Thought about putting it in the stupid shit thread, but as it’s around the holidays, my wife’s lunacy will go here. My mom sent out their Christmas card that contains a large main picture, as well 4 other smaller pictures. In the main photo part of our oldest (2) daughters head is cropped out and the the twins (8 months old at the time) “aren’t looking at the camera and one is crying”. My wife of course thinks my mother purposely chose this picture because it made my sisters kids (4&6) look better. She’s mentioned it daily for over a week. Pumped to go to my parents for 4 days over Christmas!
speaking of Christmas cards...are my in-laws talkin’ shit? wife and I are godless heathens and it’s a BIG DEAL
My wife wants to do Christmas cards bc we have a kid now. I fucking loathe Christmas cards. I don’t know how to win this argument.
they’re something else. they pass a story of christmas book around the dinner table during the big meal and everyone has to read a page. it’s just the four of us. last year mil asked me if could take it seriously i’m tryna tear into this well-done prime rib and don’t give a fuck about the Magi, WOMAN
You let her do the Christmas card. I’m very anti Christmas card as well but my wife enjoys making it so i just let her do what she wants. Plus, she generally uses a picture of just our son because that’s all anyone wants to see anyway.
What about a Family Christmas meme? Switch up on them. Maybe something like this but with your faces in it...
I found out yesterday that family Christmas Lunch is going to consist of finger foods and light stuff. I was of course bewildered by this since normally we have a pretty great Thanksgiving style meal. The reason for the change is that we are doing it by my cousin's house and they are having a big breakfast while the kids open gifts so a heavy lunch won't do. I mean, ok, but that sounds like something that's not my problem. It's Christmas and I'm hungry and looking to out. At least I actually like most of my family and this thread has made me realize I at least have that going for me while I eat some insane amount of hors d'oeuvres.
Probably, although I haven't been asked to come. It's basically mostly immediate family there watching the kids open gifts. I'm not bent out of shape about the lunch or anything and I get it. Just a little selfishly disappointed that I won't get to fill my plate with ham, turkey, stuffing and gravy.
Why would you agree to host Christmas and then not put out a Christmas dinner. This cousin would be banned from hosting by my family.
They won't learn that I'm the second most selfish person in the family (a different cousin has #1 locked up) because I'm just gonna show up and eat my pigs in a blanket like normal adult.
Driving the 3 hours to my parents house tomorrow for 3 nights. Wife is currently lining up all the stuff that we need to take. It’s easily double the capacity of the van. I’ll report back on the shit show this creates as all of it is stuff that we “need”.
My parents are the type to “buy affection” although there’s no need, but they like to spoil the grandkids I guess. My mom suggested that there be a separate time for our kids to open up the present from them so my kids would know which came from their grandparents. Little materialistic things like that tend to irritate me about Christmas
That would annoy the shit outta me You want a separate time to open your presents, you had probably plan on showing up a day after Christmas
I 100% believe my MIL would do this. All she has is the guilt trips she gives my wife and I about how selfish we are for deciding to not have kids.
My father in law insists on handing out presents and the kids opening them one at a time on Christmas Eve. I don't think it's a showy thing as much as he enjoys the looks on their faces more than anything in the world. He also buys them really great stuff. I have learned to appreciate it and it no longer bothers me at all.
This is really it, they put their efforts on it and want to see the happiness. But there is also a little bit of selfishness and competition in it. Can’t change human beings
Because if all they wanted to see was there grandkids being happy receiving gifts they would not do this..what they want is to see their grandkids being happy receiving the gifts THEY gave .
The people that think that way crack me up. How is it selfish? Because I won't do something someone else wants me to do I'm the selfish one? I want kids but it's just so condescending to expect everyone to want such a life changing thing.
This is the way my family did it my whole life growing up We exchanged family gifts on xmas eve, and opened one at a time It was tedious, but it's just the way it was Then Santa gifts on Christmas morning were never wrapped My wifes family is like the wild west free for all, all gifts are wrapped and opened on Christmas morning all at the same time, like 10 people just ripping into shit I literally have a hard time determining if people even got the gifts I bought for them
The second part is my family, kids all over the place raising hell and opening gifts. They probably just take home whatever they have in hand at the end of the night.