The government and la leche league VASTLY over rate the benefits of breast feeding. Make sure the kid is full and make sure mom doesn’t feel guilty not breastfeeding. Everyone makes it seem like it is so easy, but it is not.
No reason to give up after four days, but support your wife in whatever she decides. No shame at all in doing formula.
Little one ate all of the extra breast milk that we had froze , but if not we were going to bring it to the women and infant center for the mom's that couldn't produce breast milk.
no problem because you probably didn't know, but if anyone else is in this scenario, please look online as there are numerous places to donate this for babies in need, through drug related births, homeless parents etc etc.
It was well over the time of viability. My wife had several health issues during breastfeeding where she had to go on medication. While she was probably safe to still breastfeed she decided not to. After the first episode I decided to freeze the excess and hord it in prep for something else popping up. I had read a few different freezer lifetimes online any where from 3 months to a year. When it really started to pile up I asked the pediatrician on our next visit and she was firm at 3 months being the cutoff. At that point the newest stuff I had on the deep freeze was right about at the 3 month point.
damn I've never heard 3 months, that seems short. we like the 5/5/5 rule. 5 hours on the counter, 5 days in the fridge, 5 months in the freezer. These are all conservative cause a lot of stuff will say 6-8 hours, 5-8 days, and 6-12 months, so 5/5/5 keeps you safe
Yeah and everything I read said it doesn’t really ‘go bad’. Just looses nutritional value. The pediatrician acted like I asked her if it was ok to blow cigarette smoke into my sons face while he slept.
BFF is a Pediatric Dietitian and acknowledges the breastfed vs. formula argument is irrelevant as long as little one is getting enough food and nutrition. Do what's best for you and your family. There's nothing wrong with supplementing or going to formula exclusively. She wanted to breastfeed our little one but it wasn't going to be the end of the world if it didn't work out. Days 3-7 were quite rough when her milk came in and got so engorged she could barely get baby latched on. She will cry. It gets better over time. Just support her. And don't be afraid to use the lactation consultants at the pediatrician office.
Its more common than you think. I know your wife is likely having a tough time with it. Ours was born about a year ago. He had trouble latching and also had breastfeeding jaundice so we started supplementing formula so that he could flush out the jaundice. Went about 6 weeks till I told the wife it was ok to just go all formula. Just be supportive and let her know that moving to Formula isn't the end of the world. Its just expensive. Go ahead and become a rewards member for Formula so you get the coupons.
THIS! The lactation consultant at the hospital was no help. Wife went to a Group Lactation thing at the hospital a few weeks later and it helped her alot.
We've gone through a couple of different lactation consultants, but emotionally things have been much better on the formula. And it's comforting to know that he's getting enough to eat. Wife has an app that tracks meal times, poops/pees on a cloud or login basis, so we can both add to it? Hers is saved locally
Two formula babies here. The first go round sucked (lots of guilt), but the second one was an easy decision. The amount of bullshit that is spewed about breastfeeding vs formula feeding still blows my mind (if you take it all at face value). It’s like a bunch of new parent scare tactics.
Wife hated breastfeeding with the first one so she has already told me we aren't doing it with the second one. I'd prefer breastfeeding but it's not my body so I keep my mouth shut on that one. What's really going to suck is with the first one I slept on the couch downstairs so that I could get some sleep. I don't get any paternity leave and there wasn't anything I could really do to help overnight anyway since she was breastfeeding. I am guessing that's not going to fly with the second one being on formula.
Have done formula from the start with all 3 of my kids, wife's decision and no regrets. She was happy, so I was happy.
Little fella was a champ last night. We got 2 hour naps between each 3 hour feeding from 8 pm to 8 am. I feel alive. For anyone on the fence about the snoo smart bed - it's been awesome
Not many people gonna be on the fence about a $1300 baby bassinet lol! Glad it's working for you though!
Let's just say that my wife and I were on different sides of this particular fence, but after a few nights of 1 hour of sleep, I'd give a kidney for 15 minutes more of sleep each night
if you know you're having multiple kids, and you get it before kid 1, it's a lot easier to stomach the number of items my wife and I have 'been on the fence' about with kid 2 is staggering, and my cheap ass can't do it cause I know this is our last kid. There is always Facebook Market after ha
We looked a little at the Snoo. My understanding is that even though MSRP is $1300 or whatever they were pretty consistently running sales to mark them down to 7 or 800.
