LadyPokes is over 35 so doc ordered genetic/chromosomal tests (all good) and as a happy bonus we got the sex early. Having a son. (Jk daughter dads woulda been thrilled w a girl too) Any of you guys have partners that were a bit...err...overeducated on pop pregnancy stuff? I.e., books/journals/websites/blogs/etc...? I’m good with letting 99% of everything slide, but if I can’t stamp out some of this lysteria fear-mongering, there won’t be anything left in the fridge to eat. Would appreciate any suggestions.
We got rejected for genetic testing with #2 even though they approved it for our 14 month old previously. Did the first trimester screen ultrasound this morning though and got the “we can’t say for sure but you're probably having a boy.” On one hand, super excited for two boys under 2 that will (hopefully) be best friends. On the other hand, my wife is already talking about #3.
Haha. My wife was pretty anal the first go around. Amongst obvious things, she stayed away from soft serve ice cream and things like blizzards etc, but would eat mayfield’s if she was jonesing. She would stay away from goat cheese and Brie as well as deli meat. If she was only offered deli meat, she would just nuke it. I mean just be careful, and don’t be stupid, but don’t ruin yourself or others over it.
I wish this was me. Don’t get me wrong I’m thankful and blessed and stoked (and terrified) to be having a daughter second, but I want more than two and I’m worried the wife is going to be done after this one.
8 hour drive vs hour fifteen flight? Fly alllll dayyyyy. Some guy at work tried telling me he was making the smarter decision driving 16 hours (twice within 2 weeks) with a 3 and 1 year old rather than flying twice (2 hour flight). Lets just say he did not have a good time.
The Key with checking a Car Seat is when you're exhausted and trying to get home quickly make sure you grab the right car seat bag. Bc when you grab the wrong one the rightful owners get very angry when it takes 15-20min to get back to the baggage claim.
We do an 18 hour drive through the night to Wisconsin every year to go to my wife's family's lake house. AMA
Well my brother had his twins at 27 weeks last night via c section. Sounds like everything went pretty well. My sister in law has been in the hospital since sometime late November or early December and developed a fever last night so they decided it was best to take them out to prevent any problems with the kids or mom. Luckily they are at the Stead Family Children's hospital at the U of I hospitals and clinics(think iowa wave) which is top notch and has a really high preemie survival rate. Pretty excited to have a new niece and nephew but nervous of what is to come.
Name three songs you listen to with your kids that you kind of enjoy but might have never heard or enjoyed (or certainly not ever searched for to listen to) if it weren't for the kid(s) Me recently: -uptown funk by bruno mars -sugar by maroon 5 -cant stop the feeling by justin Timberlake
Unfortunately that anxiety is based on fear and hard to argue with. Mantra my wife has is “common things are common” to try to keep her brain from focusing on the bad .1% outcome. There’s a big difference between “will”, “could”, and “might”.
Oldest turned 6 today and my other daughter will be 3 in 10 days. Amazing how fast this goes. We have the joint bday on Saturday at pump it up. Should be a good turn out with about 25 kids total. Glad it’s not at our house. Also gave the oldest her bday present last night, Barbie dream house. She screamed with excitement...it was awesome. I’m having daddy daughter bday breakfast with her this morning on Dunkin’ Donuts. Great day.
My 4 year old is obessed with this song. "Alexa, play can't stop the feeling" is a phrase I hear in our house a lot.
I'll have 3 under 3 in May - assuming everything goes well. I'll let you know how it goes. my two oldest are girls, but the third is a boy.
Wait till they figure out to say "everywhere" after the song name We get it randomly playing in the whole house
Oh, he tries that because we had it set up at our old house but right now we are living with my in-laws while our new house is being built so we only have the one Alexa and we've contained it to his room.
Congrats, I"m sure the 3rd will be worth it. I have b, g, b with the two oldest 16 months apart and it sucked. 3 kids is so different than 2 kids it's not even funny. Enjoy
We are constantly discussing the idea of a 3rd. We are both only 30 so there's plenty of time to wait. Our general agreement right now is don't even consider it until the oldest is out of day care and kindergarten and we are in our next house. Logic tells us 2 kids is plenty but emotionally it would be fun to have a third.
we always talked about having three and felt comfortable with it. I originally wanted to wait a year since it would give us just one year with three kids in daycare, and it would give us a chance to find a four-bedroom house we like, but my wife made the argument that she wanted to get being pregnant over with and get her body back and not wait a year knowing any work she did was just going to be lost on the third kid anyway so we just decided we'd figure it out. we already moved the two girls into the same room and the youngest sleeps like a rock so it's worked out well and we will be able to wait a couple of years until we find something we really like that will be our forever-home.
