Here's the background.. Guy shows up at my house in 2017 asking about how I bought it and the deed etc. Guy has the same age, first and last name as me but different middle name. I showed him my ID because I could tell he was a little mentally off and I wanted to help him understand I didn't steal his identity. He also mentioned a grander conspiracy that this fed into that he was hearing information about through his car radio. He left after about 10 minutes and seemed ok. Fast forward to 2 months ago.. Same guy (didn't recognize him at the time) shows up and asks if anyone had stopped by asking about the deed of the house or taxes. He said ok and left after about a minute. Same guy shows up two weeks later when I had friends over. One friend spoke to him as she was coming into the house and he was standing by my front door. He asked her about the deed of the house and wasn't making sense so she told him he needed to leave and shut the door. Same guy leaves two voicemails on my wife's cell phone last weekend. Voicemails are about asking about if "we're still in a partnership", mentions the deed and taxes again and some research he's doing in the private sector. Mentioned he needed all of this to stay private under nda due to "matters other jurisdictions" and a bunch of other stuff that made no sense. Says his first name in the voicemail (my first name) and we realize this is the same guy that's been stopping by. Not sure how he got my wife's number but we think it's from searching the internet for our address and her name is listed and cell in the public records database. Speak to the police after the voicemails and they show us a picture of a 41 year old guy with the same name as me and we confirm that's the guy that's been stopping by. We look up his name in case law and find out he was convicted of a violent felony assault right after he visited us in 2017 and sent to prison with a ten year sentence. He recently got out and that's when the contact started again. He also has three prior felonies for assault and unlawful detainment. The court case also mentions multiple trips to mental health facilities and that he's diagnosed on the schizophrenia spectrum. We filed a restraining order on Tuesday with a court date for March 3rd. Also getting security cameras installed today. He only has shown up on the weekends so expecting he might show up again this weekend before a temporary restraining order is served. He lives about an hour away from us and he parks outside our neighborhood and walks or bikes in (we've seen him do this on neighbors cams). Any advice from folks that have gone through this or have experience? I've got two small kids so I'm a little concerned for them as well as myself if I tell him to fuck off and he has a reaction. The recent assault case I mentioned happened with a random guy he didn't know that he met on a walk and beat the shit out of because he allegedly started talking about gang affiliations. The guy he beat up was 440lbs with a cane and in his 50s and had never seen him before the encounter. I live in California and don't own a gun and don't particularly want to but are there any other precautions or proactive things I should be doing in case he shows up again this weekend?
Holy shit. My advice would be to not tell him to fuck off. I'd probably keep the doors locked, the kids inside or away from the house, and call the cops if he shows without answering the door.
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Maybe you could hire a PI to keep tabs on this dude until you go to court. See what his habits, tendencies are. How often he is coming by the house that you are unaware of, etc.
For the self defense concern, get a can of Raid and Dale Gribble his ass if he doesn’t leave. Video it, too.
Get your name legally changed to something else. Then when he asks about the stolen identity, you can show him your ID with a different name than his and he'll politely leave you alone. easy peasy.
I left out the names and court info stuff intentionally. I ran some searches on the text I posted and nothing's coming up so I think this is ok?
Next time he comes, have the police respond and they can trespass him. Any time he comes back, or if he refuses to leave that time, he can be arrested. Obviously not ideal for a guy who needs help outside of a jail cell, but you need to protect yourself too.
Mace is an alternative to a firearm it may make sense to have handy (both you and wife). Security cameras are a must. I also think the PI isn't a bad idea either. Sorry to hear this. Be vigilant but live your life.
In all seriousness, do not engage him. If he shows up, call the police immediately and stay inside your house until they get there.
I know the police are useless but can you call them to have them regularly check on your house especially if you get the TRO?
I would be very aware outside of your neighborhood as well. Seeing cameras go up at your place might make him bolder elsewhere. I know this sounds like I'm coming off alarmist but you already know he parks outside your neighborhood anyway.
Dude wtf just give the poor guy your house Spoiler I'm sorry man this would stress the hell outta me. When you've got two kids at home, I wouldn't break your back trying to do this guy favors. Just call the cops anytime you see him
Police have been pretty responsive so far but they need the TRO in place to really do anything if he shows up again. He's on their list of guys to watch for in my area and I'll ask about the regular checks.
Create a scavenger hunt that plays into his conspiracies and starts at your front door, leave subsequent clues at various locations around the area, with the last one sending him to him to the White House on a greyhound
Tell him you spoke with the radio people and they said there would be serious consequences if he doesnt leave you the fuck alone.
Not sure what cameras you’re getting but some(all?) of the ring cameras have the ability to play a siren and interface with local emergency services. Probably worth having that as an option.
We got some conflicting information based on what's available. The police told us he has no PO currently but our attorney friend insists that he should. We don't have any info on this but our attorney friend found records that he was released early from prison into a mental health facility. It's possible he no longer has a PO after the time that's passed from his release in prison to the mental health facility but we're not sure. We'll find out once the TRO is in place I think.
Yeah we live in a cul de sac and we sent out his pic and gave everyone the background. We have like 12 kids in our neighborhood so everyone is a little freaked out.
Sucks they are freaked out but they definitely need to be aware of the individual. You seem to be making solid choices since buying this guys house.
Seems like you're taking the necessary, level headed, steps to stay safe Outside of posting up on your porch with a shotgun 24/7 I don't know what else there is to do