This. I actually met my wife at work and we were basically spending 24 hours a day together from day 1. And when we both individually moved from Lawrence to KC, we commuted together. I sure as shit wasn't driving over to her place every morning to pick her up.
I was going to say because he’s a fucking weirdo who thinks being super conservative is edgy and cool, but we’ll go with what you said.
No, but we spent many weekends and nights together, so enough to get a feel for what the other was like as a housemate. We were getting our house built during the whole engagement and each had apartment leases that didn't end until just before then, so it just worked out that way. I will say it was pretty cool to have the first night for either of us in our new house be our wedding night.
Wife and I moved in together about 4 or 5 months in. I had already been looking to buy a house, and her lease was coming up so I just said move in with me. Was all good until about 3 years later when she started getting antsy about not being married
Moved in together after like a year, eventually bought a house and had a kid then got married. Our son really is what made my parents/grandparents stop caring. They just want to be around him. Pro Tip: have a kid so the old fucks will shut up
I think both of our parents would have cared more but we both made it pretty clear that we didn't give a fuck what they thought and they could get on board or fuck off
I think my dad was just happy to find out I was getting serious with a female, after my sister who is 3 years older than I and had already been married and divorced twice and was working on her 3rd marriage that ended several years ago now
feels like 90% of it revolves around the parents being worried they’ll be judged by their friends/other family members.
Now MIL hid a church pamphlet "The Dangers of Cohabitation " in a piece of furniture she brought us to the house we bought prior to being married. Passive aggressive af.
We started dating when I was a 1L and she was a senior in college. She stayed at my place 4-5 nights a week. It was essentially living together. She then went to PA school in Birmingham so we only saw each other one weekend a month for 2 and a 1/2 years. She was still finishing up school when we got married. Never actually lived together until 3 months after our wedding.
Another quick story about my reasonable family and her religious one. A few months into dating my parents convinced her to go to the Neb spring game with them. I didn’t even think of the hotel but we get up to Lincoln Friday night, go eat, get to the hotel, 2 rooms, dad hands me a key “alright, you kids have fun. We’ll call in the morning.” (We were college aged). Luckily the bed was against the wall opposite their room. Flash forward 3 or 4 years, we’ve been living together for a couple years (clear to everyone but her family), we’re engaged, we go to Indianapolis with her family because her little sister won an award. Get there Friday night, go eat, get to the hotel, 2 rooms, her mom hands me a key “alright here’s the key for the boys room, we need to be ready by 7 tomorrow.” An entire weekend in a room alone with her dad who hated me.
No… Happily married for 3 years now and just had our first daughter. I got lucky. I’d probably advise anybody younger say 30 to move in though. My biggest thing was waiting until I was for sure ready and knew what I wanted in a spouse. I knew her for a while and the type of girl she was before. Didn’t need to live with her 1st.
Of course. She moved into my place after about 3 months, and we lived together for over 2 years before getting married. Been married almost 4 years now.
I will say this and it might be unique to my situation. First few years were absolutely miserable and if there wasn't a kid involved one of us prolly would have called it quits Been married almost 16 years now and our marriage is amazing. Sometimes you just both have to grow up and being selfish can ruin a good thing
Old-timers, I kinda have a crush on Cornelius. Is he the way he is because he wants to be or because he resigned. He seems... interesting
Aren’t there statistics showing that cohabitating prior to marriage is an indicator that you’re more likely to get divorced than if you hadn’t cohabitated? https://www.wsj.com/articles/too-ri...not-if-you-avoid-cohabiting-first-11644037261