3 years ago today, I lost my sister.. my best friend.. Today is hard. Maybe we can use this thread for the days that hit us the hardest.. October will be one year for my Mom.. november, three years for my dad...
I have never really lost anyone close to me. The friends that I knew that have passed away it was more of a shock than anything. When my parents go (76 & 72) I honestly don't know what I will do. I am very sorry for your loss. Losing a sibling must be extraordinarily hard
Man, I know how you feel. My thoughts are with you today. Stay strong, brother. January 29th is my most difficult day for me...lost my stepdad (basically my father) to a heart attack on his 55th birthday. I haven't been the same since.
Obv never met him but my moms dad died on her birthday when she was 11 (I think) always felt terrible for her his death was associated with her birthday and that she lost her dad when she was a kid
I feel for you, man. We take shit for granted in our youth that really comes home to roost as we age. My kids lost both their grandparents and their extremely close aunt at an age I would’ve lost all hope at. I just wanna love one another randomly itt when we need it
Man that sucks. I fell for ya. Wife and I went through a rough patch a few years ago over about 18 months. She lost a set of great grandparents, her grandmother and uncle. Also someone e else from her extended family that I knew well before I knew her died. I lost a grandfather and an uncle in that window. It was a lot of death and it was awful. Glad we have been to 0 funerals since.
Tough 15 months for me and wife. Lost my grandfather January 2020 and lost my mother in law this past January. It really hit my wife hard. Covid and two little kids haven't helped the grieving process.
My father has had some lung issues for a few years, but never really led on how serious it is. We had a small passover gathering this year because we were all vaccinated, but he told me he was willing to risk it even if I hadn't been vaccinated yet because he doesn't think he'll be around for next year's. I've just been burying this, and I have no idea how to process this other than pretending that it isn't happening.
Thanks man but I have someone in my life currently who can pick me up when I fall. I just want this thread here in case I don’t have that in the future and you are still here to help.
My dad is ten years into Parkinson’s and quickly falling into dementia. I’ve grieved over the past decade, but it still doesn’t quite sit right with me that this is the hand he was dealt. Sometimes it’s really hard to wrap my head around my father being a prisoner in his own life.
Have all of my likes. Going through the same stuff with my dad and he's not even 60 yet. Hang in there.
much love your way, man. Nothing compared to the pain that those few people who were there early leaving you.
You're one of my favorite people on the site, sorry to hear about the pain you've been through. Hopefully this thread helps you carry the weight.
I’m so sorry man. DM me if you need to talk I swear I’ll talk your balls off. I fucking hurt for you.
Wow, man. I'm sorry. Bunch of internet friends here to hear whatever you have to say about it going forward.
Stress and trauma and grief are fucking insane man. Is there another species that can feel like they’re dying from emotions like that?
Fr Frozen 2 has the realest song I’ve ever heard about grief. Fucked me up watching a children’s movie.
Damn man. My heart hurts for you and honestly brings me back to a couple years ago when I lost mine. Sick to my stomach for you. I'm certainly no professional but will be more than happy to help any way I can, brother.
Timely thread for me been one of the toughest weeks of my life losing a loved one makes me realize no matter how old still can be fragile
Not trying to compare shitty situations but my family has been on quite the run over the past three years: -Grandmother to cancer -Stepdad to the widow maker -Grandfather (stepdad's dad) 5 months later, widow maker -Uncle 2 months after that, pneumonia -Grandmother diagnosed with alzheimer's. -Mother in law in September to surgery complications -Grandfather diagnosed this week with stage 4 pancreatic cancer Shit has fucked me up. Had to get on medication to help get through it all and that definitely helped. Off it now thankfully, but only because I'm pretty much numb to it all at this point.
Hang in there guys. There are a lot of us here who have been through this if you need to sound off and talk to somebody.
