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Discussion in 'The Mainboard' started by Sterling A, Mar 12, 2019.
Also not trying to give advice at a time like this but I’ll add another vote for grief counseling.
Very sorry friend, here to support you
damn. that is awful, I'm very sorry man.
Fuck man I'm so sorry ya'll are going through that. It's been said numerous times already but just be there for her and focus on the good times. Don't be afraid to ask for help, a shoulder to cry on, etc.
I'm so sorry. This is just horrible, no other way to put it. I pray for peace and comfort for you and your fiancee.
So sorry, man. I wish I could give you a hug right now.
Sorry to hear this Sterling A
Here for you if you need anything. Agree with others on getting counseling. I didn’t do it when I lost my wife, and it was a big mistake.
Praying for you and your families. Have a friend going through similar situation. You've got support here when needed.
Shit, I hate this for you - I’ll be keeping you all in my thoughts, and like others have said, let us know how/if we can help in any way.
I'm sorry, pal
We're all here for you
Nothing I can say will probably help, but stay stay strong. Find comfort with others you love and with others that love her. Take the positive gifts you and her have and share them with others.
It’s going to take a long time, but you’ll heal.
Ts&Ps coming at you and please vent as much as needed. If posting here helps then post away brother.
Haven’t read the rest of the thread but yeah I would highly recommend going to see a therapist to help maintain your mental health throughout the next few months. This can’t be easy to deal with and could really mess you up.
This too - you should be able to find one by doing a search for grief counseling, or if you can’t, go see your doctor & he/she can probably direct you to someone.
Fucking awful. So sorry man.
Damn, horrible to hear that. Can't imagine what you are going through.
Shit that’s awful. I’m sorry man
thank you fellas. She is staying up here in tampa for comfort care for the time being. And the hospital is imploring all of us to do counseling asap, which I agree with. Crazy how life always throws you fucking curveballs when you are least expecting them. As I've been told by several doctors here at the hospital the last 12 hours, anything concerning the brain stem is bad, it controls your primal functions (breathing, heart beat, brain function, etc..)
I appreciate all of you and we've gone through a lot on this board over the past decade, the T's and P's are very welcomed at a time like this. Without getting into specifics or anything, her family is well taken care of monetarily so I'm not asking for a GoFundMe or anything even though I value you guys thinking of that. This is extremely hard to deal with Im just being honest. As I was telling someone in a PM earlier, a couple months ago I was on Cloud 9 thinking everything was set up and her bday is April 10th which Is obviously coming up and was going to "ask her"...…… her mom is more torn up than I am, she cried on my shoulder for 45 mins last night
Anyways, once again I really appreciate it, truly I do
So sorry. Just devastating, I can't imagine what you're going through right now. Words are failing me.
This is truly terrible...I wish the right words existed that could ease your pain. A lot of people are going to need you and you're going to need to be strong in times where you're going to be weak. Be there for them, but make sure you take care of yourself.
If you ever need to talk or break down to someone outside of your normal circle, I hope this thread shows you that you have a lot of people willing to be there for you.
Damn it man I'm so sorry to hear this. Prayers sent!
Jesus. How close are you to her parents (and siblings, if she has any)? You can counsel each other, on top of seeing professionals.
Jesus that's awful. So sorry to hear that. Life is a crazy thing. Enjoy all the time you have on this earth with those that matter. I know for sure this board is here for you in more ways than one. Hang in there, man
Damnit man I'm so sorry.
I can't even imagine. Goddamn. Sorry, man.
Damn man, that's horrible. I can't even imagine.
Later on you should check out grief therapy. It will really help you after times like these. It did for me. If you want to talk to someone without a connection to them, send me a msg and I'll help out as much as possible.
I’m sitting here tearing up in my office with a heavy heart for you and your loved ones Sterling A I hope you all find peace and comfort. Your situation gives me perspective on my own life, all that I take for granted, and all the things I have to be grateful for.
I just thought I’d share a quote about life and love that hit me hard recently and I’ve tried to incorporate into my daily life...
'”Everyone longs to be loved. And the greatest thing we can do is to let people know that they are loved and capable of loving.'’ -Mr. Rodgers
I hope you find some solace in knowing that you shared love with your fiancé and made her time here better. I’m so sorry brother. You are loved and capable of loving.
That's just devastating. I'm sorry, Sterling A
Man I'm so sorry. You're in our thoughts and prayers.
I'm thinking of you Sterling. May you, your fiancee, and family find peace.
Man that is terrible and so damn sorry you have to go through this. Just absolutely devastating
This makes my heart ache. Ts and Ps mate.
Just remember you're not alone and you don't have to go through this alone.
There are no words that will make you hurt less so I won’t try. I can only say is i am sorry and cherish the memories you have with her. Life is short and fragile all we have is those we love we need to appreciate the time we have.
Easier said than done obviously, never take for granted the time you have with the people you love and cherish the most. I'm living proof of this right now at this time.
A therapist who wants to meet with us individually just came to speak to us for 8-10 minutes in the room and she had a particular saying that is resonating:
Life is a precious gift - a gift we often take for granted until it is threatened
I've known her and her family for over 15 years now, she is an only child
I am so sorry to hear this.
I lost my father at 13 in a similar situation (failed liver transplant).
If there is anything this random stranger on the internet can do for you and your family please don’t hesitate to ask!
Not only do I feel for you but Jesus i feel awful for her parents.
fuck this sucks man I am so sorry
No words for something like this. I'm sorry you and her family are going through this.
I hope you and her family find the strength and courage to just get through this together. I’m so sorry you’re all going through this.
I’m so sorry, man. Please let us know if there’s anything we can do.
Damn dude, I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Times will be tough, but keep your head up.
I’m so sorry man. I watched my best friend lose both his parents and his older brother within the span of two years. The only things I can suggest is not being shy about talking to anyone about what you’re feeling. Seek out a therapist and see them often. Lean on your friends.
At the end of the day, be thankful for all the time you had with her. Your life is exponentially better for meeting her.
thank you fellas, I really do appreciate it
Such an uncontrollable thing, and just awful news, I can only imagine how this must feel. So sorry to hear this man. eHugs sent your way. Stay positive.
24? Too dang young and a tragedy. Just dang. Sorry you, her and all friends and family have to go through all that.
That sucks man. Good luck to you and your family getting through this
That’s a fucking shitty deal for two young people who should be starting their lives together. I can’t imagine your grief right now, but I hope you find some solace. If you don’t, that’s ok too. You’re allowed to grieve however you need.