Need a neutral opinion... My daughter’s first grade teacher contacted my wife and I via email midday today to inform us that my oldest was struggling with math. I told her we would work on it tonight. FF about 30 minutes and I get a notice from my seesaw app (app that teacher posts announcements, pictures and videos as a way to communicate and share what’s going on in class with the parents). I click on it and it’s a 3 minute video of my daughter struggling with math. She clearly isn’t understanding as the teacher quizzes her on camera and she starts getting flustered and just starts guessing random numbers. Video ends with my daughter getting another answer wrong and then the teacher saying “ok keep working on it”. So ok nice video, I know exactly what she is struggling with and made plans to help her tonight. My wife calls pissed off pointing out the video was posted in the general forum shared for all the class and parents to see. Initially I assumed it was only for my wife and I as the teacher has never posted a video of a single child before unless it’s of them playing and having fun. Definitely no previous videos of a kid clearly struggling and answering every question wrong for 3 long minutes. I write the teacher to ask if she meant to post the video to “everyone”? And her response: How exactly are we “helping other parents”? Are we over-reacting as parents or does this seem odd to anyone?
I would have a conversation with the teacher/school about it. Nothing major but just express concern that in an instance like that, the video shouldn’t be on the general forum. My wife had a brain fart moment similar to that. About a year ago the class was working on tracing their names. Our girl did awesome so my wife took a picture of her tracing next to her friends tracing which wasn’t as good. She posted it on Facebook saying how proud she was of our smart little girl. Never crossed her mind that some people might look at it as saying how much smarter she is than her friend when comparing the tracings. She immediately talked with the mom to let her know she didn’t mean anything by it when I pointed it out. TLDR: Talk to teacher but don’t raise a fuss. This should have went in the women do stupid things thread.
Honestly, this is why I hate pushing technology in the classroom. It's one thing to ensure kids grow up to be sufficiently technologically literate. But stuff like that is what happens when technology and/or education curriculum companies get together and convince schools that they need to sign a contract to use their pointless software/devices. Imagine what more productive things the teacher could have done with that five minutes besides embarrassing your daughter so she could tweet out a video of it. So my issue is less with the teacher doing this and more with what sounds like to be the culture in that school/classroom. But I'm also anti-helicopter parenting and would caution against going overboard with this. Chances are your daughter doesn't even realize what's transpired and just knows she needs help in math, which is something that both you and the teacher should get on the same page with and work towards.
I'd be pissed. Don't tell me my kid is struggling with math and then post a video for everyone to see of my kid struggling with math. Angriest I ever saw my mom at a teacher was when I did bad on 7th grade science test and then the science teacher went and bad mouthed me and my bad test score to his 6th grade science class.
I fail to see the reasoning behind "and I thought it would be helpful for other parents to see?" The issue isn't just the video, but the totality of the circumstances surrounding the video, which includes you telling us our daughter is struggling. Bitch.
“ok keep working on it” - How about Teach the child and help her through the part she is struggling with.
A well intentioned violation of privacy is still a violation. Don't go nuclear on the teacher, but don't leave any ambiguity about how you feel.
Appreciate the input everyone. I won’t bring anything up with the teacher. Going to focus my energy on the big picture. Bottom line is I need to work with my daughter on math. Thus I announce today I will be curtailing my M-F 7-7:30 pm internet trolling across all platforms. #RespectMyDecision
Hopefully your daughter understands the big picture and the impact this has on all our lives. Good luck.
Is there a substantial price difference? We have a graco 4ever for one of our kids but they’re still in the forward facing car seat, so I can’t speak of the booster seat at this point. If it’s a huge price difference, you would probably be fine with the 65 lbs one. Probably also depends on how big your kids are. My 7 yo weighs like 45 lbs so a 65 lb limit would be fine for us.
Have you checked slickdeals? Car seats usually have substantial sales that pop up on there. If you’re kids are small like ours, the upper weight limit probably isn’t a huge deal. As long as it can go rear, forward, and booster, that should be fine. Graco 4ever is pretty nice though. Maybe get one of each?
Ah, gotcha. By the time your kid is 4, 40 inches, 40 lbs, you will switch them to a booster. Might be worth the graco 4ever for that. I would buy one graco 4ever for the usual car the kid rides in and the cheaper one for the second car. That’s what we do.
Ended up just getting the 2 extends which should last him a while. When it's time e for booster ill just get the $30 seats and call it a day. But one each would have been a good idea too. Guess I still can. We had a gift card to buybuybaby so just did it there although Slickdeals is a damn good call. After coupons I think they were like $140 each.