Our plan was to always to have two. 3 kids in 18 months later, we have a 32 month old daughter and 17 month old B/G twins. It’s an absolute shit show (especially the first year) but wife is happy the girls have a sister and I got a boy.
5 yo and 3 yo boys here. Love em to death, but I don’t ever want to go through it again. We are both too old and I can’t afford more kids.
We weren’t ready for another, much less two. Found out we were having twins and just sat there in the doctors office with my head in my hands in disbelief. Went home, started drinking Basil Hayden’s, and woke up after passing out on the bathroom floor sometime after dark.
We are having two under 2 with the wife due in July and had to move up our moving plans about 6 months. We want 3 and so now the discussion is all about timing of the 3rd. That is tbd depending on how this pregnancy goes.
For us, my wife tracks her ovulation. Any of the 5-6 pills she tried and any inserts made her super sick—like constant nausea and vomiting. She didn’t start taking the pill though until just before we were married. I know a lot of girls start when they’re 12-13. She tracked her cycle successfully for 3 years prior to having our first and we would just abstain from penetration for about 6-8 days each cycle or use a condom which neither of us obviously prefer but has to be used on occasion. She got pregnant with our first in the second month of trying. For the second, which was a surprise, she believes it was due to a combination of things. Our son was about 11 months old and got roseola. In doing so, he stopped breastfeeding for almost 10 days and subsequently, my wife’s supply basically dried up. It was no big deal as we were already supplementing with formula for one feeding a day, but in doing so she believes it really jacked with her cycle. She also restarted her period prior to stopping breastfeeding which isn’t super unusual but not typical either. Basically we had sex on a day that was “safe” each month the previous 3+ years. She got sick with a stomach bug shortly after so she knows what day it was that month and boom here we are. She’s actually happy now that the shock wore off because of the stress that comes with conceiving. With that said, we will be extremely careful and probably use strips after our daughter gets here. I don’t think I want three under 3 or even 4.
Mines 2 and I’m in this boat. Wife was in this boat but she has turned back to for sure wanting two. She’s in no rush and not worried about a decent gap between them. We also haven’t ruled out adoption which at the moment I think I’m more into than having another of our own. My kid was colicky as a baby but for the most part now he’s easy. I just feel one is enough for me but we shall see.
We’ve tried for the past four months to no success but she had an IUD removed when we got married and that typically takes 6 months to get out of her system. Were not tracking anything but giving it the good college try every month.
Took us like...five months and my wife started religiously tracking every metric once we started. I wanted to do it your way, instead it became a damn science experiment.
Yeah. It got like that for us. We took last month off. Re evaluated some things and decided it wasn’t worth it to do it that way. More of if it happens it happens type approach.
IUD all the way. She took it out herself when we started trying for the second. We had an ectopic pregnancy a month later. Surgery to remove that and we were pregnant with our daughter a month after that. Both situations they told us it would take months and several cycles to go through before she could get pregnant. We are just very fertile.
Pretty sure I've said it here before but I think my brother had sex with his wife once after their first child and she got pregnant with the second cause she told him she couldn't get pregnant.
My wife told me the same thing. We weren’t planning on having kids. The OBGYN techs were honestly amazed that she was able to get pregnant.
it took us 18 months (she was tracking her cycle) and fertility drugs to have our first. Wife stopped birth control when our boy 10.5 months old thinking it would take a little time to get pregnant again and 2 weeks later she was pregnant again.
On the topic of women over 35, we are 14 weeks pregnant with our 3rd. We did the ultrasound and genetic test and screened positive for Down Syndrome which means there is a 95% likelihood. We are doing amniocentesis next week to confirm. Wish us luck. I'm numb with total disbelief right now.
This was us several years ago. We had 3 miscarriages before having our first and wife had complications during pregnancy. That factored in with just the strain of parenting we talked and decided one was good for us. Wife goes in for her yearly 3 days later and she’s already 3-4 weeks pregnant. We now have a 6 and almost 3 year old. As crazy as life is right now and as much as they drive us crazy I couldn’t picture life any other way. Also, wife got tubes tied while having the second so we’re for sure done now.
We/wife starts the IVF journey today. Have a two year old but for whatever reasons couldn't get pregnant again. Really frustrating since there's technically nothing wrong with either of us, but we 100% want at least one more kid and here we are after 2 years of trying for a second. Super excited and nervous at the same time.
My son is 5 months old, wife goes back to work next week and I take my paternity leave for 8 weeks......excited and nervous at the same time to be Mr. Mom lol but our daycare is going to be 2k a month so we set it up this way to save 4K in day care costs
best of luck! My wife and I did IVF in 2017 and it didn’t work out......2018 go see a naturalist for a fraction of the cost and boom it worked