We got a Nanit for the third kid and have enjoyed it. We found it easier than the non-Wi-Fi cameras because you don’t have yet another device you have to keep track of and keep charged.
My wife seems to have the expectation that the kids will have them until their 18. 5 year old still has one.
Meh ain’t worth the argument. And my luck even if I made it happen something would happen where it would have come in handy.
I still have them too. 6 and 3 but it’s not to watch them really. Our master bedroom is just downstairs and they are upstairs so it’s basically a walkie talkie
We’re using the Nanit without any issues so far. Have the wall mount for nursery and then flex stand while he sleeps in the bassinet in our bedroom.
mama bear works all day Saturday. got both kids out of the house today bright and early to do some grocery shopping, and took them to a bakery to pick out a treat and also pick up som stuff to take to mama bear at work. my 6 year old wanted to do the ordering, so I let him. the effing cashier was such a dick to him. It's been a long time since I wanted to throw down with someone.
Nanit starts trying to sell you premium packages within the app at about 6 months which always feels dystopian to me when I’m just trying to make sure my kid is still alive. Would not buy again.
What until puberty hits and they are learning about themselves. I'd imagine everyone will want it gone. My wife wants to put our son in our basement bedroom when he gets a little older. I'm trying to tell her she's legit insane to give a young boy immediate access to the outside while we're 2 stories above. I can't imagine how many ppl would have snuck into and me out of my bedroom if that was the case.
That sucks but people are so rude to restaurant/fast-food/retail employees that I'm not shocked of they aren't always friendly. What exactly happened?
not really where I live. I live in small-town New England where if you do shit like that, people revolt. this is a small, locally owned bakery that can get busy but usually has lovely customer service... my wife knows the owner. my 6 year old has placed an order here before. He's a bit shy about doing so, but this place has been really good with him. He starts to make the order and the guy taking the order is irritated and says "I can't hear you" and immediately pivots and loudly says "next". It was an instant thing, didn't even give my kid a chance to increase the volume of his voice. He proceeds to try and take the order of the next people in line. I hesitate for a second... do I openly chastise this guy or respond to my son being sad... I respond to my son to calm him down. The people in line behind me take their order (fuck them too) and then the people behind them are like, wtf you asshole. Guy then comes back to me. I stand up because my both of my kids are sitting on the ground (my youngest is hugging my oldest sensing that he's upset), and I quietly say to the guy behind the counter "fuck off, we're not ordering from you today." we walked out.
Sounds like the owner is not going to be happy by any means if he hears about this at least. I'm imagining the times where I've just about broken down in front of customers because I'm exhausted when I worked at a grocery store, but I definitely never lost my patience on a child.
We sing "Brush, Brush, Brush your teeth gotta' get them clean! Every tooth one by one and the gums in between." to the tune of Row Row Your Boat to our one year old and it seems to distract him enough to get the job done.
I sing a song too and try to make my kids laugh. worked for both of mine. my wife was never able to get them to do it but they always did it perfectly for me.
Wife is out of town so I'm implementing sleep training for our 12 month old. Started last night and he slept for 10 hours. He's also put himself to sleep 3 times in his crib unassisted. Yay!
She's forbidden from putdown duties for the foreseeable and yes, it has been a struggle to date. I don't think she's slept for 6 consecutive hours in over a year. The solution has been obvious the entire time and I've said as much, but for some reason she can't accept that letting your child cry for more than 60 seconds is anything less than negligent parenting. In reality, it's the exact opposite, you're doing the child a disservice by denying them the time/space to learn to fall asleep. Basically, you're keeping the child awake by relentlessly trying to put them to sleep. My logic and reason have fallen on deaf ears to hyperdrive maternal instincts. Hoping this proof of concept demonstration over the last few days allows her to see the light.
Man, we’ve basically gone cold turkey with screens for my roughly 29 month old and it has improved everyone in the houses living experience 1000X.
For dads who have kids who like video games and have any worries about it, I thought this podcast was excellent. Basically an educator who talks about positives but with some data and observations I hadn’t considered before. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podca...with-ash-brandin/id1346314086?i=1000594996563
Guess should have been in this thread for 7 or so months now. Looking forward to continuing with everyone
My wife is pregnant with #2 so I'm not trying to be so hard on her but she's killing a lot of progress I'm making with our two year old on discipline. He dumps his snacks all over floor so I make him eat out of a snack container with lid which he hates and asks to take off and I say no everytime, just for her to take it off later or give him snacks in regular bowl because she is too tired to deal with the whining. Or I tell him multiple times not to do something like get batteries out of our battery drawer. Go up to take a shower, come down with batteries all over the floor because apparently she's not stopping him. Side note, anyone have good discipline suggestions for a 2 year old with listening problems. He clearly knows some of the stuff he's doing is naughty, but doesn't understand when I've tried implementing a timeout chair and when I threaten to have him go to time out he acts like he wants to go.
Keep timeouts short, explain what he did to get in trouble and explain how to do better in the future.
