Help for my son with cancer

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  1. Roll Left

    Roll Left Well-Known Member

    #1 Roll Left, Feb 24, 2016
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  2. Duck70

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    Most depressing intro thread ever?

    Condolences my man.
     
  3. Roll Left

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    Not an intro thread, I've been here for a while. But thanks
     
  4. Taffy

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    I knocked up my GF after just over a year together, that was 8 years ago and we just had our second little boy. I was in a different position in that I was 26 with a decent job, but kids were completely unplanned.
    Now, the boys are by far and away the best thing that ever happened to me. You've only got to spend 5 minutes in the dad's thread to see what an awesome addition kids CAN be.
    A colleague and his wife just had an abortion because they diidnt want any more kids, and they both quickly realised that they made a mistake.
    That said, I am talking from my own experiences - I know it's not all sunshine & lollipops for everyone on a similar position.

    Either way, you can only support your GF whatever her decision because you won't really have a lot of input either way.
     
  5. wes tegg

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    How old are you?
     
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  6. Roll Left

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    I'm 24, she's 23
     
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  7. wes tegg

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    You'll be fine.
     
  8. the Weimar Beer Belly

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    Do you have stairs in your apartment?
     
  9. Roll Left

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    Lol, the way she told me was, as she was crying, "I have some bad news.... I need you to push me down a flight of stairs."
     
  10. Can I Spliff it

    Can I Spliff it Is Butterbean okay?
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    congrats on the sex
     
  11. the Weimar Beer Belly

    the Weimar Beer Belly everything is good here/please come home

    Verbal contract. Consent given. Culpability nullified.
     
  12. Lifeiskilingme79

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  13. bturns

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    At 24, I was definitely not ready for a kid. But I also lived a much crazier lifestyle than alot of the folks on here. Ultimately, it's her decision. You get very little say. Best you can do is just stay on her good side so she doesn't try to destroy you in childsupport because if you guys do split up, she's going to get almost half your paycheck for the next 18 years.

    And people can say congrats on a kid all they want, but I don't want kids so condolences. But i do hear they are great so congratulations? Idk.
     
  14. DuffandMuff

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    I'm 27 and I couldn't handle that happening to me now. Sorry, but I have no helpful advice. Good luck.
     
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  15. Bruce Wayne

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    Getting an abortion is the easy answer, but obviously you can't get it done unless she's 100% ok with it. But it's the best option considering you 2 have both admitted you're in no position to bring a child into this world
     
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  16. Hoss Bonaventure

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    My brother cheated on his college gf when he was 24 and knocked up a one night stand. She was 27 and had a good job, but they've never dated or anything but my nephew is great and as much stress and hardship he's had, he's always been a great father and I don't think he'd change a thing given a chance to go back and redo it. He wanted her to get an abortion ( his college gf had already had 2, yes I know) but she wanted to have a kid so he stepped up and was a man about it and did what he had to do. Either way you just gotta be supportive and roll with it. There's nothing wrong with abortion, but in the end it's her decision. Finish school though because at 24 it would seem like you're close and it'll be easier now than later. All that being said, I'm 32 and couldn't see myself having a child right now but I'm a self centered piece of shit so it's probably a good thing.
     
  17. Roll Left

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    Thank you. This is exactly what I have been thinking, but she is completely against abortion so I'm sure it won't happen.
     
  18. Roll Left

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    You would think I'm almost done with school at 24, but no. I joined the military out of high school in order to get college paid for, and the whole time my plan was to get out after my enlistment and go to college, so I haven't even taken any classes since I've been in (yes I know that was stupid of me).And I feel like I'm the same way as you are so that's why I'm freaking out about this whole situation.
     
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  19. Bruce Wayne

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    Have you had the conversation with her about it since you guys found out she was pregnant?
     
  20. Thoros of Beer

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    1. Have the kid
    2. Teach him golf
    3.??????
    4. Profit.

    No time is ever a good time, you should have the baby.
     
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  21. bama1

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    This.

    We had some health problems going on with the GF when she told me she was pregnant and moved from Nashville to bumfuck Alabama because of it and once our daughter came, it was the best decision we've ever made. I had a great job at the time and I have a decent one now but once you experience that 'fatherhood' it truly makes everything worth it. I say all of this because we 100% were not ready with what was going on but we made it through it and its the best thing to happen to me.

