That's awful. This whole time, I never realized she was your second wife and had just kind of combined the stories. That makes wife 1's stunt that much shittier. Fuck.
It is so fucked up that your first wife faked cancer and the second one that you wanted to be with forever actually died of it. Just unreal.
Close on the sale of the house in a couple weeks. Can't wait to be done with this idiot...too bad my son still has to deal with her.
Thanks. I actually have the paperwork for it. It's just taking me a while to get thru it. Everything you have to do stateside turns into a pain in the ass when stationed over seas.
Am I mixing you up with another poster or arent you a huge religious guy that has scolded people for divorce or other nefarious behavior? Specifically in the Stupid Shit Our Wives thread?
I don't scold anyone, at least that I remember. I've at times offered my opinions like everyone else, but 'try to work it out' isn't near as popular as 'divorce her and hope she dies'. Who knew?
You don't strike me as the sleeze ball who plays those games. From my interactions with you on here you seem like the one who doesn't say what bullshit can we use for a TRO? Edit: hopefully you read this after I caught my typo.
Just masturbate to her Facebook pictures and close your eyes and picture her when you're humping your wife. That's basically the same as actually fucking her.
I'm assuming you were not on the birth certificate for this child? In Louisiana for some unknown, probably shitty, reason- the person married to the woman has to be on the birth certificate even if the child is not his... Pretty sure you can petition the court to change it later but leaving the hospital that's how it is. My wife has had some great conversations explaining this to unhappy people
Ehhhh, I'm not really not are the Attorneys that I work for. That being said, I'm sure there are a bunch of people who would disagree. The problem is that courts generally move quickly to get the kids stuff sorted out on a temporary basis. In sc, there is also no discovery (subpoenas, requests for documents, etc) until after that temporary hearing. So between the time constraints and the lack of any power to verify things, you wind up having to rely on your clients version of events. Sometimes that's OK, and others you are fucked. Just the nature of the beast. And before it's asked the main reason there is no discovery prior to the temporary hearings is adultery and substance abuse. If you have to turn over what you have before the hearing, the opposing side can weave a tale to get out of it. Basically encourages then to speak truthfully because they don't know what you have.
Not sure about on the birth certificate, but in sc, the husband is the presumed father. Ran into an interesting case earlier this year involving that. Couple didn't file their marriage certificate so they didn't think they were married (they were). Never got divorced. One party "remarried," had a kid, and then filed for divorce. We put it together, so that final hearing was a shit show.
Yup, but no one does it explicitly because that would be retarded. Basically you use the catch all provision in your motion or complaint "such other relief as the court deems just and proper" and ask verbally in front of the judge. If you've alleged substance abuse and harm to the child, most judges will order it done in my experiences.
How much do judges in your neck of the woods care about weed? At my friend's motion hearing his wife's attorney went after him for smoking weed and becoming violent. The judge said "Counselor, it's just weed, I don't care nor do I believe any of what you just said." and denied her TRO attempt. The audio is just awesome.
That's fucked up. On a similar note, in Georgia a woman isn't allowed to give up her child for adoption without her husband's permission, even if he's an estranged criminal deadbeat and the child is not his by paternity test.
Depends on the judge really. Doubt it would qualify for a tro unless it was pretty constant use. It's irrelevant unless it somehow affects the kids. If it does affect them though, it would probably be seen as the equivalent (maybe a bit worse) than alcohol abuse. The real issue is the legality is just multipronged weapon with intoxicating, no respect for law/boundaries/orders/etc, you can normally allege shady characters, and who knows what else they've done.
What can I say. I have experience selectively mentioning facts and spinning them to support a narrative.
I hit rock bottom after my divorce. I drank a ton and had no idea what to do with my life. I fucked every fatty and single mom I got my hands on until I decided enough was enough. I met my second wife and decided she was the one I was looking for all along. I remarried and was mocked by many friends and family. I'm extremely happy with that decision a year and half later. I'm also extremely happy that I'm not with my ex wife anymore. Other than our kids, I'm not sure what we ever had in common.
No, not really. I've never seriously considered divorce, but the fact that I'm in the 2%-ile that the above doesn't work for, I have a lot of extra sexual tension.