I make him sit in the chair usually until he says he is sorry and he won't do whatever it was again (usually throwing something). I'll usually start out by saying "how do we get out of the timeout chair?" And hope he does it on his own, and I'll prompt him if needed
Just keep in mind that he’s two and the cause-effect really isn’t established — they live in the moment a lot. I think our timeout was only a minute or two. Was hard with kid1 because she’s pretty bright and so seems like she should understand those things but you just gotta have patience and be consistent in your parenting.
Yea it's tough I try not to do anything but just correct him knowing he's two a lot, but he's definitely smart enough to know what he's doing is wrong. Some of the times he will do it after being told not to numerous times, he also doesn't have a poker face and you can see a look in his eye when he's a out to do something he shouldn't
All the time. I'm telling him good job probably 25+ times a day. He's really a good well mannered kid, not trying to oversell his bad behavior. He just has a real problem throwing things and dumping his food on the ground. Can't seem to get him past those two things. And it's a problem especially because he will hit the dogs with stray throws and he's throwing things that can do damage sometimes like metal cars. Luckily nothing has flung into the TV yet. But he'll have the snacks in his bowl and I'll see the look he gives when he thinks about being bad, and I'll say don't dump your snacks like 3 times and then he will do it. Or he'll throw toys and I'll tell him to stop 3-4 times, then I'll put him in timeout chair and he'll say sorry and then go right back and pick up a toy to throw it again. A lot of time this is done when he's overtired and im more lenient then and take it as a sign he needs to get ready for a nap or bed, but sometimes it will be just in middle of day
I thought the same thing. Me at any age given that much freedom would have ended up with me getting into a lot more trouble. My 12 yr old nephew on the other hand basically has his own separate house at his mom’s and hasn’t done anything like sneaking out or anything yet. Yet being the key word.
Took my daughter and 3 other girls to the movies, bowling and the arcade with ice cream after yesterday. I’m still worn out but I think I had as much fun as they did. Spoiler
I actually subscribe to this podcast but haven’t listened in a while due to a big backlog of others . Thanks for pointing this out because this is something I think about a lot with my 6 year old… he currently doesn’t play anything but all of his friends do
Easily. Worst part was the 2 hours between the movie and bowling (reservation) and having to recharge the arcade card 3 times. Did that in bowling, I took no mercy.
Positive reinforcement goes a lot longer than negative. For all ages, but especially younger. That said your options are pretty limited. Like others have said they don’t really understand cause/effect yet. At that age we were really still just redirecting.
Yes and no. Usually when he starts acting up for first "don't do that" is from wherever I may be trying to avoid a toy car into the dogs or the TV or one of us. Usually 2nd and 3rd are while I'm walking towards him but when I get to him I'll get down on my knee and tell him he can't do that. After that one if he does it again that's when I try timeout chair. And when he's in the chair I'm kneeling down next to him calmly asking him "how do you get out of timeout?" And if he doesn't say sorry then I'll say "maybe you should say sorry to mom, or dogs, or me or whoever got whacked with the toy and say you won't do it again". He usually is good about that part but then sometimes it's immediately off the chair and back to throwing something
I’ll have to listen to this pod. I’ve posted before about video games. We took a break from electronics entirely for a week long vacation, and have had less of it this month than in the past. My concern is less that video games are brain rot and confer no benefit, and more so that my kids would spend all day doing it if allowed, and it becomes an issue when we try to limit to reasonable time. Basically, concerned that they’re “addicted” to it. But I want to hear what this pod has to say about it.
I'd definitely not fret too much over a two year old being a normal two year old and pushing all the boundaries. My five year old is stubborn and I'm concerned about her in terms of doing well in school, but she did finally stop having tantrums and acting out like that for the most part (although I do think boys and girls at that age go through that phase a bit differently). Unless you win the genetic lottery with your kid being a perfect angel throughout their entire toddler years, like my neighbor it seems, I bet every single parent that gives a crap about their kid goes through the same exact thing DetroitNole. Hell the pediatrician will probably not tell you to not really worry about it until they're at least 4 if not 5.
Yeah there’s definitely a balance between “all games all the time” and “none at all they’re evil”. When I’m not on my phone maybe I’ll type out a little more but the hesdline is to find what works for your family and not worry about “oh is 1 hour ok? Or should 90 minutes be the maximum?” Find something that’s mutually beneficial so if mom and dad need 90 minutes to make dinner and exercise then the kids can have 90 minutes. Everyone kinda wins. There’s boundaries but you’re not setting timers before they cross some imaginary line where it’s bo longer good for them. One other big takeaway is don’t worry if a game is “productive” or “helping with life skills or education.” It’s a leisure activity so just enjoying it is a good enough reason to do it. But also on the plus side there are cognitive benefits. Also the guest has a very active and helpful instagram. https://www.instagram.com/reel/CkqZKMFLgw0/?igshid=Zjc2ZTc4Nzk=