I know it feels like this, but it won’t happen. Let Mom do what makes her comfortable for now. It’s better for all of you to let her drive those decisions, IMO.
She's home all day. If it means she's up and down throughout the night checking the monitor for a week and therefore needs a nap in the afternoon, so be it.
Team straight to the crib. I am pretty militant about bed time in general. You spent a couple of hundred bucks on a baby monitor for a reason. Everyone is a shittier parent/spouse/employee when they don’t get enough sleep. Having the baby in the room is going cause both parties to disrupt each other’s sleep. It is not practical when they are first born but works as they gets a little older but I also think it is crazy for both parents to regularly get up with the baby at night. I took the late night shift and let the wife sleep and she would take the early morning shift. My wife was a much more pleasant person as soon as we got her six uninterrupted hours of sleep a night.
Wife and I have been rotating who is on night shift. She has been doing more nights then me since I am back at work. She goes back to work on the 19th so we have to rethink the schedule.
We did luck out that besides a few weeks she has stayed at home. It also worked out that I am a night person and she is a morning person. We were both much happier because we both got a pretty good block of uninterrupted sleep. One of my coworkers had a baby right around the same time. When the baby got up at night both parents and the mother in law would all get up. He was miserable.
No thank you. At first the baby was in the bassinet in the room and I was sleeping in there too. I wanted to be available just in case. In that first week the wife never asked for any help but with the baby crying and all the movement it was waking me up anyway. Had the talk with her that there was no point for us to both be exhausted and moved downstairs to the couch. Plus I was back at work almost immediately where she had 12 weeks of maternity. I think we moved her to her crib around 3 months. Getting her on a solid bed time/sleeping/napping routine has been so awesome. Makes for a much more pleasant life.
With our first kid, we tried having her in her bassinet in our room for 2 weeks. Would not sleep at all. Finally just said screw it and put her in her crib and never looked back. Our son has been in his crib since day 1. Little monster just turned 1 and we already are thinking about switching his crib to a bed as he is real close to crawling out.
It's a joint effort. It's not 100% one or the other in my house. Seeing as she isn't going back to work, her sleep schedule comes secondary to mine. She agrees. If you have no say in decisions in your house, I feel sorry for you.
Any dads in here dealt with acute childhood myositsis? My son has had this twice now and it's no fun.
Him admitting he's a cuck is embarrassing enough. I'm not going to pile on. I'll continue working out couple/family decisions with my wife like a normal husband does.
Also looks like we're probably going to have to go car shopping again as my wife was involved in a hit and run accident yesterday. Some jackwagon hit her and ran her off the road and didn't stop. It was pretty scary getting that call and I'm glad I decided to get my kids from daycare yesterday instead of her, otherwise the would have been with her. Fucking pisses me off as we currently have all vehicles paid off.
What exactly are you proving me wrong about? You're telling me I don't control decisions about my newborn. That's beyond idiotic. You may be a cuck that lets your wife run your house but my house doesn't work that way. My wife and I sit down and make decisions together. In this case, my sleep schedule is more important than hers bc she's a stay at home mom that can get a nap in the afternoon. If she gets up 2-3 times a night for a week to check the monitor or walk over to the nursery, it's not the end of the world. After a week, she'll get used to it and we'll be fine. Clown Baby boot up your thread, sir.
Holy fucking shit no one cares. This has been a good thread for advice, quit flinging feces everywhere unless it's your child doing so and you need help.
Wasn’t trolling at all. I just think it’s hilarious that dbl, in true dbl fashion, Boss Hogs his way around this thread and topic like he always does. My wife has given birth to two kids, and I have a million friends whose wives have given birth to their kids; I can’t imagine a single one of them telling their wives their sleep is more important because the wife stays home. And yes, while we co-parent our kids and we each have an equal say, it’s foolish to think an emotional and hormonal new Mom doesn’t get her way more times than not. That’s all I was saying.
I mean to be honest, I can't disagree with how dblplay1212 and his wife say they parent their kid, can you? (apparently you can) Just because he doesn't do it the same way as you, it's not possible for that to happen? What you are saying may be true in some cases, but I an assure you it's not the same in all cases. Anyways, my 2.5 yo is learning way too many bad things/sayings at her sitters house from another 3 yo there. I find it funny, but my wife told me not to laugh, I told her fuck you, I'll laugh if I want, it's my kid too.
I didn't say my sleep was more important than hers. I said my sleep SCHEDULE is more important than hers. She's home all day. She can nap in the afternoon when Gracie does. I'm at work. I don't have that option. Sorry, my wife doesn't just say "Sorry for your luck, deal with it. I'm keeping the baby here and I don't care if you get sleep or not." Apparently yours does. Sucks for you. You should have picked better.
Eh the wife and I had this discussion when I had to go back to work and she was staying home on maternity leave. We came to the decision that my sleep was more important than hers and that I should sleep on the couch. Feel like that's kind of a rational decision myself. She can grab naps to try and catch up on sleep, plus she can take care of the house a little easier sleep deprived than I can trying to run a business.
For those of you who have fretted about potty training, just know that whatever you did was better than this https://nypost.com/2018/02/08/disturbing-video-shows-parents-using-hot-sauce-to-potty-train-boy/
RiotJR went from the rock-n-play to the bassinet at 1 month when I went back to work and then to the crib at about 3 months when his mom went back to work. We didn’t start napping in the crib until 6 months. He was a shit napper in the boppy pillow and still has his days where he’s up after 30 minutes in the late morning and again after 30 minutes in the mid-afternoon. Mostly on weekends when we’re both here and he has our undivided attention. Somehow on the days my mom watches him she frequently gets two 1-1/2 to 2 hour naps out of him. I swear she’s drugging him. What age did you guys move to one long nap from two short ones? We’re thinking we might need to move to that schedule shortly.
Didn't see this tag until now. Just so you know, so everybody knows, my official dads of tmb thread is a judgment-free zone where fathers feel free to share whatever is on their minds. HTH
At an indoor pool/park with my family this weekend and for the last 30 minutes I have watched this one Dad cover one of the holes where water spits out like a fountain causing the other two to spray farther. Its like target practice. I find it pretty amusing but could never be that guy. Got some guy right in the face that had perfect hair.