Recently found out my sister’s husband has Stage 4 Colon Cancer that has metastasized to his liver and lungs. The same thing killed my dad 12 years ago. I hurt so much for my sis and feel so bad because I can’t do anything to help except stand by and be there for when they need me. My dad got to see Kendall twice before he passed and never met Meatball :( This thread is for those who have gone or going through this
Have lost my father, mother, grandfather, uncle and aunt too early to cancer in the last 10 years. It sucks, it's ugly, and being there for your sister is the best thing you can do. I hope they don't have children yet. Having to explain what's going on to them is terrible... It sounds trite, but hang in there.
It's the worst thing going man. My mom had it when I was in hs and thankfully beat it. Every year or two she goes in for a check and occasionally we'll have a scare.. That shit hangs over you. It's crazy to me that we haven't figured it out yet. It hurts way too many people.
My father-in-law passed a few months ago due to a rare intestinal cancer. It grew so fast he went from looking fit and trim to looking 6 months pregnant in a little over a week. It's awful and sorry to hear about your BIL.
Mom survived stage 4 throat cancer(after having quit smoking 10+ years prior). Lost my dad to complications from liver cancer 12 years ago. Wife got her baby factory removed because she tested positive for the lady parts cancer gene that likes to kill women in her family in their 30s. It’s like science,
I've gotten lucky with cancer wrt my dad. He retired for the second time and within a month he had Bladder cancer (relatively basic cancer). Was near having to have it removed, but finally responded to surgeries and chemo washes. After 2.5 yrs or so he's been cancer free for about a year A super aggressive fungus in his brain. Don't even remember the name but it's like 80% fatal bc it's very hard to treat. He has diabetes too, and the treatment nearly destroyed his kidneys. Luckily survived after about 2 months in the hospital Non Hodgkin's Lymphoma. Then quickly got lymphoma. Took about a year but he's clear of that If feel like I've been absurdly lucky over the past 3 years. Hope everyone else can get some of that luck
I'm a 10 year pancreatic/liver cancer survivor in 6 days after two originally terminal diagnoses. I'm more lucky than I can describe, both to still be here and to have access to the kind of healthcare too many people don't. Only here b/c treatment discovered not long before my diagnosis. Both parents lost to cancer though - daughter never met my father (pisses me off every time I think about it). T's and P's for OP's family.
had a bad run in the late 2000s losing mom, granddad, and two aunts. Mom had surgery to remove most of her ovarian cancer. then 6 months of chemo got her cancer number from where it started in the 1000s down to double digits (I think was their form of measurement). Doctors, family, everyone assumed she was going in for one last treatment before remission. Came out that 1 step before the finish line the cancer up and got immune to chemo and multiplied substantially in the 2 week interim between treatments. so much worse than the initial news when you hear the only hope you had just left the fucking room. probably for the last 2 weeks she was alive up to ~2 months after she died I was borderline addicted to painkillers. real shit way to cope with it and lucky one day I snapped out of it and haven't taken any since. guess it gave off the impression to most of my friends that I was "dealing with it really well" but really was just zonked out daily trying to think about anything but that. bad scare with dad a few years ago but got lucky and found skin cancer early and cut a chunk of shoulder out to nip it in the bud. honestly had some pretty dark thoughts about what was left for me if his cancer went the same route as the family members before. girlfriend is a cervical cancer survivor from back in her late 20s. a month after we started dating they found breast cancer and it went into remission in January after 8 weeks of oral chemo. found a lump around her sternum last month and luckily it was a benign tumor. I get the feeling she thinks eventually some form of cancer is going to get her and makes her a hypochondriac... which normally those type of people I think are silly but not this time. It'd be impossible not to think that. stepmom's husband died of pancreatic cancer ~15 years ago. So our family of dad + 3 boys and her side of mom + 2 girls all are kind of on the same wavelength there. Honestly don't know if our family would "work" if only one side had experienced the loss that way. probably is the worst experience to go through in life on both sides... and there are some other real dark and depressing ways to go out there. especially if your first time seeing it happens to someone that's too young and is one of or the most important person in your life. watching someone like that go from happy and healthy to withered up and broken down mentally. shit will change who you are and all the "remember them how they would've wanted" is bullshit. nothing gets those images of the final stage or your last time seeing them out of your head. /deardiary. fuck cancer
currently have CML, and while it definitely sucks, i’m more lucky than i could ever imagine all things considered i had no idea what it really was when i was diagnosed, so i was pretty distraught. my dr caught it early because i had some blood work done and i had an elevated white blood cell count after dealing with chronic fatigue out of nowhere. while some of the symptoms suck, i really am just fucking lucky. treatment isn’t that bad and i’ll be fine lost my aunt to cancer and my grandpa currently has cancer fuck cancer
My dad passed away from lung cancer 5 weeks before my son was born. Our family photographer who’s turned into a good friend (early 30s) was given a terminal diagnosis from melanoma that spread through her body. She was told 3 years about 1.5 years ago. But I swear up and down to my wife that this person will beat it.
Lost my dad 5 years ago to throat/stomach cancer and I’ve Been battling leukemia for the last year and half...doing really good and feel super lucky. Cancer sucks balls, and is a devastating disease. Seems like it’s getting worse as the years are going on, I can say treatments have come a long way. A lot of cancer that were death sentences back in the day aren’t anymore.
