I love my family but my the family in my moms side just expect too much. My mom was one of three daughters and I guess married husbands who just decided that’s every Holliday was celebrated on the moms side. Then the first grand kids came around and my cousin got divorced so that continued. Well my other cousin and his wife were the black sheep bc they didn’t travel with thr family for every holiday. Then I got married and was like yeah I’m in solidarity with non traveling cousin. Well fuck Me he got divorced and is at every holiday now so I’m like the black sheep. My sister lives like 6 hours away and they will drive overnight to make it for stuff. We have two kids now and two large ass dogs and one that requires monitoring because she has seizures. So traveling isn’t much of an option. Either way, wife and I don’t travel for Christmas and usually won’t for thanksgiving.