My guess is it will subside within a few days. She likely wanted a girl but knows she shouldn’t say it aloud. By the time the baby comes she will only care it’s healthy. You can imagine or think a lot of things before but it’s a different thing when you’re holding your own baby
my wife really wanted a girl with our first. We now have two boys, and she couldn’t be happier with doing all the boy stuff. You can’t say it out loud, but it won’t matter in the long run.
Everyone is right re: it won’t matter in the long run, but I don’t see the big deal in letting her express disappointment about the gender. Pro tip...nothing with kids goes as planned so set those expectations low, bootstrap up, and try not to yell too much.
Give her time, when the boy comes she will love him unconditionally and she won't care about the gender once she lays eyes on him
I know. I'm not worried about long term. Just wanted to see if there was a way to cheer her up in the short term.
Prayer Request: About to be alone with the 3 week old for the first time ever. Momma gots to go to the doctor, gonna really be cutting the 3hr feeding window close. She pumped for the first time yesterday. I have milk, but he's never eaten from a bottle. God be with me
Currently in the hospital for induction. Was a 4 hr wait for our room due to a couple of emergencies One was a lady was 41 weeks pregnant. And she had yet to see a Dr her ENTIRE pregnancy. WTF Receptionist was pretty worked up about the whole thing
If ya'll are close with any Moms with young boys have her reach out and chat with them. Like what Celemo said they reiterated the same things to my wife that helped her. Obsessed with their boys, nothing like a mommas boy, wouldn't have it any other way etc.
It was actually pretty easy. I figured he'd fight the bottle and just be in a foul mood until Mrs WED got home.
5 yr old got bit on his knee by what I can only assume was a spider. He's spent the last 24 hours pushing himself around the house sitting in the back of his Tonka dump truck (he calls it his wheelchair) because it "hurts too much to walk." The visual is funny and he's in good spirits, but it's sad because the bite and area around it are pretty sensitive and swollen, so I know it hurts to the touch. Bribed him with some Doritos to give walking a try again after I tricked him in putting weight on the leg by pushing my resisting hand away with his foot.
After being induced at 3:30 on Monday, little killerwvu was born at 3:01am this morning via C-section Was quite scary. He couldn't breathe at first but is doing fine now. Just got moved out of recovery as wife had a fever and an infection.
when your youngest is old enough to enjoy more mature content Meatball (12) is now watching Umbrella Academy with me & Kendall and it's been great
A few have already said as much but let her acknowledge her disappointment. It's normal. My wife was sad after we found out we were having a second boy. We acknowledged it and allowed her time to feel that and move on. I just tried to listen and validate her feelings, that's really all she needed. It's almost as if she had to grieve a bit. Wasn't an issue after that, certainly wasn't after he was born
Grieving is a good way to put it. It's okay to mourn the son/daughter you wanted. It's incredibly normal. Her issues are probably compounded by her guilt of having those feelings in the first place. Best thing you can do is try to alleviate that guilt.
our second has been easier for the most part other than a few hospital trips when the first one never got sick until she was 3
Come home from work. And my girls 2 year old has thrown half of his hot wheels over the pool fence into the pool.
So my mother and sister in law came down last week. For a back story my mil has always had a yorkie in a side satchel thing at her hip. Everywhere. Just walks around with this dog there. Well they come down and just take turns walking around everywhere with our son in his carrier. They did it the first time they came down and it took over a week before he was back to being ok with being just sat down. So they left yesterday and he’s a terror. Can’t be set down at all without a fit. My wife is upset and I tell her it’s her goddamn family’s fault and now I’m the bad guy.
We left my oldest son (3.5) at my Moms for 3 days after spending the weekend over there. Of course he had a blast over there. But it was shocking how easy it was dealing with just my youngest by herself. It was a vacation.
My second child is a nightmare and won’t sleep for more than an hour at a time. Thanks for coming to my ted talk.
Not the kid itself, imo, but dealing with the marriage struggles that go along with a kid. Mothers to young babies arent fun at all, and you just got used to having a cool wife again. Bam, 2nd child, fun over.
That isn’t it for us. We have a 3rd and he is the easiest baby. It’s the 2 year old middle child with massive amounts of determination and the desire to do everything her older brother does that is hard.
Anyone ever put their dick in a breast pump thingy? Not that I’m going to but someone has to have done it right?
Posted the below about the snoo. #2 was sleeping like absolute shit so in a desperation move we rented a snoo as both of us were losing our sanity. We’re going on night #3 and it has been amazing. Even if it stops working after a month, it was well worth the $120. Where Eagles Dare not sure if you’re still having issues but it is worth a shot imho.
Well he didn't sleep from like 4am until 6am. Just awake. Luckily my wife can do most of it since she's on maternity....byt damn this better be right in 2 months
four hour chunks at one month is pretty normal/good. hard to gauge how a baby sleeps until they are a few months old.
Yeah, I'm not too worried yet. Its like every 3 nights he decides to wake up and stay up. The others are usually good
Need the Dad's thoughts. Possibly taking a 2 month old to the beach for a week?? Is it pointless and a waste of money? I'm remote and towards the end of my wifes maternity leave we're kicking around the idea of getting a house on the Gulf Coast or somewhere on the east coast (4-5hrs from Atlanta). Is this pointless? I worry about getting down there and we really can't do anything. I'll work during the day, but I can't imagine my wife can get out much more than 30 minutes at a time in the sun...unless she goes out solo when the baby is sleeping. Fell like it might be nice to be at the beach and have some chill time, but then a good chance we just waste 2 grand....and it's not like our lives our hectic in Atlanta right now