I’m not some demanding pig that requires my wife to bend over whenever I desire, but the words that come out of my mouth immediately after that second nut are usually “You understand that these last 10 minutes () will make things so much easier on everyone for the next few days?” The worst part is, her response is usually “I know. I needed that one, too.” Thankfully, neither of us want a third at all. I’m 40 with young kids. That’s late enough.
She was that way after that 2nd one because it was tough, but something changed, and I failed to find enough time to get snipped.
got my wife listening to podcasts with this kiddo, cause she will throw in headphones and listen while nursing (especially when he was little), and it has allowed us to find some podcasts that are so helpful to her as a mom/wife. "Don't Mom Alone" is a great resource if any of your wives like podcasts already. The episode "Overcoming Barriers to Sexual Intimacy" was HUGE for her. It's a faith based podcast, so will have that background, but they dive into the main problems women bring into marriage that cause intimacy issues with their husbands. One of the best ideas is, women's main sexual organ is their brain. They have to train their brain to think about sex more, because their husbands are. we've done some really solid marriage counseling so she knows that one of my basic needs as a man/husband is sex, so she cuts out time for it when we can, even if it's not full sex but just a way for me to finish with her, I'll take it as it increases frequency as well. But to get into the frame of mind more often, the podcast above really helped frame it well for her.
Hang in there man. You guys will have to discuss it at some point because not doing so will cause it to blow up even more. Not sure what your specific concerns are, but I discussed having a second the other night with my fiancé. We already have one, and it’s great, but I’m not sure I want a second. She definitely wants a second and is upset that I am keeping the door open to only having one. Yes it’s selfish, but I like my freedom. We like to travel together and I like going to concerts, playing golf, going to ballgames, etc. It’s going to be much harder to have someone watch two kids for the weekend compared to one if we want to get away. I feel less guilty leaving her with one kid than I would with two. I’m worried about the stress of two kids combined with stress at work and the effect it will have on our relationship. I’m not sure if having my life consumed with taking care of two kids is the life I want. We had a scare recently (test was negative, thankfully), and I already started to feel resentment at the possibility. I know it’s tough reasoning with a pregnant lady, but it’s probably a good idea to have a discussion sooner than later and get your feelings out there so you don’t resent each other and cause bigger relationship issues
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Have you guys ever tried selling your house while trying to raise a 3 year old and a 2 month old? If not, I highly recommend it.
Cry it out worked great. Now my kid doesn't cry st all. He just gets pissed off and takes his diaper off and throws it across the room.
we used the Ferber method. It was brutal for about 2 weeks and now he goes down pretty well. I would recommend doing naps the same way for consistency. We didn’t do it, and we’re paying the price now.
the first went 45-15-5 and then nothing have a feeling this dude is gonna give us a little more of a fight though
Just finished selling my house and moving to a new home. On my own, not married. Have a 9 and 6 year old. It has gone as well as I could have ever imagined. My kids are awesome. Just finished putting together their new bunk bed today. Note: 9 and 6 is much different than the scenarios you guys are discussing, I just wanted to say you can do it. You got this.
Congrats! Ours hits the market tomorrow. Hoping it’s quick and painless (it wont be). Oh and me and my wife were sick all weekend while we were cleaning so that was fun. We got through the deep clean at least though. Fingers crossed now.
Mostly in the spring/summer months, yes. We have a 10, 2.5 and 1 year old. It's like every day is something else. The current stress inducing situation is after months of not doing anything for ourselves, my wife and I have like 4 "events" coming up within the next 2 weeks that we need someone to watch the kids for. My mom watches the two littles for 3 days during the week so we feel bad asking her and my dad for anything additional, and my wifes family is generally unavailable. The thought of paying a sitter for this stuff is just annoying me. On top of that our frequency in the bedroom has been declining pretty steadily which is also frustrating and there is just constant tension in the house with the 10 year old not doing what is asked of him and the littles having their moments.
Accidentally kicked a ball directly to the face of my two and a half yo nephew. We were all play soccer in the hard with a big bouncy ball. I was trying to get it over his head to my son in law. I guess I got caught up in the moment all Messi style. But some extra umph into it and let it sail. Squarely in the face. He looked at me for about three seconds stunned the crippled to the ground. Felt really bad.
We're finally doing a co-op babysitting thing with our friends who have a boy who is 1 now (our daughter is 2) so we can just go out for a few hours and come back. I watched their boy so they could go see a movie, and now my friend is going to watch our daughter this Saturday for a few hours so we can have a quick date. We're making sure to not ask them to do a ton of feeding/playing either since we're all tired, just come over and put our daughter to bed after we've already bathed her and chill for a couple of hours on your phone.
So we moved our 3 year old up to the 4s this week. He’ll be 4 in a couple months but it’s amazing the difference he’s had. We teach good behavior at home but I guess being around a little older kids helps reinforce that being a turd isn’t acceptable.
Today marked the first day of many of picking a kid up from school. So excited to be an official step father tomorrow. He’s my best man and he could be more excited.
Kids in bed. Wife out for girls night. Basil Hayden’s in hand. US Open on the tv. Happy Father’s Day weekend.
My wife goes back to work next week after taking a year off. Can’t wait to get that extra paycheck again.
My kids will be in school in two years. My wife is a nurse and can make $50k annually working 25 hours per week with very little life interruption. She’s already starting to lay the groundwork to work as little as possible yet still live the lifestyle that her extra $50k would afford us. Divorce will certainly be an option if she thinks that Peg Bundy life is in her future.
She is a critical care contract nurse at a children’s hospital. She can make $50/hr on a weekend night shift depending on incentive pay for the period. Edit: she’s working at the cardio icu today for $38/hr. She’ll bring home ~$350 this shift. I just need that to happen twice a week and preferably not on the weekend when I have to watch the kids.
My wife is a nurse and has been doing 20 hour weeks since the birth of our first kid. We have found that’s a good number for her to get out and have human interaction (lol), bring in some cash and cover all health care cost for the family. She also gets five days a week home with the kids so she’s hands on enough to make a big difference. Not sure what will happen when our 1 year old turns 3 and is in full day pre-school 5 days a week. Maybe she increases her hours at that point.
Didn’t know I’d find things like her falling asleep on my chest or that baby smell so satisfying. Today my wife was feeding her sans diaper (because she’s just peed in one) and she dropped a massive shit right in my wife’s hand. I absolutely lost it. The best part was having to wait 10-15 seconds before cleanup to make sure the baby was done.
I sold my coupe for a sweet SUV thinking I’d get to drive it half the time. I thought wrong. When #2 comes along I’m trading in my wife’s civic, buying her a van, and taking it back.
I agree completely. You don’t feel the need for a van until you’re doing multiple car seats and hauling crap everywhere you go. I can’t imagine what it would be like if my wife still had her CRV instead of the odyssey.
My one year old had a bad stomach bug. 7 days later we might be out in the clear. Nothing I hate more than smelling like that nasty junk coming out.
I’m trying SO HARD to convince my wife to get a van next. She wants an SUV. I know she’s wrong, on some level she knows she’s wrong, but yet she persists
Have you taken her to see some? My wife was fuck no to Vans then I took her to test ride one and she told me she was OK if I ended up going that route.
Yes, we have test driven plenty. I think I can get her to come around but I’m not sure. She admits it’s irrational but still insists she wants an SUV
Dang, my wife was so pro SUV till I showed her a nicely loaded van. She didn’t love the idea but was ok with it. I ended going with a suv lol