All I’d like to say in this thread is there’s nothing worse than the 48 hours before my girlfriend’s parents come “visit”. Thanks for your ears.
Pretty much this. I’m all for picking up the house, vacuuming, wiping down the kitchen, all the basic stuff to make it look presentable. I think my GF’s parents (especially mom) were super opinionated or whatever when she was growing up (her mom’s annoying NOW), so my GF feels like anything not 100% right they will comment on. I drew the line and started making sarcastic comments, when after I had already carried/laid down 40 bags of new mulch in my backyard while she watched, she asked me if I could “rake the mulch in the front so it looks good”...this mulch was put down like 2 weeks ago
The comment I’m most proud of AKA that got her the most fired up was when I said “Hey you should pull your new car to the driveway so we don’t have to parade your parents and sister through the garage to see it....I don’t need to hear any comments about how much trash I have in my trash can or something”
Luckily the second these people arrive I’ll be “finishing up some stuff for work” in the other room, then going to my dad’s house to eat lunch for Father’s Day.
my in-laws wouldn’t visit us when we got engaged because we moved in together they had a literal melt down. like invoked the memory of dead grandparents to guilt trip my wife into making me move in with my parents and commute two hours to grad school/my internship. we were 27
evangelicals are wild. my wife still gets meandering text soliloquies from her dad that he won’t see us in heaven. (probably because trump-voting baptists go to hell)
Dang, my GF’s mom making me sleep on the couch when we visit them doesn’t seem so bad now. At least they allow my GF to live with me aka pay half of my mortgage.
I just can't imagine someone giving into their parents irrational schtick like that. I guess because I try to avoid dating religious women. Is this an outlier or common?
oh we told em to buzz off but they made life hell for my wife for a couple of months. they pulled out all the stops. imagine being bombarded with “your grandmother (rip) would be so disappointed in you” type texts for weeks. getting random ass bible verses. letters in the mail. honestly took a lot of restraint on my part to not tell em to fuck all the way off. they’re basically my wife’s only family on her side so i have to be mindful with what i say. fore those taking notes at home these are the heathens who think chili dogs are empty hotdog buns filled with chili. and they don’t recycle.
Is this a similar context to Hoss Bonaventure In that she continually “accidentally” walks in on you sleeping naked
Watching alone and someone killed an animal. She couldn't figure out what kind until they told us it was a porcupine. Her logical question: where are its porcies?
Update: Her parents spent about 10 total minutes inside my home today, so I’m glad all these chores were demanded before their arrival. Update to the update: She told her mom we “might” come visit (they’re like 2.5 hours away) for July 4th and her mom immediately asked if she should invite a bunch of other family members over that weekend. Let’s just say, I’m already laying the ground for excuses to not attend that shit. Hoping COVID-19 is the only excuse I need.
Re: Stupid shit your in laws do/did After we bought our house, but weren't yet married, the in laws dropped off an antique dry sink that had belonged to my now wife's recently deceased grandmother. Upon leaving, MIL says "There's something in the drawer for you." and walks out the door. Thinking that her mother has included a keepsake or family "treasure" from the old gal, we return to chores or making dinner, whatever. Later that evening LadyRes opens drawer to discover one of those church pamphlets about "Living in Sin" . I think the title may have been "The evils of cohabitation " or something like that. We stuck it on the fridge for more than a year, just for the kick of watching the old bat (MIL) shuffle around uncomfortably.
When i moved in with the wife (then-GF) my parents were the ones with the stick up their ass. Like they tried to talk us in to doing a quick courthouse wedding so that way it would be acceptable for us to live together. As luck would have it, less than a week after I told them about it, my car broke down in St. Louis and I had to ride all the way there and back from KC with my dad to tow it home. That was an excruciating day.
When I moved in with the now wife, my mother gave me the whole living in sin speech and how she would only approve of it if I intended to marry her. Told her I did, which was the truth. She never made a mention of it or acted upset about it again. Once she got over the initial shock, she was over it.
My in-laws are from Vietnam and it was a huge issue getting my now wife to move in with me before we were married. She eventually did about a couple months before the wedding, but she hid it from her parents. Was more of a cultural issue than religious though.
Luckily my future in-laws didn't care about us living together, they actually have made "jokes" about us giving them a grandkid ASAP. I say "joke" because I honestly think they just want a grandkid and dont care if its before we actually get married. I have a close buddy who's parents are religious nuts and wont support living together before marriage. His sister had to hide the fact she was living with her then BF before they got married. My buddy and his fiance have hid the fact that she has lived with him for much of the last 2 years from his parents too. Its just so strange to me.
My wife had a family member keep her apartment for a year before they got married for visibility that she had her own place. I think her parents knew but just never said anything. We waited until we were engaged and my wife used that as leverage saying she wouldn’t move in with me until we were engaged. So as to not spoil the surprise, I had to convince her I would just get the house for myself then. Which pissed her off but then I proposed three weeks later. My parents I’m sure cared but liked my wife so much didn’t say anything. Her parents didn’t care. We had to lie to our priest which I feel bad about, but there was nothing good that was going to come of that after we had already moved in and not going to budge but wanted to get married in the church. We also dated for 5 years through and after college.
My wife got a letter from her priest great uncle excommunicating her because we decided to have a fun wedding instead of a catholic wedding
Man I feel for some of you guys. My mom didn’t care. If her mom cared/cares, she hasn’t made it known, which would be surprising given how judgmental she can be.
Chose not to move in with my fiancé until we got married as I enjoyed living in a houseboat in a suburb instead of a BFE town with only a dollar general and krystal.
most of the catholic wedding receptions I went to as a kid in Louisiana involved the wedding party spraying champagne on the floor of the reception hall then sliding across the baptists with their 7-up/lime sherbet "punch" concoction threw the snooze receptions
the wedding itself is buttoned up and traditional at a catholic wedding, but the reception is a party with the booze flowing.
My in-laws would occasionally make comments to my now wife about us living in sin. They never said anything in front of me though. My FIL also asked her once if I was a Christian. She lied and said yes just to avoid the drama of the alternative. I think that satisfied them well enough because they haven't asked about it since.
Yeah they're hardcore. My MIL won't even eat a meal if she knows wine/alcohol was involved in the cooking. My parents are religious too but not near as fanatical about it.