Not sure where else to vent and this may be more apropos of the non-existent “Stupid shit user Trip McNeely does” thread but we got into it tonight and she called me a fucking asshole for the millionth time and I retorted by calling her a fucking bitch for literally the first time ever. You would have thought that I murdered her entire family in front of her. The hypocrisy of name calling is outrageous. I shouldn’t have done it, but still. It should be a fun weekend around here.
Yeah. I don’t curse. She does. When I get a little angry and one slips. Not even directed at her. She starts cry asking me how I can be so mean and mad. I’m not even talking about me screaming. It would be an under my breath shit or damn
I got into probably the second worst fight of my marriage this morning over similar hypocrisy. She can express to me how annoyed, angry, whatever she is whenever she wants because she “cant control how she feels”. Lord help me if I do the same because it invariably turns into an argument. It’s been a stressful few months around the jbr house and I just wasn’t having it this morning. I leave for a weeklong business trip tomorrow otherwise this would be a 3-4 day ordeal. At this point, it’ll probably just be talk of marriage counseling when I get home.
you should try. I'm not saying you are a bitch but you're behaving in a way that is reminiscent of one. Or the ever popular "there is no I in team but there is a U in cunt. Please don't be one.
Mine has been getting on last nerve for a bit now. I recently came to the conclusion that if she bailed I'd be absolutely ok. Definitely a freeing feeling.
I have two little kids and she is a stay at home mom. I’d be fucked if she bailed. Plus, I’m not going to get divorced over some trivial arguments. Congrats on your realization though.
Yeah not really to that extreme but I can relate. A couple times I year she'll just unload on me with my flaws. Which is fair. She's usually right or mostly right about them. But she's human too and has her own shit but it's nearly impossible to mention without her taking it as an all out condemnation of her. It is what it is. It happens rarely enough that I chalk it up to her unloading other stress on me and try not to take it too personally.
Best piece of advice I ever received. Women want someone to listen to them and understanding like men want the puss. They don’t want solutions or comments, just understanding. Literally you saying “sorry babe” or “that sucks” or “that’s crazy” = the sex. All kind of came full circle for me when Chris rock had a piece about listening to his woman after work and saying the only thing you have to say is, “told you, that bitch is crazy!”, we did a case study at work and it was true. We are men, listen don’t provide solutions. It’s hard but it does work. I don’t know why to this day but it does.
Preface this by saying we welcomed our daughter in April of this year. My wife was pregnant last winter and didn’t have a warm coat that fit. I guess she forgot about it or something and Michigan was hit with a “polar vortex” for several days that was basically hell. And she didn’t have a warm coat. On the way home one day from work, through the vortex, I stopped at Eddie Bauer got her a bigger than normal down coat and it was ugly, but it worked. She didn’t like it, but it got the job done. She was 7 months pregnant, not much fit. Fast forward to today... Pete: Hey, I got a coupon to that website you were looking at winter coats earlier....You can use it or we can go halfsies on it or something. I am sure it will be a cold winter again. Mrs Pete: I have coats, thanks. Pete: I thought you didn’t have a warm enough one for winter? (Goes and checks closets where she had a few rain jackets and vests) Yeah, remember what happened last year? This is a pretty good sale, you should pick one out. Mrs. Pete: Oh, so now my stuff isn’t good enough for you? (it’s not, but whatever). Don’t tell me what I need, I can decide that, thanks. Pete: Uhh, you are always cold and you look great after baby Pete, so that other coat is probably huge. And you didn’t like it. It’s my treat. I will buy you one so when it becomes winter we will be all set. Mrs Pete: No thanks, my stuff is just fine, thanks. You always do this, trying to control me. Think about our daughter! Spend money on her! So, you read that right, she turned down me buying her a winter coat and said our daughter, who has laundry baskets of clothes in storage and 2 full closet racks (at 4.5 months old) full, and 2 parents that work full time and can get her whatever she needs, needs more.
We each have a little of our check go into another individual account that we use for miscellaneous spending. I don’t have access to hers and vice versa. That way when I buy shoes using it, she doesn’t complain, and whatever BS Target is selling her all the time, I don’t bug her about it. Works out well.
My wife didn’t know you could hit “time cook” on our microwave and enter a specific time. She thought you had to heat/cook things in 30 second increments.
I guess, she is sick so I didn’t want to push the issue. same, but she asked me to heat up a pad for 40 seconds and was baffled that I was able to do it without clicking 1 minute and pulling it out with 20 seconds left.
The Mrs. typed out her first post on the board, overanalyzed it for a while, then ended up not posting. I log in today and see it still as a draft - she was unaware it saves it.
Wife is upset with me because I haven’t been able to find her a new job. She hates the one she’s at. Been there 9 years and new management has made it unbearable. I’ve been trying to help because she comes home miserable. Been a pain as she only has an AS in Radiology. Extremely narrow career path. And without a BS it’s been an absolutely pain.
She could walk into just about any chain restaurant and probably have a job the next day. Probably the same for local places as well. Restaurant industry has well over a 100% average yearly turnover rate. Same goes for retail just about.