this story was dangerously close to being cross-posted in the stupid shit your wife/girlfriend does but fortunately i was driving which could actually spawn its own thread: at what point are you obligated to participate in traditions/niceties that are inefficient/illogical/unnecessary? i feel like that shit is a slippery slope but sometimes it feels like #shotsfired.
If it’s my wife’s parents, I’m obligated to the Nth degree because it’s not worth dealing with the aftermath
i can see this being a natural progression of things. even the mature thing to do. i’m definitely not there yet though. ftr, while ms. larry would have taken that exit had she been behind the wheel, she relented pretty quick when i yaofaced
There’s been a trip to the ER. All is good. I can’t even tell how many times I’ve answered over the years: “what is your opinion of Hewlett-Packard? Mistakenly offered to everyone Prime Day deals. Just spent almost 2 hours comparing TCL vs Toshiba 43” TV deals with FIL only to end in “I need to actually see it in person but thanks” Can’t write more at the moment. Heading back to our third round of the seafood buffet. Found out this year that my 6 year old now costs $20. Basically each meal is $130 with a tip. Meaning I am about to spend $400 on crab legs this week. Oh and there was a cockroach the size of the rat in the room.
Not really sure why but my wife and I went to a Hilton Grand Vacation presentation and ended up buying in. I guess I’m the captain now.
What's Hilton's grand vacation? Is it their version of a time share? I'm a HHonors member and see emails with that on the title all the time, just never paid attention to it
Think he’s gotta whip his ass then whip out the platinum card to pay for things. That’s how you become the alpha dad
And in many years we will all be laughed at by our shithead son in law because that fucker doesn’t know how to start up a goddam lawnmower manually, we will be proud to show them how to do it but they won’t care because these little fuckers will probably know better and brag about it on the internet
Basically their time share club program. But it is almost all Club point driven and you aren’t locked to a week at a specific resort and can use anywhere. They throw a ton of extra incentive points to be used in the first 2 years (+ 9 months) which plays really well into our plans. Pm if you have questions. I travel a bit for work and almost exclusively stay at Hilton/Hampton inns and have Diamond status. Have a ton of points but we were trying to plan another trip to Disney and they were offering 40k points to sit through the presentation (90 minutes). Definitely was not planning on buying in but some recent events made us want to commit to more vacations. Definitely see this working to our benefit in the long run. It didn’t help that on the tour of their brand new condos I kept comparing to the place my FIL gets every year and pays $3k for 6 nights.
So are you paying for the MB condo from now on so you can overrule FIL? I bet that’ll piss him off to no end
Fucking boomers At least I know where my business is going would definitely be his rebuttal to all of this.
Speaking of vacationing with your wife's family, I've never felt more awkward in my life than when my in-laws got into a fight at a restaurant on our first night at the beach.
We left a day early. Flew home. Left at 12:30 and was in our house less than 5 hours later. They leave tomorrow for a 2 day drive split up. Just got a text at 9 pm that they just got seated for dinner. So happy to be home.
I meant door to door. Got to the airport an hour and a half early. Flight was about 1.5 hours in the air. We live right in between 3 smaller airports all about 1-1.25 hrs away. Harrisburg PA
I meant the years before... I would’ve pulled that shit way before. Fuck this shit. And I don’t even have kids, which my fil reminds me every single time I see him. But no way he runs anything about my life and I would let it slide a few times but if I had kids because they would help But they would never pull something like this
My FIL has berated my MIL in front of me multiple times. As someone who grew up in the Cleaver household and never saw my parents fight, it is always very uncomfortable and gross. My FIL has laid the groundwork for a pretty easy marriage for me (in some ways) because that’s who my wife has as a baseline. The last time he yelled at my MIL in front of me, my son accidentally knocked over a dark beer (mine) on their cream colored carpet. He did a great job getting it cleaned up, but there was a nasty exchange that went something like: FIL: Betsy, get the vacuum, some peroxide, water, and dish soap. My MIL comes back with the stuff about 60 seconds later. FIL: Goddammit, I need the shopvac from the garage, not this carpet vacuum. I have to do everything my goddamn self. What good are you aside from making sure this stain is soaking in? Your lack of common sense is just an albatross in any transaction. Go get the fucking shopvac now. Me, my kids, my wife are all standing there as this goes down. Twenty minutes later, my wife is crying, wants to leave, etc. This type of shit doesn’t happen all the time, but it’s enough that everyone is always walking on eggshells around the dude.
Jesus Christ - no way I’d be able to keep myself from popping off to him after a few too many some night.
That is abusive behavior, not acceptable at all. I would’ve lost my shit and went all Ronald savage on this dude Kidding aside, tough situation but it really is abusive. Nobody should ever get that type of verbal abuse. I also get that you can’t punch your fil in the face on the spot.
I’ve been talking to my wife for the last hour about her relationship with her dad. It’s all kinds of fucked up. - Her mom would go out of town and her dad would buy pizza and o’douls for the kids. They drank non-alcoholic beer to impress him at elementary school ages. - She has pretty bad asthma and was on a lot of steroids/medication growing up. She says she was a chunky kid and that her dad would tell her to skip meals because nobody likes big girls. - Her parents paid for her brothers college, but she had to take out student loans (that I’ve paid off). She was told by her father that her brother needed a college education more than her because men were heads of households and she would probably just be a housewife like her mother. This was 15 years ago, not the 1950s. - The reason she is so affectionate with our kids is because her father never told her that he loved her and she thinks a parent’s love should be expressed and unconditional every day.
Look at the big cry baby that has an affectionate wife with an eating disorder and daddy issues. Get in line pal!
Good Lord - I’d be coming up with every way imaginable to passive aggressively piss him off as much as possible when I was around him
jonbenetramsey , your MIL sounds like the kind of person who falls down lots of stairs and walks into lots of doors.