My apologies if you were offended, kentucky75 What do the rest of you think the lube and diaphragm were for? Congresswoman was at the school visiting her mom who was the principal. Not a student.
You can know what they're for and not posit that she's taking atm and creampies not hours after the dude found out she's probably cheating on him and he has two small kids you fucking weirdo.
That's the thing, we all know what they are for but pointing out the obvious is a low blow, especially in a thread that is fucking rough to begin with.
I thought it was a funny comment. Not like the guy isn't already wondering how many different loads shes swallowed anyway. Painting his wife like the dirty cheating ho bag that she is is just gonna get him in the right mindset.
kentucky75 sorry to hear your fears were confirmed man, I've been there, always hate when kids are involved. Most important thing now is get all the evidence you can, get a lawyer hired, and take all the steps to protect your rights to assets and especially the kids. Important to think worst case too, as much as it sucks and hurts. Your counsel will help with that, no matter how unlikely a particular problem or thing she might do seems, at least give it some thought. Better to be prepared than taken by surprise.
I posted in here last year quite a bit and there was some good feedback that helped me. Officially divorced now as of February. It took 8 months from Jul 15 to Feb 16. It was a struggle but I stayed with the end goal in mind and lawyered up, negotiated with ex, again and again, and ended up getting the best I thought I could get out of our settlement agreement and parenting plan. The past 4 months have been so good. Just thought I'd bump and share.
I've never shared here but I'm one year out this month. Typical parenting issues and a few money disagreements but so much better than marriage. Add in a much younger hotter girlfriend and make the pain of the process more distant. My advice is NEVER be the nice guy and assume she will be logical. And be sure you understand all details with clarity in the agreement and parenting plan. I tried to be nice and logical to save money. She hired a $400/HR atty with 7500 retainer. Details would include what does child support cover or better yet, not cover. Be concise.
Generally agree, but would be careful about too many details. You certainly want to be precise regarding the big things but an agreement can't cover every possible scenario and sometimes you've just got to accept that you'll have to co-parent. I wouldn't let an agreement fall through simply because you can't agree on how to handle a distant scenario which may or may not occur. If it comes up, litigate it then. Also, what details are you referring to on child support? That's normally pretty cut and dry.
Yeah, that's odd on child support. Here, it's just a set amount (unless really high earners) and that money goes to the custodial parent. There's no oversight as to what it covers.
Yeah, pay the set amount of direct support and whatever percentage you owe on uncovered medicals after you receive the statement or EOB. P sure that's how it is in most, if not all, States because of the federal legislation back in the 80's mandating states to enact guidelines. The only issues we run into deal with private school, college expenses, and extracurricular activities. But I feel like unless that is express in the agreement, you shouldn't be liable for it. Spouse could always ask for a modification to include that though.
Cell phones you can't really bitch about because it's a means to communicate with the noncustodial parent. A cell phone is viewed as standard these days. Extracurricular stuff, you'll be on the hook for in most every state in the country,barring abuse. Car and prom dress are new to me though unless you've got solid income. Esp enforcing it if it wasn't worked out in the agreement. I presume this was a "modification" of child support action as opposed to a contempt action. Just don't see how that happens minus some fucked language in the agreement. We require a clear and unambiguous provision before contempt can even come into play.
This thread makes me never, ever want to get married Feel for the guys who got fucked over, happy for the guys who got out of a bad marriage and are better off.
I can't ever see getting married again. I've been single since splitting with my wife in 2012 and it's been beautiful. But my divorce was amicable (relatively) and we didn't have any children. She was talking about having children just months before we split. I'm really glad I dodged that slow suicide.
Unclear what you mean. I pay for child support. And cell phone above that as both lawyers couldn't agree after the fact that it should be covered by child support and I wasn't going to go to court over $150 a month and decided to just control and pay it for my kids. Extracurricular we split typically now. Child support in Georgia doesn't seem to have good guidelines what is covered. And it wasn't well defined. I asked for an official list so both parties were aware. It wasn't available. My overall point is the drama and discussion required that you don't want to have. Try to be clear up front.
So in my changing passwords and making sites non auto sign in I fucked up and couldn't get back in here. So for a little update I gathered a lot more evidence and even hired a PI who watched them sit in her car at the airport and makeout for 45 minutes. They have been "work" traveling together for months, even though they work in different divisions of the company. She knows I know about the affair but she has no idea about how much evidence I have and she won't admit to anything. Divorce is underway and she is being completely unreasonable and treating me like I'm the devil here. We're going straight to court over child custody and my attorney called her maintenance offer ridiculous so there is lots of fun ahead. PI got me the dude's wife's cellphone number. I decided the timing finally felt right and called her today. She didn't know about the affair but suspected something because he told her a few months ago he didn't want to be married anymore. She was very happy I called. She has been in limbo wondering what the hell happened and now it makes more sense. We are meeting Thursday so I can share my evidence with her. If I don't post after Thursday it's probably because I'm dead. And to top it all off the fucking guy is a Louisville grad\fan.
