Official Dads of TMB Thread

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  1. Snakes

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    You will find the answers here varying significantly. We found the sooner you get the kid out the better for everyone’s sleep. I am convinced the newborn can smell mama and it will make them fuss more. Probably not the case but it felt that way. We moved the first out at four months, second out around the second month and third was our after about a month. Nurseries were always the next door over so getting them wasn’t a big deal.
     
  2. Where Eagles Dare

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    Jeeze, you kept your kids in your room for 12 months?

    We did 3 or 4.
     
  3. kezarmyaj

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    wife 'planned' to have our first in the room for 9 months and I think we made it about 2 before moving her to her own room. second one stayed in our room for about 3 weeks.

    save your sanity and move them as soon as you feel comfortable
     
  4. Where Eagles Dare

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    We've started using timeout. It's really hard to not laugh. He sulks, does his fake cry, and goes an sits in the corner all by himself.
     
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  5. Marbles

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    Gonna have to start time out soon. I spoil the shit out of my daughter. My problem is I can’t get away from holding her. If I put her down she’ll cling to my leg and cry. Constantly wants me to hold her. Last week I wouldn’t and she ran crying to my wife saying Daddy won’t hold me.
     
  6. NoNatty

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    Yeah, my wife was/is a psycho and didn’t mind it (in all reality she is an amazing mom).
     
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  7. rcragg82

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    12 months is a long time. You could have sleep training and they sleep through the night well before that time.

    I think we were around 3 months. But we are also the parents whose kid has never slept in their bed. Easier to break or change routines if they aren't long lasting routines.
     
  8. Rabid

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    That seems like hockey here. Our 6 year olds are 2 per week for baseball.
     
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  9. Rabid

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    6 months. I would have earlier but my wife wanted much longer. I put my foot down on 6 months. After moving them out, both wife and baby slept better.
     
  10. Rabid

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    That is the case. First time my son slept through the night was when my wife left on a work trip. Kept happening after that. They know the mom is there and want the milk.
     
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  11. Snakes

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    now that i think about it the exact situation happened with my oldest.
     
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  12. Funshot Residue

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    Our little guy has had his own room the entire time. We did put a bed in there, and we took turns sleeping in there for the first week, but he has been in his crib, in his room, since he came home. 4 months old, but has slept through the night since 10 weeks. Hit the kiddo lottery with this one.
     
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  13. killerwvu

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    Kid slept in his own room starting on day 1
     
  14. NC Wolfpack

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    What’s everyone’s opinions on pacifiers? Have a 4 week old and have been trying to avoid using one, but there are times we cannot calm him down and a paci has been the only way to do so. Main concern is him becoming dependent on it forming issues down the road.
     
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  15. bigred77

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    They are clutch for calming babies
    Don't worry about taking it away until like 2 years old, imo
     
  16. Funshot Residue

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    100% okay. Our dude used one til he found his thumb, and now wants nothing to do with it. May not be fun to break the habit, but we're better parents when we're all rested.
     
  17. Baron

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    This. Binky/pacifier fairy comes at 2 and just throw them all away. It’s easier than you think NC Wolfpack
     
  18. bigred77

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    Yep, when you can tell them "big boys don't need binky's" and they are old enough to understand and want to be a big boy, it's pretty easy
     
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  19. Rabid

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    Our oldest self soothed with his fingers. The 2nd was addicted to pacifiers. It was much easier to break her of the pacifier addiction than it has been to break him from sucking on his fingers.
     
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  20. ButchCassidy

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    I was against them, cause I have seen what it can lead to as far as behavior, lol, but my wife did make the point it’s better than them learning to suck their thumb. At least you can take them away, thumbs are there forever.
     
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  21. infected donkey

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    Our kid is 18 months and only wants a binky when hes falling asleep, so nap time then at bedtime.
     
  22. a.tramp

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    I made my wife sleep in the nursery the last 3 weeks of pregnancy. I win!
     
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  23. Clemson327

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    My kids were in the bath tonight, and my three year old says, “fucking heck!” My wife and I couldn’t understand it at first so we asked our seven year old who then repeated it. We’re making a late run for parents of the year!
     
  24. NoNatty

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    yeah our first 2 were up every 3 hours. Both slept through the night the first night they were in their own room.

    we didn’t use one for our first two kids. They both suck their fingers. Using one with the third.
     
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  25. Rabid

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    So in essence you moved your son to his own room 3 weeks before birth. Well played.
     
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  26. Rabid

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    I was against it too but our daughter had colic and cried constantly. When you’ve listened to a baby cry for 3-4 hours every night from 6-10 pm what you are against becomes more flexible.
     
  27. Snakes

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    my 3.5 year old girl still sucks her thumb. none of them ever took pacifers. 6 month old seems like a thumb sucker too.
     
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  28. infected donkey

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    First kid was moved out at 4 months time when he was sleeping through the night/ maybe wake up once to eat. This one will be moved out by 6 weeks.
     
  29. theseasonisover

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    Buddy of mine was aggressively against pacifiers, so he said no on it with both his son and daughter. The self-soothed with blankies and thumbs. His son (12) sucks his thumb when he gets in trouble, and his his daughter (8) can’t take the thumb out of her mouth. Someone earlier said you can throw away a pacifier, but thumbs are forever, and yeah.
     
  30. War Grundle

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    My son never took a pacifier but also wouldn't suck his thumb. It was great not having to ever ween him off of those things but he had a hard time self soothing that first year. Likely one reason why it took him 12-14 months before he finally started sleeping through the night.
     