Lost my sister and father last year to cancer, my grandmother 13 years ago. There isn’t anything in this world I hate more than cancer. My sister had “fuck cancer” tattooed to her arm before she passed. I agree with this thread
Both sides of my family are cancer clusters. Lost my dad, 2 uncle's and an aunt on my dad's side. My grandfather, and 2 uncle's on my moms side. Two plus years cancer free myself. I tell people all the time. It can happen to anybody. I had to have my bladder replaced and dropped 80 pounds (no chemo) but I never want to experience it again.
For mine they gave me a choice of replacement, an Indiana Pouch (a tube and would have to cath every time) or a bag. The only downside to replacement is your brain can't keep you from peeing at night so I have to wake up every three hours and pee on a schedule during the day so my bladder doesn't get too large.
Cancer is the elephant in the room at our house, wife is 4 years removed from breast cancer, 5 years from dfsp a rare sarcoma. Hopefully the advances in cancer treatment will keep your BIL around for many years.
The only reason I ordered the 23&me fancypants version during prime day was so I could check for any mutations/genes/etc to see if I'm predisposed for anything. You can still get the cheap one and then upload your raw genetic file to https://promethease.com/ for 5$. I think nowaways with all the genetic medicine and trials etc its not a bad idea. I was told by my internist just to use a fake name because they definitely sell that data. Can't wait to meet my clone. You can see stuff like this https://files.snpedia.com/reports/promethease_data/genome_Mike_Spear_pooled_ui2.html
Feel like this whenever the GF and me are watching a show/movie and a female character has breast cancer. Was actually relieved when she watched an episode of Dark with me and decided it wasn't for her (too scary). Started watching it around the time she got her last tumor and not going to spoiler the show but anyone that's watched knows how one character arc goes.
Update: He’s been through 5 rounds of treatment and doing good, so good he’s talked my sis into going to whatever concert he wants and all the fall hunting trips
We lost my wife’s mother to renal cancer, it really sucks she died before we were married, and I know it hurts my wife every day they were very close
You have the 'rhea the night before when you drink a gallon of colon-ade.* *My professional medical opinion
had my first last year. Drank chicken broth all day and starting getting drunk at 3pm. Midnight smoked some weed. HTH
Also mix the suprex or whatever it’s called with white grapefruit juice and it’s not that bad. Vaseline your b hole after every poop Do NOT use preparation H it fucking stings
Saw a stat, that 1 in 2 men will get cancer in their lifetime, and 1 in 3 women will. That is fucking insane. I've wondered, is it just better diagnosis, or is cancer becoming more prevalent? Guessing both.
Both, plus the educational push around awareness. A lot of people go through regular screenings now that probably never would have before.
I’m sure we will find out soon that something heavily used in our lives is carcinogenic in large doses. Microwaving plastic. Cell phones.
The amount of plastic in our lives, and in our bodies is pretty disturbing. I read that there is plastic basically in all water now. bottled water, ocean, lakes, if you take a sample you will find micro-plastics in all of it. And 94% of US tap water has plastic fibers. 94%.
Thought that said micro-penis at first but it’s not because I’m sensitive to the term or have one or anything.
My BIL’s brother came in to Ohio a month and a week ago to help build a deck for his dad. His dad has had some medical issues and isn’t getting around great and has a dog. They are building the deck so he doesn’t have to step down to let the dog out etc. The brother told my BIL his cancer came back and he is going to start chemotherapy again in a few weeks. Two Fridays ago his mom (they are separated but live two houses down, don’t ask) found by BILs father dead. The brother was traveling in Boston for work the week before he starts Chemo and won’t be able to travel. He stops in for a day over the weekend to get things in order at his dads place etc. Started Chemo last Wednesday. Dropped my BIL off at the airport Sunday so he can stay with his brother in Denver as he goes through it. He comes back Friday and his dads funeral is Saturday. TLDNR: My brother in law’s brother found out his cancer is back and his dad died within two weeks and he won’t be able to come to his dads funeral. My BILs brother found out his brother’s cancer is back, his dad died, and he’s going to Denver to be with his brother who is going through Chemo then flying home to bury his dad. tldnr2: fuck cancer
College roommate found out he had stage 4 colon cancer a year ago. 30 years old, wife child and about to close on their dream house. Went through treatment and is in remission. Wife and friends have surprised him with a trip to VT for homecoming. Pretty sure he hasn’t been back for a game in like 7 or 8 years. Real excited for this weekend.
Late this past spring, BIL started having sciatic pain down his left leg. Pain in lower back. Comes and goes. Advil, ice, Guinness, limps through it. Two weeks ago, neurosurgeon took what they could get of a "huge" tumor out of his pelvis that was intertwined in everything in there. He only went to doctor when he lost sensation front and rear and started having small accidents. ( I know, the "shit your pants at work" thread...) Tumors on one kidney, pancreas, and liver. Waiting for PET scan results this coming Monday. They aren't sure where it came from yet. He'll be 49 in December, daughter's a senior in HS this year. Shitshow just about begins to cover it...
Bowel Prep dose #1 was taken 40 minutes ago. I’ve been on the toilet the last 25 minutes...what have I done