    Your priorities will change. You'll go from wanting to get fucked up 6/7 nights a week to not at all and if you or her aren't mature enough to realize that, then it may be best for the baby to give it up for adoption. My daughter is 15 months old and I could NEVER imagine not seeing her everyday but also everyone is different.

    Ask yourself, do I care more about partying or is it time to settle down and help raise a child? and go from there.
     
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  22. Where Eagles Dare

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    bertwing had seven kids by ur age. You'll be OK
     
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  23. NoleNBlue

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    Have you considered adoption? Lots of families can't have kids and you'd be providing them with a dream come true and solving you and the GF's problems.
     
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  24. Can I Spliff it

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    You may also want to see if there are surrogate programs too, since the rollercoaster of pregnancy could also change answers on whether or not to keep the child yourselves may change by the hour.
     
  25. El Tiburon

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  26. 941Gator

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    Thanks crazy Uncle Tegg.

    useless ass drunk
     
  27. CraigAnne Conway

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    What you probably should do is go to a message board full of adults with roommates, "e-athletes", and a DeVry grad, and ask for their opinions.
     
  28. the one and only GUBBERJK

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    LOOK AT THE RESPONCES YOU ARE GETTING ?
    just look , so now after a day of pleading for advise what did you learn I would be very interested to read this .
    because u got 2 options
    1. abortion
    2. have the baby
    now what ?
    u want some-one to hold your hand ?
    HEY STEVIE YOU HOLDING BOYS HANDS TODAY ?
     
  29. boone

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    rising a child is easy.

    a pet? not so much.
     
  30. 941Gator

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    See that's marriage material right there. I was about to give you a pro-choice it's 2016 speech, but now I think you should put a ring on it.

    I think for most guys it really depends on the girl in question.
     
  31. the one and only GUBBERJK

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    WHAT ?
     
  32. NoleNBlue

    NoleNBlue The fuck is that? It's an armoire.
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    The staying power of this is really amazing. Still hilarious.
     
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  33. Bruce Wayne

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    There are almost 400,000 children in the foster care system right now, of which just over 100,000 are eligible for adoption. Of that 100,000, 1/3 of them will wait 3+ years to find a permanent family.

    Let's start widdling away at that number before adding to it
     
  34. William

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    Don't sweat it man. Nobody ever feels ready to have their first kid. It will change things for the two of you, but that's not always a bad thing.
     
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  35. the one and only GUBBERJK

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    WHAT IF HE JUST WANTED TO FUCK AND DOES NOT REALLY LIKE THE GIRL ?and look who is giving advise ?
    so rollleft what have you learned ?
     
  36. NoleNBlue

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    Just offering a suggestion. Some states still won't let same sex couples adopt but private agencies will. Foster kids therefore wouldn't be "adoptable" but OP's would.
     
  37. the one and only GUBBERJK

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    this is a true statement .
     
  38. Ace Boogie

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    My nephew has started motoring around fairly well already, so I'll be eyeing up some clubs for him. Trying to get a caddy gig on the PGA tour.
     
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  39. Koby Salman

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    I think adoption is underrated. Granted yes, I'm sure it's harder than the hell to just give the kid away after birth, but I don't think people realize how many couples in the world would luv to have a kid but are unable to get pregnant. Just my :twocents:
     
  40. the one and only GUBBERJK

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    ACE GOING JIGGA ON US .
     
  41. the one and only GUBBERJK

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    IT IS ACTUALLY NOT.
    DONE AT BIRTH .
    IN HOSPITAL .
    BOOM DONE .
     
  42. Connor Norman

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    Are you still in? If so, re-enlist and get married. Go to school during this enlistment while still having a job with great benefits so you can still provide for your family.
     
  43. Whammy Business

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    And there's gubbs, turning the bus into crazytown.
     
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  44. Moxin24

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    No one who has a kid looks back says, "damn, I wish I had aborted you."

    Except dbl's parents.
     
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  45. Koby Salman

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    Woooo
     
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  46. bro

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    Lol your life is over
     
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  47. bertwing

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    Man the fuck up OP
     
  48. Brewtus

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    Unfortunately for many (and also fortunately for many others), the odds are like 1 in 4 there will be a miscarriage. Those odds drastically fall off around week 8. Fingers crossed for you in the next week and a half.
     
  49. timo

    timo you'll be fine at the end of the line
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    kid is going to find this thread in 15 years when the search function gets sorted out. Have fun with that conversation dad.
     
  50. RSK

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    Nah papa doc can make your mom wish that her fat ass aborted you

     
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