One Knight I went to speak to a lawyer yesterday morning... fucker wanted $3k retainer and was billing over $300/hr to file an uncontested divorce... told me that if he really pushed things, he could try and have this done in about 4-5 months... that's bullshit because there are only 2-3 things I was concerned about when it came to the thing she was asking for so I shook his hand and walked out... bank accounts, credit cards, etc are all either already settled or there is written understandings as far as what is going to happen with them... I have agreed to nothing without getting it in writing and have made her do the same... with no kids and the marriage being classified as short term by the state of FL, my best option is to file Florida Family Law Rules of Procedure form 12.901(a) Petition of Simplified Dissolution of Marriage... it can be filed without the assistance of a lawyer and all it requires is both parties to sign at the clerk's office before setting up a court date... court date can be any time after a 30 day window... that day we have to show up together, swear that all info in the petition is true and promise to uphold the info within and the judge dissolves the marriage... the biggest hurdle is getting the assets/liabilities/property division stuff down...
sounds like you are on the right path for sure. My main concern for people is when kids are involved, not a concern in your case so yeah, I would do that same thing you are discussing. At the time of my divorce, we had so little money/assets that I would never have gotten a lawyer if it hadn't been for my son, and her trying to take him away. You'll see I'm always screaming for people to get a lawyer, but its usually because they have kids or some financial means. In your case, paying a lawyer that much likely isn't worth it, and you're right, some of them are scumbag sharks, the rest are just damned expensive. As an aside, just be careful that you have limited her access to you and your stuff as much as possible, because what she is asking for and her willingness to work it out can change in an instant.
bingo... my biggest fear was him pissing her off... with florida being a no fault state, it if deteriorates to contested I stand to lose soooo much more... im a federal employee and also the primary breadwinner (>90% of household income) so income disparity is HUGE... also my retirement and TSP would have both been listed as assets... as it stands now, (pray it holds) ill have to pay her about $400 a month for the next 2 years, split equity 50/50 from sale of home, and even split on all checking and savings accounts...
As weird as it sounds, this wreck last night may have been a blessing in disguise for me... first call she made after it happened was to me... it let's me know she knows how (at least in the short term) it will effect me and pretty much backed up my concern of her wanting to stay on my auto policy... no fight there now when it comes to her getting her own... and like I said in the other thread, once I rework my policy for being the only driver, the accident won't show up and it won't have any impact on my rate moving forward...
you are smart to be worried, best thing you can do is to get it finalized quickly, which you are already on. Good luck, sounds like what you've got going is the best case scenario
I'd double check to ensure that the waiver of your retirement benefits is good and that you change beneficiaries on the actual policies as well. It shouldn't be an issue, but shit happens sometimes.
couldn't have done this without my sister... she is a legal assit to an attorney in Alabama who mainly handles huge estate issues but her boss has been letting her help me out researching info while on his time to get this all done ASAP... he has also been a consultant of sorts, passing info through her to me on how I should handle certain aspects of what is going on... guy is one of those 5 figure retainer types and knows his stuff and is willing to do anything he can to help me out, but unfortunately isn't licensed to practice in FL... there is no way I could have gotten t this point without her help... my sister is the shit!
already been in contact with HR and am just waiting for paperwork to be filed before I start making changes to ensure I don't get screwed by jumping the gun... already gone through and changed the beneficiaries on my life insurance policies... gotta wait for the divorce to be finalized before I can remove her from my health/dental/vision policies through work (thatll cut my monthly premiums down by about $200 a month) and will have her removed from any and all paperwork she is currently listed on...
That's great news, I know I couldn't have made it through without all the help my lawyer gave me. I was lucky that one of my fraternity brothers is a lawyer, and worked for one here in town that gave me a good deal on the whole process. Other person I got a quote from wanted $2K retainer and 200 per hour beyond that
Pray for uncontested. My project manager from my last job went through a contested divorce in Florida. He's paying 1500 a month in alimony forever, for fucking ever. To a lady that's been working as an RN since they were married and still works as an RN. That's on top of child support. His appeal was denied this year, but he's talking to a new attorney. He's pretty sure his ex wife was fucking the judge they went through originally.