Yeah... my wife got it on black Friday, where it was cut down quite a bit. The accessories are silly, though
Been treating Lil Bishop for an ear infection for almost a week. Today he woke up with a rash on his torso. Called the Pediatrician and like we thought it is a reaction to the medicine an not a big deal. In-Laws are watching him today and of course freaking out and think its getting worse. So now my wife is on the way home to take him to the pediatrician so they can say its normal just keep an eye on it.
I am really struggling with my 4 year old as of late. He’s such an asshole and just sucks the life out of everything. It’s almost to the point where I don’t want to be around him. I know it’s only temporary, but that little bastard can kiss my ass for now.
I was there last fall with our then 3 year old. He would range from super sweet to on the verge of getting kicked out of daycare. Getting him to bed was a nightmare because he would fight every step and had mastered avoidance. We brought in a child psychologist that helped train us to talk less...one direction then use our body to block or motion him to what he was supposed to do; give forced choices (do you want X or Y) instead of open ended options; only give choices when we truly don’t care but never when we wanted a specific outcome (put your shoes on instead of do you want to put your shoes on?); etc. The biggest game changer was at bedtime we would offer 2 books every night but he would lose them as punishment if he was naughty and she changed it to if he is delaying to ignore it and go start reading the book. He would suddenly stop fighting and come sit on our lap and let us brush teeth or put pjs on. There is more but those were the really easy to change things and I can provide more if it’s helpful. Edit: We also did a lot of teaching while he was playing and the big things were teaching delayed response (when he asks for a toy, hold it tight and make him ask please and just delaying until we let go of it) as well as getting him comfortable with the game not being played exactly how he wants and making him comfortable with not controlling every situation.
I feel you. The three year old has been a terror. My fiancé his mom cries nightly thinking shes a bad mom.
Son turned 1 Thursday. Plan was to go to the Dallas Aquarium but lunch ran long so we ended up just walking around Dealey Plaza. Party is today and got a bunch of family in town, should be fun. Side note wife wanted to make a video full of clips/pictures from pregnancy till now. Probably took 12+ hours to make. Ended being 11 minutes long but it’s pretty fucking awesome.
Been meaning to make an entrance into this thread. My little guy is 3 months old now and he’s pretty awesome. To the poster who’s wife is struggling with milk production my wife was the same way but she is hell bent on giving him what she can for as long as she can, which is great. So we’ve been adding formula to the breastmilk to give him all the oz that he needs for the day.
Once a month or so my wife mentions that we made baby books for The older two but keep putting off Making one For #3. He’s 7 now.
At what age did you realize your kid’s farts smell just like your own? Had a proud moment with my 5-mo. old boy today.
Going through the same. This has been The best remedy https://www.target.com/p/fridababy-...nxBsMUUCNQicB8q9KNRoCIM4QAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds
My wife was like the Mohave desert. We started supplementing with formula after about three weeks (should’ve started sooner). We were formula only by 8 wks
My wife had a module removed from one breast when she was in her early 20s and, fast forward ten years later, that breast produced far less milk than the other due to the scar tissue. She really wanted to breastfeed and we made it work for the first kid - mostly. The problem is, once the kid got used to how easy the bottle is, he didn’t want to work to get the breast milk anymore. Even with the toughest bottle nipples.
*UPDATE*UPDATE*UPDATE* Baby Dahl2 decided he didn't really want to sleep for ~36 hours over friday night/saturday, so Mrs. Dahl and I were staring at each other wondering who could justify the $1300 more... We laughed and agreed no way.. then went to their webpage Guess what?! You can rent the Snoo now. You read that right, for $105 the first month, and $5/day the next month it can be yours. We only need to get through 3 months to get him to belly sleeping age (his brother is a belly sleeper and our lives changed when he could roll over and sleep that way). So ours will be shipping this week, unfortunately may not get here for a week or so, but we are holding out hope it works. Will update when I can Snoo Rental - link
Last night little ned's diaper exploded in the snoo at 3. We only had 1 mattress cover and one small swaddle sack, so he had to go in the crib. It was terrifying. My advice would be to order several extras of those each. That thing is awesome.
Started potty training Mini Boomette yesterday. Went the first half of the day with no accidents and did awesome. We went outside to play, where she promptly peed herself. Later that day she deuced her drawers and peed again later. At least it’s daycare’s problem today.
Pray it works for ya man. Sounds like ya'll were the same but I couldn't imagine buying that thing and it not working. Smart of them to start renting.