I basically get screwed seeing my kids. I get a week at Christmas and 6-9 weeks in the summer. I also get their spring break week but I usually can't take it. My kids live 500+ miles away from me so I can't take any of my weekend visits as ordered in the custody order. This is the worst part of my divorce. I love my boys more than life itself but I get minimal time with them. My ex refuses to move closer even though I offered to pay 100% of her moving costs. In fact, she actually wants to move further away. I basically followed the Moxin24 doctrine laid out above until I couldn't take it anymore.
The kids are what's preventing us from splitting in the immediate. This is all very sudden and totally the result of my fuck up, so it's not like we grew to hate each other over time. Now we're at the stage where we're trying to decide if we want to stay together for each other, which is where I think the counseling will help. I'm hoping that since it was an isolated incident and not some long drawn out secret double life that it will be chalked up to as a fixable mistake that's going to simply take lots of counseling and time to heal.
I mean if you cheated on her then you're lucky she's letting you in the house. Anything you get beyond that is just a bonus.
If it is one fuck up counseling may help. Gives her a chance to take out that anger in a relatively constructive way and environment. Really, you just need to figure out if she'll actually forgive you. If not, might as well call it now. If so, keep your dick in your pants (assumption on my part) and thank God for a second chance, if for no other reason than your kids.
My ex and I are getting along well and I even stopped by for some drinks with her and a mutual friend the other night, which was nice. That said, this week is particularly tough as she's at the beach with the kids and her family, a typical mid-June event. I'd imagine the holidays will be brutal as well but at least my kids will be here. A rough weekend and week ahead but I suppose all this gets easier in time.
So you cheated on her? She might come around in time. Especially if the wound is still recent. I'm sure it will take a lot of work to get her back though.
Just be careful of single bitchy friends she has who might try to get her to rationalize cheating in revenge. Also been over a year since I've had to see my now-chunky ex.
that's awful dude, hate to hear that for any dad. I consider myself really lucky with the way things worked out, compared to a lot of people. I paid for it in spades for a year after the split, but with no alimony, no child support and 50/50 time sharing and custody, it could have been so much worse.
Co-worker. Was out of town for work (ft Lauderdale) and she was there at the same time visiting family when we met up for drinks. We didn't have sex, but there was some pretty bad stuff for a married person to be doing. Enough to where if the script was flipped I'd for sure be thinking divorce
My money is on work or a friend. Random ones usually aren't how you get caught. Especially if it's a one time thing like he said.
That will be a big hurdle to get over as well imo. You didn't tell her on your own. She had to find out.
Why didn't you delete them? Assuming that this was really a one time deal. Yea, I'd listen to the other advice itt. Is she gonna be able to.move past it? If so, go to therapy and let her rip you a new one in a good environment.
Actually, don't Hank Scorpio. Probably not a good idea to put shit in print that could later come back to haunt you
Guarantee he's admitted it in writing via some medium already (ones that are also more easily accessible). More than likely, via texts with the wife.
Meh. We've gone after message board fodder once and it was because we really had nothing else to go on.
Would be hilarious if it was from here. What website or what type of website if you can divulge that info?
"Your Honor, daddy fat sacks and OopsPowSurprise posted :loldog and :datass on June 15 in response to the nudes of Hank Scorpio 's wife.