TMB Divorce Thread

this is real mature huh ?
your marriage was a failure and you blame shift.
looks to me your going to carry excess baggage in to your next marriage.
and every single person can not be honest enough to except responcibility for theire actions .
and OH MY YOU ARE REALLY IN THE RIGHT !
edit add on : takes two to tango ?

 

Well then

 

Guy she cheated on me with fessed up...

 

I don't care for this shit but "It takes two to tango" is an appropriate quote

 

So you know him?

 

I do now... didn't at the time...

 

jenks glad to hear everything worked out in the end

 

settlement agreement and parenting plan signed and notarized
FINALLY
been working on this since July

 

Only been married 2 years and so far so good. Baby on the way. Still getting BJ's.

Was having the "what if we got divorced" convo the other day. Basically came to the conclusion that I would hold out until our youngest is 18 and I would totally work the mail order bride circuit.

 

I don't wish divorce on anyone, but don't do that. Its actually worse on the kids, especially if there is tension between the parents.

 

My parents slept in separate rooms for years and divorced after my sister and I moved out. It was pretty miserable just wished they had divorced while we were living there. There was constant tension and it was really weird when we had friends over and they were like why do your parents sleep in different rooms?

 

is LulaRoe grounds for divorce?

 

First tax return since being divorced.


I actually missed being married today.

 

Its funny for me because this tax season I'll actually be happy I'm single. The ex was essentially an independent contractor of sorts and when we got married I kissed a sizable tax return goodbye. She didn't like to pay in all that much. There was one year where we actually owed a few grand. I was pretty pissed. My divorce finalizes next week. Thankfully, mine was probably just about as smooth as they can be. The final year was crazy emotional stress trying to work things out, but once the decision was made it wasn't too terrible. I'm sure most of that is due to the fact that we were renting an apartment in ATX and have no children.

 

Any divorced parents here? Any suggestions for web site/software/apps for helping maintain and organize time sharing schedule?

 

Is that what you use?


I just signed up for a trial at https://www.2houses.com/en/ and it looks great - but is $120/year. Going to try it out for a week to see if worth it. Seems to be very comprehensive. Allows both parents to login. Helps organize finances too. I setup the time sharing schedule for the next 15 years in a few clicks.

 

Read this thread and now appreciate my wife even more.

Condolences to you guys that are having to go through this shit.

 

Our Family Wizard is easily the best option I'm aware of. Does schedule, appointments, and even the reimbursement issues.

Just have to ensure both parents will actually use it. Waste of money otherwise.

 

Thanks. Looks too expensive for me.

The other free stuff I've looked at isn't comprehensive enough compared to Our Family Wizard or 2houses.

So I'm still doing the 2houses trial. Invited the mom today, like you said it's only useful if both of us use it. We'll see. The fact that you can quickly enter an expense, attach a scanned image of it, and it calculates our agreed upon % is nice. Then balances everything. Notifies the other parent to accept/refuse it, etc.

 

Yup. Plus it's nice to have everything in one place with nothing else. Most people just use email which can work, but it's not as streamlined and you have to sort through all of your unrelated stuff to find what you need.

The real trick isn't a program of website (though they can be valuable tools, especially if communication is an issue, one or both parents aren't very organized, or you have kids in a lot of activities that makes the schedule and reimbursements complex), it's just finding out what system works best yall and the kids. For some people that's phone calls, some text, others email, some use these sites, and some require third party assistance. Just gotta assess your situation, figure out what you believe will work best, and do your best to implement it and tweak the system if problems arise.

 

Our Family Wizard has a one year scholarship available. You can talk to the probation office about it.

 

Anybody popping in here that might give some advice to a wayward soul? Shits has gone off the rails with my wife to the point she could tell me tomorrow she wanted a divorce and it wouldn't surprise me. I'm hoping (kidding myself?) we (she) can get our (her) act together and keep our family together but I have no idea where her head is at the moment, won't talk about it. So I'm probably going to be one of those suckers you always hear about that hangs on too long. The scoop on us is 2 young kids, I'm a stay at home dad and she travels nationally 50-75% of the time and we live in Ky (no fault state). I have no clue what (if anything) I should be doing to prep or what to expect so any advice would be appreciated.