Weird kinda grief when the person's still alive. My mom's got early onset Alzheimer's (initially suspected when she was 58, about 5 years ago). Memory is slipping pretty fast now. Personality is in tact, thank God, and it's just an absolute blast watching her and my 2 year old daughter (her only grandchild) play together. They're just the two best friends in the whole world. And I have no idea how long we have to enjoy this, or what either of them will remember. Not sure if mom will really ever know our next child that's on the way. Fuck this was a great Easter though.
Lost my dad 2 years ago as of early this month as the Champs thread knows. He was my rock and taught me so much. Especially about sports. I definitely haven’t been the same person since. This board has been a really good place for me to just unwind and bullshit for a while every day.
I lost my mom in 2005 when I was 23, lots of drugs for the next year. Lost my dad on Jan 17th at 12:30 am in 2015, my birthday is the 16th, last thing he said was asking me if it was my birthday in the morning of the 16th. What sucked was I had lost all grandparents and I'm an only child, so I was left on my own at 33. If anyone needs to talk about stuff, please feel free to msg me.
I’m sorry to hear how much pain y’all have gone through. I had to watch my wife lose her mother 6 years ago and it still affects her regularly.
In November of 2019 I found my mom, when I went to pick her up on a Saturday morning to head to Tallahassee, for my grandmother’s funeral. I went inside my childhood home. Usually, if I picked my mom up for anything, she’d be waiting for me at the dinner table. She wasn’t that morning, so I knew something was wrong. Yelled “Mom” a few times and headed to my parents bedroom and that’s when I found her. She died peacefully in her sleep. There hasn’t been a day where I haven’t replayed that 15 minutes where I had to call my Dad and my sisters to let them know. My children were in the car waiting for my mom and I to come out, and we never did. They had to see everything that ensued. Having to tell them that their grandmother died was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. My Dad lost his wife of 50 years and mom within 3 days. We buried my mom and then had to bury my grandmother. I get a little better every day but that day is something that will live with me for the rest of my life.
Lost my grandfather Saturday to COVID and one of my best friends last August to a freak accident. I wrote my grandfathers obituary which was cathartic and am reading his eulogy Wednesday at the funeral. Been a tough year for many and those of us who share grief as a common bond should only become more empathetic to others who experience it in the future.
Sorry man, and sorry for you other brahs. My best friend and father passed about a year ago while I was on my honeymoon. Time helps, but I just went on my first international trip since then and was surprised at the number of triggers
Sorry man. Lost my mom in ‘13 and my dad in ‘14. Grief is a weird thing man. Talked to my therapist about it a lot. It can feel like it’s cumulative and overwhelming. I don’t believe that it “gets easier” it just changes over time. Feel for you man.
Lost my dad 11 years ago. Feels like it was just a few weeks ago. I’ll tell y’all that are new to losing a parent that it gets better. I still grab my phone to call him to share good news or when I need to talk to him. He’s also heavily involved in dreams. But it happens much more infrequently now. A friend of mine sat down with his grandparents and parents and video taped him interviewing them and asking about their lives. I wish I would have done the same. I’d like to hear my dad’s voice again. Luckily I have a fantastic father in law who I love as a father. He’s there for me when I need advice, help with stuff you’d always ask your dad and just great friendship.
Man this thread is hitting me in the feels. I am fortunate to have not lost any close family members yet but I know the time is coming for my grandparents and that is going to be extremely tough. I can break down so easily just thinking about them being gone one day, but that day will come and it absolutely terrifies me. I have no idea how I will deal with it and that is scary. They are everything to me and idk how I could keep myself composed and able to live life.
Thought this was an outstanding dialogue about grief. I do a bereavement group at my high school and I've started to include this video for one of the sessions.
My GF lost someone close to her today. I can handle my own grief pretty well, but watching someone I care about grieve is far worse to me personally. It is killing me I hope this makes sense.
Perfect sense. Watching my kids go through the loss of their grandparents and aunt made it easier to deal with on my own level but was heartbreaking to see them process it. Positive thoughts your way buddy