I can't even be troubled to read other posts this point and I think I'm dming people.... Good Christ...if this is even an a question then I will go to hell
Never understood the “test drive the car before you purchase” analogy. If you love someone enough to ask them to marry you, then couldn’t you determine through those years of dating and spending a shit ton of time together if you could live under the same roof or not? I’m not suggesting you shouldn’t live together prior to marriage. But I couldn’t imagine that living together for a few months would solve the divorce problem in our country.
You don’t understand how living with someone can expose things that are deal breakers? When you have separate places it’s easier to put on a facade or take a break/escape to your place, etc. When you share a house, bills, have really no place to go you get to see everything and it can tell you pretty quickly if you are compatible or not.
I think some of it would depend on how long you’ve dated and known the person. Like if you dated several years in college and/or professional school being around someone and their friends/family for 3-4 years, then surely you could figure out if you could live together. If it’s some outlier long distance situation, then sure. I just think in your standard dating situations that actually living together prior to marriage would not prove to be much of a determining factor on if that marriage resulted in divorce. I could be wrong.
Used to go to sleep to sports center now I get into bed excited to watch Oxygen channel and 90 day fiancé
We both had our own places but we probably spent 99% of the time together. We just enjoy one another even if it’s sitting in the living room and we are both reading different books or one of us is watching tv and the other is scrolling the phone. most nights we try to watch tv and usually mute it and just wind up talking about whatever. It’s gross honestly. She was raised very catholic and I converted as well. Happiest I’ve ever been honestly
Yes, and the writing was clearly on the wall that we were not meant to be together in the first 6 months of it. Got married a few years later, had a child, and just got divorced anyways. Spoiler Makes me feel like this but 1000x
Lived together 6 years, had a dog together for 5 and bought a house together two years before married. Her extended family is also super Jewish and my extended family is super Christian so it was fun yielding all the “SO WHAT WILL YOU RAISE YOUR CHILDREN AS???” questions for the past decade or whatever we’ve been together