So while you guys are sneaking a jerk to internet porn hoping your repressed wife/gf doesnt catch you, we'll be looking for the next couple to have fun with.
I wonder if there are actual people that DON'T crash and burn after starting swinging, or whether they are unicorns.
100%, but those people aren't actually in love, they're just in a partnership. Real love includes extreme jealousy, wanting to murder that person, possessiveness, caring, and dependency. pm me for more details.
A buddy of mine scores weed from some swingers. I guess they’ve been together for years, have kids together. I think my buddy said one of their teen boys walked in while a bunch of dudes were gang banging the kids mom. I guess she’s got some big ole fake titties and is halfway decent looking. The guy probably grows 100lbs of weed a year in his green house.
pretty well known upper-middle neighborhood here has a swinger community. coworker (not a swinger) used to live there with his fam and said everyone knows. i'm sure plenty of those marriages go on afterwards. probably plenty that have that vince vaughan / reese witherspoon 4 Christmases type relationship too.
Recently discovered that a dude I grew up with is in an open marriage. Both travel all the time and are ultra successful type A. Both are on tinder to get rocks off. I get the feeling that they don't really like each other that much though and it's more about not getting divorced (catholic) than being open to sharing. Definitely weird vibes around them
Many religious folks care far more about what other people think than any kind of internal moral compass, in my bible belt experience
I think it's more about the stigma. They've acquiesced to the act, they just want to keep it private. That's more human nature than it is a product of religion. Plenty of non-religious people avoid divorce despite having an "open relationship."
There's a decent community of that here, too. I always thought it was bullshit (and still believe it's exaggerated), but I have recently learned on good authority that it is in fact a thing. It's largely people who got married at 22 to the first person they seriously dated. A lot of Aubs involved.
Public persona is important to a lot of people. Divorce looks bad, and people don't expect to get caught. As bizarre as the concept is to me, I think a mutual understanding is a lot better than just straight cheating.
No doubt on the mutual understanding thing, but I don’t know if it’s always necessarily about how things look. Obviously divorce is a needed out in a terrible situation, but if you have a kid, the concept that your family can just stop being a family because mommy and daddy don’t like each other can fuck them up. I get staying together in order to raise a kid until they’re grown.
I’ve actually heard the same thing from some people in their mid to late 40s that are pretty well connected in that community.
I heard this urban legend also. Only here it's on Lake Oswego and people park their boats and come in for a good time lol
I only know of one swinger couple here and I'm sure wes tegg is aware of and talking about the same people. The female is the older sister of a childhood friend of mine and became much more attractive in her mid to late 20s than she ever was before. Husband is the guy she dated through high school and college. They started swinging a few years back and last I heard the guy didn't want to do it anymore. There was a story about her leaving the popular local bar with someone that clearly wasn't on the approved list because allegedly the husband followed her Uber to the stranger's house and went inside and punched the other guy. wes tegg can likely provide more detail. That's the only swinger couple I'm aware of but I'm sure there are plenty more. The local grocery story has been rumored to be a spot to pick up other swingers with the upside down pineapple in the grocery cart sign.
There's a rumor around Gotham about a couple that my wife and I are friends with that are swingers. Never could confirm said rumor tho
I think that stopped a few decades ago, but was a thing in circle C back in the days. He mentioned some other sign type deal for your home/yard that was their thing in the early 2000s but can’t remember what it was exactly this convo happened 3-4 years ago. Nowadays there’s supposed to be a private group on Facebook that just lists when/where the house parties are.
Random - wife came home from girls night dinner a couple of weeks ago talking about the MB swinger scene. Pretty sure they were talking about some of the same people (although I’m outside the MB social circles). Must be an uptick in activity lately.
My thought to with the pineapples. Every time I’m driving around a neighborhood or in a grocery store I always have to se if there are pineapples anywhere as that’s the universal sign.
That’s what I hear but I’m not as plugged into Madison as I used to be. I have taken drives through reunion to see if I could find any pineapples on the door steps. For research purposes of course.
Every person I've met that's actually in an open relationship is not nearly attractive as Hollywood has lead me to believe.
I’m not either now that I live in FL. Grew up in Clinton and lived in Madison after college. I’ve heard some great stories about reunion.
Hanging out in the grocery store wearing a 70s porn mustache and accompanying clothing with a cart full of upside down pineapples would be pretty hilarious.
My next door neighbors have pineapple pillows on their front porch furniture. Might need to keep a closer eye on their back yard get togethers.
The whole upside pineapple thing smacks of bullshit. It reminds me of the girls who gave up the butt to keep the virginity intact.