Baby girl got her first round of shots today. Have never heard her cry like that. Heartbreaking. Luckily it only lasted like 30 seconds, but whew.
Came to make a joke about how I’m still kind of a shithead but I like this one so I’ll stick with it.
Monday lil man (15) was home with no school so his gf came over. Wife and I working upstairs. Them watching movie in basement. 45 min after she got here I got off a call and went to first floor to tell down hi to her in basement. No response. x4. Walk down totally dark. Think they must have come up and gone outside. Went to grab a drink from bar fridge and heard shower running. Of course they’re both in there. yay
This one sucks and was also glad the crying was so short. Gave my baby girl covid and felt like a helpless piece of shit while she was coughing, crying, and napping all day. Fucking hated myself because I thought I was so careful and fucked up. I teared up so damn much that day.
Man, and I thought I had a pair getting an HJ on the second floor growing up (our stairs creaked so bad you couldn’t sneak up or down them).
Driving home from picking my older kid up from daycare and she says she wants a big hug. We get home and out of the car, I pick her up and give her a hug. She rips a huge fart right on my arm. The hug gave her just that much extra force too. She then laughed and pointed at me saying “hey stinker!” She’s almost 3. Diabolical.
my son is a partier and basically waited until junior year to fucking care his IQ is sky high but it's irrelevant bc he did not use it for anything other than sneaking around since he turned 13/14yo it's like he looked at his parents and our focus on academics (lawyers who met at a v good school etc) and just rebelled at 100 pct of what we tried to tell him my wife cries a lot bc she thinks she failed waking him up in the morning in time for HS (why must they start at 7am? it's ridiculous) guarantees a fight for me literally 5 days a week before I go to my contentious as shit job so basically the last 2.5 years have been dogshit I think he will end up fine but it has been terrible for the household and all my friends just 24/7 brag about their perfect teens I want them all to die in a fire, fuck your perfect kids bitch none of his friends have any rules so the relatively little we have him do makes it seem to him that we are Dr Mengele (contextually) our generation of parents is pure ratshit, i'll be taking 0 replies on that btw we parent my 14yo daughter the same, raised em the same she is great nothing makes sense i understand nothing eat arbys thanks for the vine
Parenting is absolutely the hardest most frustrating thing you can do. There are days when I think we all feel like we have failed our kids in one way or another. I’m fine eating Arbys but you better get mozz sticks or crinkle fries because their curly fries are mushy and taste like they’ve been bathed in toilet water.
In looking at my sons friends I would agree that I feel like other parents suck at doing this. However I try to keep it in perspective of that I may not know what they are going through and only see a piece of the picture. My son has generally been great. Does not sneak out, and has even called to be picked up because where he was spending the night was planning on sneaking out to do hood rat shit. He has had multiple friends caught dealing this year. One of his friends lit the jr high on fire last year and got expelled. He made a bad decision here but I think he realizes that and has been introspective about it. overall we are very lucky with our son. I don’t think we’ve done much right but just failed backwards into being lucky most days.
Currently running late for work because the kiddo passed out on me after his morning bottle. Zero regrets.
But I do think it’s a duty we owe other parents is letting them know that not everything is always perfect and that you can do everything you can to provide and be a good parent but sometimes kids do dumb ass shit. We all will deal with issues as we parent and no one has that perfect child despite how much we’d like to think it.
I am a huge proponent of this. With the internet, social media, mommy bloggers, etc, there has been a proliferation of outward appearance importance (and falsehoods) that drives me insane. I tell people almost daily “I’m glad it doesn’t only happen in my house”, we chat for a few seconds, and move on. Parenting is hard as fuck and we aren’t always going to get it right. Just do your best and let the chips fall.
Eh, I never believe the parents that brag on their kid or say they are so good/perfect. It's all usually a bullshit lie to try and have their kid at the top of the totem pole. Many of us, like yourself, can see right through it. I also have a 14yr old daughter who at times, can be a complete B.
this is my first so I’m experiencing all the excitement of that plus the fear of being responsible for a life.
Sounds like my Brother. Incredibly intelligent. Teachers would constantly try to fail him bc he wouldn't do any homework or assignments but then get 100% on all the tests. It got real bad when I left for college. He had some really hard years. He's great now. But it took sometime to get him interested in a trade and now he's pulling in some big money.
How much of having a kid that does shitty things is because of the friends they get closer to as they grow older? Genuinely curious and honestly have no idea what would you even do if they had shitty friends because my thought is the more you try to distance them from those friends, the closer they will get to them. I am a terrible example because I partied in high school and didn't take it seriously and even struggled in college, but still landed a pretty decent gig. My wife was the opposite and had an extremely strict household and really focused on her school. My daughter is 9 months old, so have a long ass time before I have to really start worrying about that. Also, pregnant with the 2nd, but we just found out not too long ago and is not due until December timeframe.
I think friends are a factor but it depends. Obviously I’m not pleased with mine right now but he was honest and is owning his actions and consequences. The highlights of his friends group in the last two years (8th grade and this much of 9th): -arson to school property. Burned down a middle school bathroom. -vehicle theft, a kid stole a Gator from a construction site and drove it around town for a week -two kids caught dealing -most of his friends drink, smoke pot and have sex My son: -terrible shower decision -straight a’s -athlete -doesn’t sneak out -no drinking, smoking, etc Sure his friends and him do stupid shit like start massive campfires in forests but when they go off the deep end he normally just heads home. They are all kids he grew up with since he was like 5. If you had to label it they’d be the popular group and athletes at school. All good looking and smart kids just some can’t make a good decision to save their lives. When the one boy burned up the school bathroom most of my parent friends called us asking which one of my sons friends I thought did it. They’re all great when they’re here, polite, respectful, normal. They know they can’t get away with it here and respect my wife and I. Most will talk to us about their issues since their folks don’t really engage with them. A lot are kids I coached in baseball for years and are like surrogate kids anyways.
Just put of curiosity, and for my own future possible need for reference, what are the consequences yall are giving him for the shower thing?
More just how much freedom they are allowed when they are over here. No more coming over while we are working. They’ll have to watch more tv on the middle level than the basement. Those types of things. We didn’t want to make sex a bad thing, they said they didn’t and had only been in there like three minutes, so more them having to earn our trust back if that makes sense.
this is a constant cat and mouse thing - my son does his fornicating outside of the house since "I HAVE NO PRIVACY HERE DAD WTF"
Growing up, we would all drive to remote locations and have sex in the backseats of our cars. I live in a bigger city now and I struggle to understand where and and when my kids will be having sex when they are teenagers. I sure as hell don't want them to do it in my basement, but at the same time I'm aware that teenagers are going to sleep together regardless. So I guess I'm not sure what kind of boundaries we will set with our kids. But I do know I don't want them getting arrested or even go through the embarrassment of getting caught having sex in public.
We are on our last month of pharmaceuticals of a 6 month regiment to try and get lucky for kid #2 (wife has issues that conception is not even possible without intervention). I don’t see myself changing my mind about the waste of money IVF is considering age and odds at a live birth. I am open to a foster or adoption but wife is dead set on a 2nd with our DNA. Please send help…
My wife is 13 months older than her sister and wanted our kids to be close in age. I just want 2 kids then calling it good.
I got a guy in my AA meeting that has a surrogate that lives in Oklahoma. I live in Mississippi. I think there’s some people that do that a lot.
No judgment here, that’s a solid plan. My wife HATED both of her pregnancies so I was just thinking about what sort of mental breakdown there would have been if I came home to a positive test 9 months after our first