Here's a tough one. I invoked some of my best friends, my mentors at work, sister, etc. Why not invoke trusted brethren of an internet message board of matters pertaining to college football and assorted whimsy? Daughter, our first, is now 3 months. Mom's maternity leave ends after next week, we've got her lined up for daycare at this kick ass Spanish immersion daycare, infant-pre-K. We're paying for five days per week (there's no difference b/w 4-5 days, only price decrease is when you go to 3/5). Anyway, that's not the issue. My folks have really had their hearts set on taking care of her one day per week. They have to drive 60-90min into Minneapolis to do this. Problem is, my mom's fairly newly diagnosed with pretty goddamn early onset Alzheimer's (dx'd at about age 60). My dad's fine, but doesn't really know fuck all about caring for an infant. My mom has a lot of visio-spatial issues at this point in her disease. Hand-eye shit is really problematic. Watched her try to put Charlotte into her little swing and fuck if she didn't almost undershoot by 6 in and drop her straight onto the floor. Memory is also a concern. Keeps asking me the same questions I answered 5 min ago. Will she forget she just fed her? Will she put her in the tub and step away forgetting she's there? Unfortunately, I'm a GP physician, and know waaaaaaaaaaaaaay more than I wish I knew about the natural history of Alzheimers and therefor know that someone with Alzheimers can do what they can do until precisely the time they can't, and that's when accidents happen. Also,rather unfortunately, I spent a lot of my training in the pediatric ICU, dealing with too many infant deaths related to preventable accidents. Also, for a time, thought it'd be cool to be a medical examiner, so poured a hefty amount of training time into forensic pathology, and did too many autopsies on babies from the same circumstances. Can't get these dead kids out of my mind. I have literally zero anxiety about our friends, my colleagues, wife's friends and family absconding with our daughter for indefinite periods of time. I think I'd be pretty cool with a complete stranger doing it too tbqh. I just can't think about my parents taking care of her and not shake the idea that, on a long enough timeline, something terrible could happen. And now I gotta find a way to have this conversation with my folks about it, which will be pretty devastating to them. Am I fucking paranoid? People got any relatable circumstances/experiences? TIA GBR NFM RonBurgundy you got any moranic hot takes?