23 and me - DNA says he is my half brother

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  1. Soup

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    If someone wanted my dna I imagine they’d be able to get it in a number of ways.
     
  2. Frank Martin

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    :gfa:
     
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  3. comrade static

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    In a singular sense, of course. But it’s much more likely someone would prefer to acquire thousands of people’s info at once.

    Again, I’m probably too paranoid about this; however, it is a concern of mine.
     
  4. Frank Martin

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    What are they going to do, clone you?
     
  5. Damion

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    They would just be getting data on your dna wtf could they really do with that?
     
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  6. Frank Martin

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    Send a fuck ton of cilantro to my house because I have a heightened cilantro aversion.

    Jokes on them, I love cilantro.
     
  7. comrade static

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    If they were smart, yeah. Would improve society.
     
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  8. comrade static

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    At some point, sell it to insurance companies, among other things. Who knows what the hell health insurance is going to look like in 5 years
     
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  9. Imurhuckleberry

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    I suspect insurance companies would pay alot for that info
     
  10. One Two

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    This is the big "what if" with DNA testing technology. A lot of questions around insurance companies denying coverage or boosting premiums if they ever started to get DNA information
     
  11. matistic

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    So here’s all I can figure out so far. I had a DNA match on Ancesty that is a closer match to me than my sisters son.

    Very little info on his ancestry profile other than a link to a small tree labeled with three initials.

    We got mom to tell us that long ago dad got a letter from some woman in Oklahoma with a picture of a child. All she said was he kept the picture in his wallet for a while. Dad was a military lifer who was stationed in Oklahoma a time or two but he died years ago so we can’t ask him.

    When I google this matches name I find a guy in Oklahoma that’s a couple years older than my oldest sister, and he’s married to a woman with the same initials as the ancesty tree linked to his profile so I’m pretty sure it’s him. But I can’t find much of anything else online, doesn’t seem to have a presence.

    Wish he would respond, but nothing so far.
     
  12. 941Gator

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    where are you finding him via google? Fb?
     
  13. matistic

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    Can’t find a clear match on Facebook. His marriage record is all I’ve come across, just searching his name and Oklahoma via google. His wife’s initials were the only way I could more or less confirm it was the same guy.
     
  14. 941Gator

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    it sounds like you have enough info to find his house address. let's write him a letter and drip your blood on it for dramatic effect.
     
  15. Pile Driving Miss Daisy

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    It's amazing how many of y'all have discovered half-siblings through this.
     
  16. TC

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    I have a lot of concerns about this. I was filled with trepidation as I dropped the tube into the mail
     
  17. allothersnsused

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    My grandmother who, as a child, fled Austria and the Holocaust (her family was Jewish) pretty quickly dismissed the idea of doing one of these things after my mom and some of her brothers did it. Can't say I blame her, having had that experience.
     
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    At the end of the day, what can they benefit from that info? I did 23 and me and gave it to my family last Christmas. We've enjoyed the info and had a lot of discussions about things it could lead to in the future. Unless you have a DNA issue with a crime then I don't think it can be used against you. I look forward to my impending macular degeneration too.

    I still think if everyone did it (I know that will never happen) it would eliminate a ton of prejudice in this world. A lot of people I talk to who have also done it are surprised by at least parts of their ancestry. Imagine that face when David Duke finds out he is 2% sub saharan african.
     
  19. TC

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    Idk, what if advertisers use it to like make ads you're genetically predisposed to find irresistible or something
     
  20. Arkadin

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    The data is crazy valuable for things like this and medical purposes. They're going to make an incredible amount of money off of it
     
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  21. TC

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    They are probably making a strategy guide that shows everyone's weak point like bosses on a video game
     
  22. adephoi

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    Welp - there's adephoi - send in the hookers and bourbon and he'll do anything you ask. Great.
     
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    My genetic muscle composition is common in elite power athletes. At this time, I’d like to express my intent to return to football in the goal of playing in the NFL.
     
