Not sure. My wife is in Arkansas with her parents right now so she may be bringing them back as a surprise
Oh damn, don’t tell me he is one of these idiots that like to go in trails full of mud with their Jeep for absolutely no reason
My grandma punished me for the simple fact that my mom had me. My mom was her favorite kid and evidently she couldn’t handle me getting in the way of their love for each other. At around 8 years old, I came to the realization that I was the only grandkid that didn’t have a picture up anywhere in the house. My grandpa didn’t pay attention to any of that sort of shit but when he found out that my grandma was actively doing that, he was fucking furious. When my grandpa passed away it was discovered that I was the only grandkid he had a picture of in his wallet
My FIL and I have almost nothing in common. Our interests don’t overlap at all. He’s not really a nice guy, but he’s ‘family’ so I have to deal with it a few times per year. I am at the in laws this weekend for Memorial Day. My FIL doesn’t play golf but has decided that him and I are playing this morning. It’s a nice gesture since he is stepping out of his comfort zone to spend some time with me. He is also a crazy cat person taking care of about a dozen outdoor cats that come and go from his garage. Suffice it to say, the garage is a literal shitshow. He digs his golf bag out of a pile of junk from the garage and starts washing it in preparation for today’s bonding. Within seconds, I am overpowered by the smell of cat piss. This golf bag/gear has been peed on by dozens of cats over the course of years and the water is running yellow from getting hosed off. A few of the outdoor cats start meowing I assume from the river of golf bag cat piss flowing down the driveway. The stench is bad enough that I have to leave the area. After the initial drip dry, he proceeds to soak the bag and clubs and golf gloves in a mix of bleach, animal urine enzyme solution, and laundry detergent. Now the whole yard smells like perfumed cat piss. I suggest that we get a new bag for him which is met with the universal FIL response of “What? Why? There is nothing wrong with this one.” I am a few hours away from playing golf with my father in law (who doesn’t play golf) and his urine soaked Tide gear. I’m not going to be able to get this smell out of my nose for weeks.
My FIL and I don’t have a bad relationship. We are just very different people. He’s retired military (AF colonel) and never really left that life behind. He puts himself before anyone else and is very volatile so everyone deals with him with kid gloves. I could go on forever about this stuff. I don’t care about guns, don’t own any guns, etc. I’ve gone shooting with him which is the equivalent of playing golf to him.
I went to their house for dinner, he brought out a military rifle that he claimed to have a patent on (some kind of clip for carrying or something), and he did the whole “this is how easy it would be to end you if you fucked over my daughter”. It was a joke, but also my first glimpse into a future of hardo behavior.
I mean, you have a username and avatar of a little girl that was murdered. i know nothing about you, but that’s a pretty fucking weird thing to do. I’d probably try to kill you on this single fact alone.
I do play poker as far as I know how to play and used to play online some. My in-laws know nothing about my casual poker play but I now assume they think of me as some sort of polo shirt wearing poker player.
Update... My MIL wouldn’t let him use the cat pee bag. He just purchased a new bag at the pro shop. His clubs smell so bad that my car now stinks like cat piss. The balls he is using are stained yellow and leave a scent trail (which makes them easy to find). It’s 95* outside and he is playing the round in camo cargo pants and a long sleeve white button up. On the plus side, it’s actually been pretty enjoyable aside from the smell.
FIL lives 8 hours away so I don’t really have to deal with him but we just had our second child so he’s in town for a week to visit. He’s done nothing but complain about how millennials are ruining the country and “certain groups of people” are handed everything by the government while he gets nothing. I guess this is a good time to point out we adopted and our new daughter is Africa American. Maybe I’m being over sensitive. I don’t know but he’s been here 24 hours and I’m ready to explode. He has yet to pick up or even acknowledge his new granddaughter.
Update: my in-laws watched our kids last night while we did a progressive dinner party (apps and drinks at one house, main course next house, dessert at the final stop). Our house was the last stop for dessert and wine around our fire pit. My mother in law took off once we got home but my father in law stayed and chilled around the fire pit with us and hit the pen someone in the group had.
“Well pops, as usual it’s been great seeing you... but I think it’s about time you go back to your bigoted hellhole”
lots of good stories itt today. imagine being a loser like Frank Martin who can’t hang out with the boys lol
The cat piss round of golf saga is complete. It was a good time. Here are a few FIL highlights: - I paid for the greens fees. He didn’t acknowledge or say “thanks” or anything. - I shot a 79. He probably shot a 129. I encouraged him and threw him positive chatter all round long. He never once said “good shot” or “nice putt” to me. - The conversation on the ride home was all about how happy he was with his play. He called my MIL to give her highlights. - The cat piss golf bag is sitting in the backyard so it can get rained on. He won’t throw it away because the garage cats seem to like it. - My younger son fell off a slide while we were playing golf so my wife took him to urgent care to make sure nothing was broken. (Nothing was broken.) FIL went on a rant about how kids these days are soft and we are exacerbating the problem by giving my son Motrin (while he is in obvious pain). I’m ready to be done with this weekend and not come back until thanksgiving.
Are you calling him out on anything? Can't imagine I'd let a FIL who is probably a huge MAGA inbred talk shit about my kid while he himself is probably the biggest snowflake.
It would be hard for me to imagine a bigger sign of being a huge beta than a grown man that lets a dozen cats pee on his golf bag.
Me and the fiancé just finished redoing our flower beds and yard. Pressure washed the house as well. Looks good. FIL has been staring down the street for 20 minutes. He’s an odd ducks. The rest of the family came and hung out. Love everyone in her family. He’s just a different character.
I don’t let everything go, but I also choose my battles. We’ve had talks about what needs to happen to participate in my family. He knows the deal. Honestly, he is very much a snowflake with tons of deep-seated issues. My wife thinks he is untreated bipolar with a lot of insecurities. It’s mostly just sad because he is a very interesting and engaging guy when he isn’t being a shitbag. More instability than beta.
he didnt thank you because thats probably what he expected you to do because thats what he did to his elders
Yeah. I think he’s always had the opinion that he took care of her yard and seeing me take it from him causes him angst.
The decent elders I know are the most respectful and fun people to be around, they thank you when you help them. Not sure what dump is talking about here but that’s shitty behavior at any age and in any country
When someone pays for your round and spends their day trying to show you a good time you should say thank you regardless of the age discrepancy