Did you cohabitate with your significant other prior to getting married?

Lived together for three years before marrying in 1995. Her parents were OK with it, but her grandparents wouldn't talk to her for two years because of the whole getting milk without buying the cow thing

 

I do 90% of my TV watching on my iPad.

 

This is what happens when the Electric Slide isn't played

 

I had lived in the same three bedroom place for three years, but just one roommate. In year four, my roommate moved out. My wife and another girl moved in.

Technically, my wife had her own room.

 

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My wife and I lived together in a 2 BR condo we rented from her parents for about 3 years before we got married. What made things real interesting is when her parents moved in with us in the spare BR for about a year, 6 months after we started living together.

 

never stayed over? Had they ever gone on vacation together?

 

Had never stayed the night together - wtf?

 

Lol imagine letting a fictional book stop you from living with someone before making an enormous life decision like getting married.

 

buy_dont_lease

 

Never moving in with someone before marriage I'm aware is a thing.

Never spending a night together?????

That's next level.

 

I knew a couple that had their first kiss after saying I do. They got divorced and she came out a couple years later

 

my in-laws lost their minds when my wife and i moved in together prior to getting married. at that point we were 27 and had dated for like six years. fucking freaks.

 

When my gf and I moved into our first apartment together her mom was taking all my clothes to the guest bedroom lol.

 

It's not all that uncommon in very religious area. It's less common than it used to be but some people my age did it. It's insane, but you know, sin and he'll and fear and what not.

 

The youth pastor at the church I went to growing up and his wife didn't kiss until marriage. They are still together, have a few kids and seem happy. But I never could understand how the fuck one does that.

 

My mom refuses to talk with my cousins who lived together with their eventual spouse before getting married.

 

you have to explain yourself on this dumb post

 

My aunt gives me hell about not being married and living with my gf every time I talk to her. Her son lives with his ex wife and says he’s only remarrying her if she can get pregnant.

 

in-laws’ solution was me moving in w my parents and commuting 2.5 hours daily to get to work/school. instead of moving into the house my fiancé owned. lmao fuck off nerds

 

When is Miss red moving in?

 

Unless her marriage ends(which we don't want and would end this if it started to strain their marriage) probably never

 

GF and I lived together in college for 3 years. Each had the same goals and were studying the same thing. Her study habits motivated me. We got married right after graduation and we’ve been married 22 years this past Friday.

 

Pretty sure every girl I dated in college effectively moved into my place within like maybe a week of us being exclusive

 

Yes, you're the catch in this relationship

 

My now-wife did this almost instantly. We were planning to move in together in the fall after we graduated. Her college lease was up at the start of summer and mine was the end of summer so she planned to move home for the summer until our apartment together was ready. That lasted a few days before she moved in to my college house. In exchange for paying rent, she cooked and cleaned for my roommates and me. Not sure how she put up with us, but it worked out well.

 

yeah but in NYC you move in after two dates because rent is so expensive

 

I’ve seen some pornos with a similar premise

 

agreed!

 

Grew up with someone who got married in college solely because they wanted to fuck and wouldn't pre-marriage. Didn't live together either. She is on at least marriage #2

 

Lived with two serious girlfriends and it helped me realize it wasn't going to work. Also lived with my wife before we got married and we bought a house together while we were engaged.

 

What’s that supposed to mean? Different strokes for different folks. I wasn’t even Catholic until I got engaged. It was more of my wife’s decision and living with her parents after law school allowed her to bank some good money.

 

We bought a house together and had our 2 kids prior to getting married.

 

My parents were pissed when we did it and asked us to go to the courthouse and get married to make it OK. Obviously refused but it made things weird. Even on family vacations after moving in we had separate hotel rooms and such.

My little sister did the same thing a few years later and NBD then. Really pissed me off.

 

Yeah that sucks man. Sorry to hear that.

 

Not only did we cohabitate but I also got to pay rent on an empty apartment for a couple years because of the religious in-laws. Lucky me.

 

Another fun one was after dating for 3 or 4 months we went out for her birthday and her dad drove us back to her place and I was adamant I'd sleep on the couch. He took us back to the car the next day too.

Religion is dumb.

 

Yeah my parents tried to get me to live in the basement of a family friend instead of shacking up with my then fiancee. Then when little brother moved in with their gf a couple years later, it's whatever

 

Wife and I lived in the same apartment for half a year before we even got together. We just picked her room when we started dating. My parents weren't fond of it when we got our own apartment the next year, but they dealt with it.

 

I think it's insane not to. At bare minimum spend an extensive amount of time staying over at their place or them at your place if you don't want to deal with the whole moving into another home thing. You don't know what a person is really like until you share a living space.

 

I think it's mostly that you have the personality and sensibilities of an 85 year old man

 

These stories are also funny because on some level the parents have to know that you're already spending nights together anyway. So what's the difference

 

Not even close to the same between living together and staying at someone’s place for the weekends or whatever.