  24. Tobias

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    the nba will probably see my genetics and immediately sign me to a 2 way contract. that's my cross to bear tho
     
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  25. Gambler

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    How many people in your family need to send in samples for you to know who is the result extra activity? Seems like the guilty party wouldn't want to participate in this.
     
  26. adephoi

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    I did 23 and me so not sure how ancestry.com works. It just gives you a percentage of dna match. So my kids are about 50% and it had me confirm our relationship. An uncle was about 20% and we both confirmed the link. I think it builds off of that. I have over 1000 dna relatives but most are "likely" 2nd, 3rd, 4th cousins - less than 5% dna match. I'm sure it will get much more accurate over time. A coworker found her sister who she did not know about. This situation ended up really positive for all involved but I see how it could cause a lot of problems.
     
  27. Dudley Dawson2

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    My dad was adopted. My brother did both 23 and me and the ancestry thing for shits and giggles. Turns out that my dad's birth parents are likely from southern Alabama or Louisiana.

    Where is the SEC thread?
     
  28. 941Gator

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    i understand getting your ethnic make-up, but how did you get a State? Or is Bama a new strain of DNA?
     
  29. TC

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    Mine did college affiliations. Said I likely had 2 Clemson fans in my bloodlines. Also possibly pissed dirty for ostarine
     
  30. Dudley Dawson2

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    Lol. Yeah. My brother got multiple emails from people matching to his profile. All of them from the same area.

    My brother freaked out when one girl from southern Bama was like...”I’m pretty sure I know who your grandparents are.”
     
  31. 941Gator

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    That’s awesome. Keep us updated
     
  32. Dudley Dawson2

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    Yeah. My brother put the brakes on it a bit.

    The lady was like, I’ll fly up and meet him. DNA seems to match up with this lady most likely being my father’s younger sister.

    Her mother, my fathers birth mother is purportedly still alive as she was only 17 when she gave birth to my father which would put her at 87.

    My father doesn’t care. Said he buried his mother last year (my grandmother passed last year) but is slightly more intrigued about meeting a sister (he was an adopted, only child).

    Nothing planned yet. It’s a lot to take in.
     
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  33. texasraider

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    I can probably get you a phone number and email address if you want to DM me the info you have
     
  34. Bruce Bowen

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    I think it's cool and all but like comrade static I'm a bit sketched out by it. Imurhuckleberry mentioned insurance companies would love to get their hands on it. It reminds of the same argument when people found out the NSA had access to basically anything they've ever done online and a lot of people's reactions were "what's it matter I'm not doing anything illegal." It's a privacy thing and I have no doubt that now and even more so in the future this kind of data will be insanely valuable. Probably a bit tinfoil-haty but :idk:
     
  35. 941Gator

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    He doesn’t want to meet husband birth mom? He has nothing to lose. What did he say when you first told him?
     
  36. matistic

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    Appreciate it, but I already found a home address and phone number and voter registration info. Just not going to push myself on the guy like that though. If he wants to respond he's got a couple messages from me already. Until then, mostly I want to find a picture of him to see the resemblance.

    Think I'll search on his wife's info to see if she's got a Facebook page.
     
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  37. texasraider

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    Totally get it. It’s a weird position to be in. Hope it all works out for the best
     
  38. Dudley Dawson2

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    He’s been indifferent his whole life. His adopted parents were his parents and that’s it to him. Never once tried or cared to find out who his birth parents were. My brother told him about it and he just shrugged. Didn’t care at all.
     
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  39. 941Gator

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    interesting dilemma for you.....as you may want to know your actual grandparents.
     
  40. Shawn Hunter

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  41. Damion

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    I got a half brother out there somewhere.

    My dad was stationed in Norfolk for awhile when he was in the Navy and knocked up his girlfriend. He was then shipped out and I guess she found someone else because he got a letter saying she gave birth to a boy and that she was leaving Norfolk.