 

Uh oh

 

Document her travel and the time she spends away from the kids, your caring for the kids, etc.

Get financial statements so you know what assets and income are. Document your monthly expenses (and those of the children) so you can verify your claim for alimony.

 

Also be ready to move quick if you decide to move forward and make sure you have access to temporary funds until the court can act. It's not uncommon for the bread winner to shut down the other spouse's access to funds at the outset of litigation. Gives them leverage when negotiating a temporary settlement and prevents them from being able to afford the retainer of a decent attorney.

 

Thanks for the advice guys! I would, and may still, write some of the details itt later on for the entertainment/education value. I'm just not feeling up to it now. The last 18 hours have been a bit discouraging but we keep on keepin on.

 

While I generally agree with this, it is very fact sensitive. You put your cards on the table, she very well may act accordingly. Aka, hire her own lawyer, start protecting herself, etc. I generally err on the side of gather information clandestinely to protect yourself and keep her in the dark as much as possible about these actions.

It really is a crapshoot. You can't accurately predict how the divorce will play out. Some people just want to get it over with. Some want to end it quickly. Some are so emotional it changes day to day.

I'm a firm believer that information, especially when they're not sure you have that information, is power. You can turn small things into big credibility issues (especially if you have trial by ambush temporary hearings like we have in sc). You tip your hand early, and you start getting reactionary measures and they can hedge bets because they know you're aware of everything.

That being said the flip side is that getting caught can exacerbate tensions and hostility and turn things from amicable to contested. It's hard to say how things play out and how people react, which is why I favor gathering facts in secret so you don't have that concern, it allows your counsel to adequately prepare early in the case so you minimize the chance of taking bad positions, and you save money on any potential discovery and can coerce a more favorable settlement early on because you know the deal.

 

So need some help on how to proceed. Overnight trip for her night before last and after getting home he has gotten sloppy with her things. I found a folder from a divorce attorney she has been working on but the best part is the diaphragm and lube that I've never seen before. Took a picture of it and I also saw a copy of a pizza delivery receipt to the hotel that puts him in here room at 8:30 last night. No pic of it yet but I should be able to get it. In the last 36 hours I have gone all the way from some suspicion, to I think it's likely and with who, to the smoking gun. Advice here would be greatly appreciated. 4 and 6 year old boys, what a fucking shame.

 

I'm sure no one itt has a rec for an Atty in Lexington Ky but suggestions on what to look for ask them etc would be awesome. I'm flying blind here. She is gone the 1st 3-4 days of next week so I guess I will be waiting until then. She had alluded earlier we might plan on talking after that trip.

 

Well, u need to hire a PI quick I'm. Gotta build that evidence like tilly said before it's a moot point.

 

Already pm'd him. Kentucky is a no fault state, so hiring a pi might be a waste of money. That's something local counsel would need to discuss with him.

 

Damn it, I hate it when kids are involved in this stuff.

 

Do you expect she's cheating on these trips? Maybe I missed what the issues were.

 

He found a diaphragm and lube. She's more than likely going a2m as well as getting creampied.

 

Sorry kentucky75. I'm sure this sucks dick.

 

broads are such whores

 

That's a low blow in this thread.

 

I've only dealt with the court system when it comes to Children so that would be my only pov to offer. In short.. it's expensive, it's not fair and the court does not usually have the childrens best interest in mind. I can't imagine what it's like to even suspect my wife cheating on me. When kids are involved though, they have to be the main goal. Bitches come and go. Your kids are always your kids.

I wouldn't spill any beans to her and I wouldn't try to talk shit out. Cheaters are cheaters. They will not change and it's probably not the first time she's cheated on you. I'd try my best to act like there is nothing wrong at all. If she's getting dick on the side. . she's already out of the relationship.

Lawyer up. Be shady, Get your facts straight then drop the bomb on her when she least expects it

 

What the fuck is wrong with you?

 

he's just setting it up to ask for pics

 

I'm convinced he's on the spectrum. Has 0 cues on how to interact with people

 

Wasn't he the poster the other day that admitted to picking up his wife while she was a hs student and he was a substitute teacher?

 

what thread was that!