More I think about itinerary considering doing the one and one now. He is in my car (SUV) a lot more so it could make sense.
I don’t really have much advice to give but just want to add that I’ve had to buy 12 car seats (4 each for my car, the Mrs, and the in-laws).
So were we but evidently I’m not quick enough on the out part. We practiced the while the wife is getting a c section for number 2 to have the tubes tied method.
I really don't want to get into because it is a long and horrific past for her, but pray for my gf, the little one is fine but she is asking to be admitted because of the thoughts she is having. Just thoughts and prayers for us just all bad but I'm glad she broke down before I lost her and our daughter.
Jesus. Glad yall caught it. Fingers crossed my wife never deals with it but Ive seen it before and as others have said, its no joke. Hope she is able to move past it quickly.
They don't want her just stuck in a room for the weekend with no therapy and a roommate so they recommend us staying with my parents for a few days and her starting outpatient therapy next week.
My son had another seizure this morning. This was number 4 since December. He was sleeping in our bed and my wife felt him shaking. Another febrile seizure but still scares the shit out of us. He had an EEG last week and it came back normal. They are still referring us to a neurologist to have them involved since it’s looking like this is going to be an ongoing thing. You just feel so helpless watching them. Really hope he is out of this phase soon.
Best possible outcome happened just surrounding her with family and friends and we will just relax in a safe environment for the weekend.
Prayers for y’all. One year old had a febrile seizure over Christmas. It’s a scary feeling just being helpless.
picked my 4 year old son from school. I guess for some reason they had one of the dads come in and speak to the class. He is an assistant DA. Asked my son what he learned. he said he learned that police men kill bad guys. should I have a problem with this? Tia.
A couple thoughts because these things have and will continue to come up. These are offered respectfully since parenting decisions are personal ones and I'm not here to assign value judgments on how to parent. First, I will operate on the assumption that your son may have misquoted or over-simplified what he learned in class. With all due respect to your son, I would be surprised for an ADA to make a statement like that in class, especially to kids that young. Second, is your problem with the school or the dad? Becuase even if the dad made an age-inappropriate (not to mention politically loaded) statement, the school couldn't have anticipated such lack of judgment out of someone who ought to know better. Third, instances like this are Exhibit "A" for why parenting is a non-delegable duty, and parents need to be involved in their children's learning outcomes. You have the chance now to have a conversation with your son about this and share your values with him, and start him on a path where he can learn to make his own decisions about the world as he gets older. Had you not inquired about what he learned, you might not have had that opportunity.
5 month old is sick for the first time and man does it suck. Just a bad cold, being really stuffed up and coughing but breaks my heart to see. She's a trooper though and hasn't been overly fussy at all and is still sleeping through the night.
Update: not only is she pregnant, she’s pregnant with fucking twins. I didn’t go back to the office and will be drinking bourbon on the couch until I pass out.
Hope they get their driving DNA from their old man...... Good luck man, I hope everything goes well and is awesome for you guys.
Last night (while trying to sleep) Cade (my son) and I had the following conversation: *Me laying peacefully* Cade: "Daddy, can I lay down with you?" Me: "Sure buddy" *Cade climbs into bed* Cade: "Thanks daddy, I had a nightmare and it was off the hook." Me : (smiling) "That's ok bears, I love you buddy" Cade: "I love you too" *silence * (Just when I am ABOUT TO BE ASLEEP) Cade: "Daddy, do I have an artificial hip?" Me: "What? No... Why would you think that?" Cade: "Oh, I thought I might, since I have an artificial wrist." Me: "You DON'T have an artificial wrist, what makes you think you do?" Cade: " Oh, I just thought I did." Me: Well, you don't... Goodnight son" *long silence * Cade : "Daddy, how do they get the cream inside of twinkies?" Me: "They use magic, son. Goodnight" Cade: "Oh, ok. Goodnight" *Long silence * Cade: "Daddy, why aren't you a professional wrestler?" Me: "Because I'm too skinny now GO TO SLEEP, DUDE! I HAVE TO BE UP IN LIKE, 3 HOURS" Cade: "You don't have to yell, I'm not 'death'" Me: *grits teeth for like, 20 minutes, then finally falls asleep*
Not really the same thing, but, ever since Christmas, my three year old asks me “Dada, do you see any moose in the sky?”
Hello, new member of the club checking in. First kid is 5 days old today. I’m running on caffeine and fear