Idk how it works in Kentucky, or how solid what you have in evidence is,but be careful sharing what you have. In sc, you keep that shit under wraps until after the temporary hearing so they can't weasel out of making an admission or pleading the fifth.
Kentucky is a no-fault state. Couldn't the woman walk in with a whole crew of guys running train on her and it wouldn't matter?
Kentucky is your lawyer ok with you meeting the other dude's wife? I don't see how it helps you. You're going to war here, focus.
What's the legal theory behind a "no fault state"? Just seems lazy to be able to say "oh, one of them is working 60-hr weeks and the other keeps spending all the money on heroin and prostitutes? It's no ones fault!"
i practice in MS so not sure but usually marital fault is a factor in asseessing alimony and dividing the marital estate.
Ky is a "no fault" state so the affair is not relevant to our case. I've been sitting on my knowledge and proof of the affair for about 3 months. After seeing where my wife was going in our negotiations I felt like there is really nothing to lose on my end by telling the other wife. I've always felt she was in the dark and deserved to know so I went with it when my I felt the timing was right. This morning my attorney emails wanting me to call him about setting a conference date. I call and he starts laughing when he realizes it's me and says let me send you a couple of emails I got this am and you call me back. My wife's attorney has emailed him calling me an ass and saying we are threatening my wife's job acting like we are going to tell her employer what's up. I call the other wife and she says that's ridiculous that she is supposed to sit down with her husband in hopes he will talk about it. They have been in counseling and she hopes he will finally come clean and they can make an effort to salvage things. She says someone acting like she is being destructive is ridiculous. I try to coach her a bit about their conspiring against us and lying at every turn. Hopefully it helps. We are still planning to meet tomorrow and the husband will be in town as he gets back home today. I will keep my head on a swivel and if I see him I guess I'll just leave. It's not worth that much trouble at this point.
No fault generally means that you don't have to have grounds for divorce to get a divorce. In states where you do have to have grounds you have to prove adultery etc or else you can't even get a divorce. Even in cases where a divorce is consented to on grounds of irreconcilable differences, marital fault often comes in when doing balancing tests for alimony and dividing the marital estate. A brief search of the case law in Kentucky shows that while you generally don't consider marital fault in dividing marital estate, marital fault does sometimes come into the equation. Especially if your wife was using marital funds to purchase plane tickets, airfare, or anything. Brosick v. Brosic., 974 S.W.2d 498 (Ky. Ct. App. 1998): "Generally, fault of the parties is not to be considered in dividing martial property. KRS 403.190(1). However, a party may not spend marital assets or funds for non-marital purposes, and then expect to receive an equal share from the diminished marital estate. The “fault” considered is not blame for the dissolution of the marriage. Rather, the court will deem the wrongfully dissipated assets to have been received by the offending party prior to the distribution." *this is not legal advice and you should not take it as such. You should listen to your lawyer who actually practices in Kentucky.
In Georgia if adultery is proven or admitted, the offending party is denied alimony ( assuming it goes to court). However if you have sex after it is discovered they consider that foregivenes and it's worthless. They have a legal name for it. Fucked me.
This. That possibility of having her boss and hr in court to verify work and travel dates versus what she claimed would've been can be pretty scary. In ga there are a few loopholes that could be used to minimize that chance, but when a spouse claimed work travel like mine did, and then that info was used on tax returns, it can become a bigger problem.
Maybe they do? Just plan a trip to an alligator farm and take her to eat ribs before you do the zip line. Perfect crime.
No kids were involved in my divorce, but I can't emphasize the line above enough. That was a large error on my part that cost me a lot of money.
haven't had any good horror stories in here lately, please share if it will be in any way therapeutic for you
I can't even imagine how many water bottles I'd go through if I found out my wife was cheating on me. Louisiana would be so fucked.
She doesn't have your self interest in mind any more than your wife. Thinking you can "coach" her is a huge mistake. You should distance yourself from that situation ASAP. Focus on your divorce & what's best for your kids
which I hate. It is so easy to take advantage child support. Especially the high income dad, one night stand low income girl situations. So much abuse that is almost impossible to prove. The worst part is that it is the kid that is really suffering.