But she messaged me saying she just got done FaceTiming with her mother. Then she said "My parents are worried about me". I then received a phone call where she explained that her parents were curious about her living arrangements, how our anniversary went, etc. Then she goes on to say "It's not a great feeling when your father says. Do you need money for your rent this year?". Part of me doesn't believe that this conversation actually happen the way that she's explaining it. Mainly because I've been the rational one in this situation and directly told her that I haven't found any job prospects there. The conversation goes on into a downward spiral and to cut to the chase. She broke up with me last night and requested for certain items to be mailed back to her. Anyways, am I in the wrong for how I handled this situation?
nope, not at all... i could see a lot of things going wrong if you didn't have a job there and just moved, while living off her supporting you temporarily.
and that was my main point. I can remember bringing up the finances of living together and she looked at me puzzled. Then said "Why do you keep on bringing up the financial part. Is that all you are worried about?" It's all kind of head scratching because she isn't like previous girls that I've dated (Using her dad's credit card for everything). But at the same time, nothing seemed to connect her brain. It was basically "you need to do this now because I want it done now. End of story"
IvanTheTerrible That sucks but you're completely in the right. You're using logic and she's using feelings. Feelings don't help pay bills.
You're not wrong at all and while it is shitty right now, you're better off in the long run vs. moving to a strange city with limited job prospects where you'll be dependent on your gf for a decent period of time
My wife was getting into my car yesterday and I hear "ouch!" I ask what happened and she apparently slammed her foot in the car door. Her own foot. In the car door. How is that even possible?
You did things the right way. If she's having shaky feelings at the first sign of adversity, y'all never would have lasted anyway. Sorry it happened, but it's better that it happened now before y'all moved there together and shit got really messy.
And if she relies on her dad for money, imagine the shit show once you can't "provide" for her because your job prospects blow.
The funny thing is that she's always given off the vibe of being very independent from her parents. Thats why the whole "my parents are worried about me" and "it's uncomfortable when your dad is asking whether you need help with rent" comments don't seem 100% true imo. It's a shitty situation. But I currently don't feel like I need to communicate with her anymore. The whole situation about returning picture frames and items that were given to me as a gift is pretty laughable at the moment. ***clarifying, if we do ever communicate. I feel like she should be the one to start it.
I think it's kind of absurd to ask for a christmas & birthday gift back. But I've pretty much learned that females in their twenties make little to no sense nowadays. One of my buddies made a good point after I got back from Iowa earlier this month. It seems like she's watched way too many rom-coms. She expects you to drop everything that you have going on in your life to do what? Go move to place and work at chili's. What happens when she finishes her grad school and you still haven't finished yours? What movie has an explanation for that ending?
Absolutely not at all and while you needed to get this off your chest you aren't out getting shit faced so something tells me that you know you made the right decision and that was just a consequence of said decision. Trust me, this is coming from somebody that moved to a completely new city to get a job, it can be brutal. I eventually landed one but it can be rough as shit.
I currently work as a fundraising coordinator at a hospital in BR. I also do some political analysis work in this region (Previously I worked for the former governor of LA). I'm currently working on my masters degree in Emergency Mgmt. The sad truth is, the major hospitals in that area are flat out hiring people who went to Univ of Iowa or one of the surrounding schools. I would need a good recommendation (From someone in the IA area) to set me apart
That's why they end the movie with the person moving. Six months later when the murder suicide occurs doesn't make for a real heart warming/funny ending.
Thanks for understanding. I told her my strategy about what we should do (Both finish our masters and a city the suits us). She shot that proposal down because it would mean waiting 2 yrs and then finally moving in together. So this entire thing comes down to one person giving up everything and the other person giving up nothing.