    He never talked about it and Im not really sure if he ever tried to find her and the kid but this was back in the mid 60s so it was a lot easier to just disappear. Only really know about it from the little bit my mom told me and my sisters. Oldest sister tried finding him after my dad passed 11 years ago with no real luck
     
  42. Frank Martin

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    You guys are lucky. My closest match is like 2.5%
     
  43. Imurhuckleberry

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    Good news! After seeing the updates I logged into the 23&me and I am now 0.1% East Asian. The girlfriend's parents will be so pleased that she ended up with a fellow Asian.

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  44. Shawn Hunter

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    Which is the go to of these DNA kits/sites, 23 and me?
     
  45. Imurhuckleberry

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    Seems like for health it's 23&me. For finding out when your ancestors came to the USA it's ancestry.
     
  46. TC

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    Not Helix. That's the one I did and it doesn't seem nearly as cool as these ones people are posting :ohdear:
     
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    From reddit:

    We've all been seeing the recent craze of DNA testing and whatnot, so my dad and I decided to jump in the bandwagon and we bought 2 from 23andme. We got our results back a few days ago and I went into the DNA relatives section to check out my matches. At the top it listed my dad as only sharing 29.2% DNA with me and being predicted to be a half-brother, which is impossible. This didn't make sense to me since we also shared a paternal haplogroup and we just look so alike, so he was definitely my father. My cousin also had taken the test a while back and she shared 24.6% with me, also predicted to be my half-sibling. We're supposed to share around 12%, being 1st cousins.

    I couldn't think of a genetic relationship that would explain what I was seeing and I had doubts in the accuracy of the percentages, so I made this post on r/23andme, asking for help. Basically, the shared percentages are extremely accurate and highly unlikely to be false. The only realistic explanation for what I was seeing was that my uncle, my cousin's father and my dad's brother, is my father. Reality hit me in the face like a flying bag of bricks. All the dots lined up and I felt a sense of loss. I sat in my room for an hour just in shock and then I had a feeling of anger come over me. I needed some fucking answers.

    Without even thinking, I rushed out of my room and confronted my mother downstairs. My mom is a business women and is often away on business trips. She had no idea my dad and I had done one of these tests since she was away on a trip and just got back. My mother and I never had a 'traditional' relationship. She was always focused on her work and my dad ended up mostly raising me.

    My irrational self didn't even sugar coat it. I asked her if she cheated on dad with Uncle David (name changed for obv reasons). I have never seen the color drain from someone's face so quickly. She looked dumbfounded and then mumbled "What kind of question is this? Of course not." I told her everything; the test, percentages, DNA matches, ALL OF IT!! Shit hit the fan. My mom fell to the ground crying, begging me not to tell dad.

    I left her there and went back into my room. I called my cousin (now half sibling) and told her everything. She ended the call screaming. Dad (now uncle) then came home and stumbled into my room asking what's wrong with mom. I told him everything too. He didn't say anything after calming down. He left the room and I locked the door.

    The for the next few hours, I heard my entire family fall apart outside my door. My parents got into a heated argument and my grandparents rushed over to see what was going on. My aunt in law and David showed up shortly later and I'm pretty sure I heard my Dad and David get into some physical fight. Utter chaos.

    I feel like fucking shit. Ik it's not my fault but I can't help feeling that this is all because of me. If I had spent my fucking birthday money on something else, none of this would have happened, but another part of me is glad to know the truth. I'm too scared to go outside. I don't even know what the outcome was. The only noise I hear in the house now is the occasional sobbing coming from my mother, and I sure my dad is out of the house. Fuck my life

    TLDR; Mom and uncle, both having spouses of their own, fucked, made me, and proceed to not tell anyone. I take a DNA test 19 year later and it all comes crashing down. I've locked myself in my room and I'm pretty sure my family has ceased to exist outside
     
  49. Boo MFer!

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    Congrats on your Uncle Dad.
     
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    Crazy man. That’s tough, sorry. If it makes you feel any better I’d rather know the truth if it were me.
     
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