I had my kids Thursday thru yesterday afternoon, when their mom took them back after baseball. We had a great couple of days as always...baseball, took them to the golf course, and just hanging out at home. They are still little, 6 and 9, but they were both crying and upset wanting to stay with me yesterday evening. It was a punch to the gut to have to leave them but their mom has them for Easter Sunday. Their mom is great and we get along well, but every now and then the realities of divorce still come up. Happy Easter fellow dads. I hope you all have some fantastic quality time with your kids today.
Was out with two buddies yesterday. One has a six month old and tells us that the y haven't vaccinated yet and it doesn't matter because his son isn't around other kids. Also, said his wife is against cows milk and once he outgrows breast milk / formula, he won't give him milk. His wife is a pharmacist so deals with medicine all the time. Anti vaccines is a stance with flawed logic but no milk is just weird. My 18 month old drinks around 16oz of it a day.
Five year old is in "blame the computer" mode anytime he loses at either FIFA or NHL. He's crying right now because he chose the Panthers "and the Panthers suck!" My wife tells him that five year olds don't use that word and he starts sobbing and says quietly, "...but they do."
7 1/2 year old asked if he can watch Gremlins on Netflix. I say yes, since it is PG. Wife is now pissed. Kid seems to be enjoying it (he got to the attack on th Fuddermans before he paused it). I'm not budging on the I did nothing wrong front. What say the dad thread?
on the netflix topic, my son stumbled across animaniacs and i couldn't be happier such a good cartoon
That movie was rated PG before PG-13 existed, it was actually one of the movies that led to the creation of the PG-13 rating. Today, it would probably be PG-13. I've let my kid see plenty of PG-13 movies, albeit mainly Marvel movies. I don't think I'd let my 8 year old watch Gremlins, but I don't think you really did anything wrong.
and i was scared getting out of my bed for a while cause i was sure they were under my bed and gunna grab my ankles, i would jump out as far as i could to avoid them
I was watching the 1989 Batman when I was 5 or 6. Gremlins at 8 is comparable. No parentent foul here.
I don't remember the 1st Gremlins very well. When they turned in to monsters, did it have a bunch of pop culture parodies like the 2nd one? You're probably doing better than my dad did with me at that age, letting me watch awesome but totally age inappropriate movies like Terminator 2 and Under Siege.
Gremlins is basically a straight up horror movie with some laughs. Gremlins 2 is a comedy with all the pop culture references.
Soooooooo, turns out the worst part of letting your 7-year-old watch Gremlins is Phoebe Cates's monologue about how her dad dies, which ends with her saying "and that's how I learned there was no Santa Claus."
Drafting a Will really sucks when you don't have anyone in your family you'd feel good about leaving your kids with. There's at least 3 couples/families we're friends with that would be so much better.
For the married participants itt: what are y'all getting/doing for Mother's Day? I suck at holidays, probably go with a spa package but I think my wife knows that's my go-to.
Terrifying movie that will give a kid nightmares about monsters, their father dying and reveals there is no Santa Claus. You just took the L on that one.
So choose them. They are your kids and it is your choice. Our first choice is within the family but our backup is my wife's matron of honor even though there are 5 other siblings we could have chosen. Besides, if the situation ever arises, you'll never have to deal any repercussions of choosing outside the family.
No nightmares and I masterfully skated around the Santa Claus issue by saying sometimes dads dress as Santa Claus so they can trick their kids into going to bed on Christmas Eve. Because if Santa sees a child awake on Christmas Eve they automatically go on the naughty list.
going through this right now because wife and I are going on vacation without tiny person next month.
dropped off dome foam jr at school. he has been having issues having meltdowns when i drop him off, "i don't want to go to school" yada yada. well, today as we were walking in he starts doing it again. so i stop and just say, "dome foam jr, you are going to make daddy late for work. and daddy is going to get in trouble for being late to work. you don't want to get daddy in trouble, do you?" boom. it worked. dad win.
What's the first time you can remember your kid poking holes in the rationale you gave them for something? A couple weeks ago while putting her to bed, I'm trying to talk to my 3 yr old about how she has to sleep in her room all night and not come in our room. She's getting all tearful, saying she likes our room and doesn't like her room. Me: "why not? Mommy and daddy worked super hard to make your room all pretty and fun for you! I love your room!" Her: "well then how about you sleep in here and I'll sleep in your room. You'll be in the room you love and I'll be in the room I love" Me: ... "just... go to sleep, mom will be in in a minute "
Also kids amaze me sometimes. It's a been awhile since we've gotten my 3.5 y/o daughter a haircut so her hair is pretty much to the middle of her back (she likes it in a ponytail). Anyway I'm brushing her hair after bathtime last night and it's all snarly and knotted so it hurns her little when she gets it brushed. I tell her that we need to get her a haircut scheduled for this weekend and she says please no daddy, it doesn't bother me that much. I said"but it's getting too long." She then says "but I want to keep growing it out so when it gets long enough I can cut it and give it to some little girl who is sick and lost her hair". I was pretty taken back by that comment as I have no idea where she got that idea from. I told her okay we can do that. Needless to say I'm pretty damn proud of my little girl.
That seems like a reason to definitely draft a will. This can be a complicated issue, so you'd be best off contacting a local attorney to assist with this.
good luck to you and your family the nicu is tough (7 weeks early here) but the staff in there does great work and will do everything they can to send you home with a healthy baby