Do we have a self-help thread?

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  1. Boo MFer!

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    I’m listening to Atomic Habits by James Clear and really enjoying it. Has anyone else ever read/listened to it?

    I also love David Brooks’ concept of the second mountain:
    Every so often, you meet people who radiate joy—who seem to know why they were put on this earth, who glow with a kind of inner light. Life, for these people, has often followed what we might think of as a two-mountain shape. They get out of school, they start a career, and they begin climbing the mountain they thought they were meant to climb. Their goals on this first mountain are the ones our culture endorses: to be a success, to make your mark, to experience personal happiness. But when they get to the top of that mountain, something happens. They look around and find the view . . . unsatisfying. They realize: This wasn’t my mountain after all. There’s another, bigger mountain out there that is actually my mountain.

    And so they embark on a new journey. On the second mountain, life moves from self-centered to other-centered. They want the things that are truly worth wanting, not the things other people tell them to want. They embrace a life of interdependence, not independence. They surrender to a life of commitment.

    In The Second Mountain, David Brooks explores the four commitments that define a life of meaning and purpose: to a spouse and family, to a vocation, to a philosophy or faith, and to a community.

    What other self-help books/pods is everyone consuming?
     
  2. Thoros of Beer

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  3. Boo MFer!

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    Thoros, pls.
     
  4. Lyrtch

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    I really like Jordan Peterson
     
  5. 941Gator

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  6. Thoros of Beer

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    But really, Quiet by Susan Cain if you're an introvert
     
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  7. Boo MFer!

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    Any particular works?
     
  8. Lyrtch

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    I'm not being serious. Real ones understand.
     
  9. Thoros of Beer

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    Orthodoxy by G.K. Chesterton
     
  10. ashy larry

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    have you tried reading the Bible (king James version)?
     
  11. Druce

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    Matt and Shane's Self Help Podcast by Shane Gillis
     
  12. Boo MFer!

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    Guys, I’m beginning to think no one is taking this thread seriously!
     
  13. Redav

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    Do not read Jordan Peterson
     
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  14. Crepeswithasmile

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    anything you're going through can be solved by simply grabbing and pulling on your bootstraps.
     
  15. Bo Pelinis

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    Personally I put on my ball lifter to lift my balls and then I go on the internet and tell you fine people what I'm having for lunch and that is all the helping myself I need
     
  16. Houndster

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    Step 1. Purchase a firearm

    The rest should work itself out
     
  17. Boo MFer!

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    Thanks.
     
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  18. ashy larry

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    I used all my serious replies in the chiropractor thread
     
  19. Thoros of Beer

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    "My Struggle" - Adolf Schicklgruber
     
  20. Bo Pelinis

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    Really though that spoiler sounds like a bunch of word salad Boo MFer!
     
  21. afb

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    post less about fsu

    you're welcome
     
  22. Crepeswithasmile

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    i'm going to have to break down and get me one of them there ball lifters.
     
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  23. Boo MFer!

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    Well, you don’t make friends with salad.
     
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  24. Aaron Hernandez

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    Is chiropractic treatment a pseudoscience? Also why or why isn’t it a pseudoscience?
     
  25. Crepeswithasmile

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    not just any old salad, but a good tossed salad makes a bond that cannot be broken.
     
  26. Boo MFer!

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    I have a friend who met a random co-ed from UofSC while tailgating for the UF-UofSC game and she tossed his salad behind a dumpster after a day of tailgating in the Gainesville humidity.
     
  27. Bo Pelinis

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    You're friends with Tobias?
     
  28. Lyrtch

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    I find most self help stuff repurposed psychology or philosophy

    Just go to the source
     
  29. TC

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    I don't like the term "self help" really but I can rec some books in the psyc/philosophy realm. How esoteric can I go?
     
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  30. Bo Pelinis

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    Or theology.
     
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  31. TC

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    "Self help" is what they call it to sell it to the business exec at the airport
     
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  32. Boo MFer!

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  33. Boo MFer!

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    :yousoricky:
     
  34. Lyrtch

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    Not to get too off in the weeds but it's all so personal it's hard to find what works for people. Whether it's cbt style therapy or rhetoric, higher purpose stuff, narrative psych, on and on.

    All matters how your brain works.
     
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  35. Truman

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  36. Bo Pelinis

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    I don't self help. I just know if a phrase is commonly attached to guru it's probably got a version that likes healing crystals.
     
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  37. Truman

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    Also Boo MFer! After ten years, if you havent figured out TMB is the only place you need for self help advice, then idk what to tell you.
     
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  38. Bo Pelinis

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    If I need to work on myself I just go see a therapist honestly tbh fyi gfy gbr nfm
     
  39. Daniel Ocean

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    I am married so I have to practice self help 5-6 times a week.
     
  40. Truman

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    Despite the cringey title, I like the Art of Manliness podcast. It's not really self help per se, but he has a lot of different types of guest. A lot would fall into the self help category in a way. A lot different perspectives on how to think or approach things. Not all I agree with but interesting none the less.
     
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  41. TC

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    Easy to read, a little hokey at times:
    Brene Brown "Daring Greatly"

    Makes dealing with mental illness humorous:
    Jenny Lawson "Furiously Happy"

    Esoteric, eastern spiritually, changed my life:
    Eckhart Tolle "The Power of Now" and "A New Earth"

    More modern with an irreverent twist:
    Mark Manson "The Subtle Art of not Giving a Fuck"

    A long novel with philosophy built in:
    Robert Pirsig "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance"

    Currently reading. Slow going, but one of the most insightful descriptions of being human I've ever read:
    Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi "Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience"
     
  42. TC

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    If you're a musician and interested in eastern philosophy stuff -- this simple book completely blew me away

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  43. Aaron Hernandez

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    Or you can put the word spiritual in the title and make millions without referencing either and having no real qualification.
     
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  44. poor paul

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    Start reading Bukowski.
     
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  45. TC

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    "Football Mike: A Spiritual Journey." Currently taking bids on an advance
     
  46. TC

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    Isn't he controversial, morally?
     
  47. Lyrtch

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    Or skip to the end and start drinking like bukowski
     
  48. poor paul

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    Well that depends on your morals I guess.
     
  49. blind dog

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    You should really check out "How to quit posting on TMB"

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