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  31. bigred77

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    I was a thumb sucker
    I remember the bad taste of some nail polish my parents put on my thumbnail to make me stop
     
  32. PaulKemp

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    Never slept in our room or with us. No pacifier or thumb sucking. Great at self soothing. Slept through the night very early and regularly.

    Now 3. Last night I slept on the couch, my wife slept in the nursery, and he slept in the master with 100 toys and stuffed animals. Also says “Gol-damnit” a lot. Life comes at you fast
     
  33. War Grundle

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    My parents used that so I wouldn’t bite my nails.
     
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  34. CF3234

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    Kid one was in his own room at 3 months and never really liked the pacifier. He used is very sparingly for a few months and by 10 months we just took it away without any fuss.


    He does have severe FOMO issues at bedtime. He doesn't want to miss out. So he will literally bang on his door trying to get out and rejoin us in the living room. About a week ago my wife discovered that if we talk to him through the baby monitor he immediately stops crying, grabs his blanket, gets back in bed, and goe to sleep within 5 minutes. Its absolutely magical.
     
  35. Name P. Redacted

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    Kid1 never did pacifiers or anything, but was/is a terrible sleeper and cannot calm herself down when upset. I think she learned to use us as a calming method.

    Kid2 used pacifier but now finger sucks. She sleeps pretty well through the night at 10 months.

    Who knows.
     
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  36. bigred77

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    She's been bulking up this year

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  37. Andy Reocho

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    I’ve never been so frequently sick/under the weather than since my daughter started daycare.

    My immune system about to be elite in a couple years tho
     
  38. Stone Cold Steve Austin

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    Going to WFH full time at the same time my kid started day care wrecked me.
     
  39. Tiger Tiger Woods Y'all

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    When did you guys start timeout? My almost two year old fully comprehends everything I am telling her (Dont pull the dogs tail), but yet will smile at me and then go and pull the dogs tail again. She thinks its a game almost.

    Daughter was out at 2 months. She's almost two. Has slept from 7-7 (sometimes 7-8) since about 4 months. We barely turn the monitor on anymore, especially since once she wakes up I can hear her whine without the monitor from my bedroom.
     
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  40. Hoss Bonaventure

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    We are having trouble with our 2 yr old with throwing things and getting all riled up and hitting. He doesn’t really do it to me as much as he does my wife. We’re going to start using the countdown technique that his pediatrician suggested. He doesn’t have any issues with either of those things at day care just when he’s home in the evening and will throw a tantrum.
     
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  41. Snakes

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    I don't think time out is very effective. Only effective way we have been able to discipline any of our kids is taking away privileges (or threatening to take away) for bad behavior and rewarding good behavior. And I use "effective" very generously.
     
  42. infected donkey

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    Ours is the same. Hits mom and not me. Saturday he was nice happy sweet baby, then when the wife woke up at 9 he immediately turned into royal fucking asshole for the rest of the day.
     
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  43. Name P. Redacted

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    We use time out for when kid1 is crying because she’s not getting her way or some other stupid reason, but we just tell her to go to her room and she can come out once she calms down. Agree with your post.
    Keep in mind your kid is 2, not 5 or 12 or 18 or 30. Cause-effect is not really fully formed and she’s testing her boundaries. It’s up to you to be patient and maintain boundaries and help her learn the link between actions and consequences.
     
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  44. Tiger Tiger Woods Y'all

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    yeah this is what we’re doing. I am hard on my wife when I don’t think she’s being consistent in the response. For some reason that logically makes sense and seems really important to me.

    I grew up in my formative years around a lot of kids who were told no once or twice and then eventually their parents would give in because they were lazy parents. I always swore I wouldn’t be like that as a parent.
     
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  45. infected donkey

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    Kid just climbed out of the crib. This is going to be a fun night.
     
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  46. rcragg82

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    Christmas is coming and our 7yo seems to be out growing the toy phase. For example, his birthday was a month ago and most of the toys he got he never has played with or just did the weekend he got them.

    So my wife wants to get him 1 "big" Christmas gift and her suggestion is a Nintendo Switch since it seems to be a popular idea with other parents/kids. Anyone else gotten one for their kids? Reviews if so? I was hoping to go another year or so before introducing video games to the house but i don't have any other ideas of what to get him (outside of a Patrick Mahomes jersey).
     
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  47. bigred77

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    8 year old has had a switch for a couple years and he literally never plays it by himself.
    It's only if I get in there and play rocket league with him or his older cousins are around and they want to play it.
    He turns 9 on the 20th and asked for a ps5, only because he has played ps4 at his cousins recently
     
  48. Snakes

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    I bought a Switch for me and my 5 year old to play Mario Kart together. It's a lot of fun but he's too young to really play anything else.

    I play it a lot by myself after the kids go to bed.
     
  49. jbr

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    Team fuck video games for kids that young
     
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  50. Bruce Bowen

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    We are experiencing this with both our 18 month old and nearly 5 year old. Did some googling and found a couple links that basically said they are so comfortable with that person that they act like fucking assholes knowing that person will love them no matter what. Idk the truth to that but I can't make any other sense of it because just like you said I could have both kids for hours, be absolute angels, and the moment she gets home chaos. For awhile I did daycare pickup and whenever my wife would pickup the oldest was always a shit head the whole way home which would then spill over to the evening.
    My kid plays paw patrol and minecraft on xbox. He does surprisingly well.
    We do it very sparingly maybe once or twice a week (if that) for 30 minute chunks. The way he watches TV like a zombie sometimes though I don't mind at all him using some actual brainpower on video games. Don't think there is anything wrong with it in limited amounts.
     
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