TMB Divorce Thread

This wasn't a one off type situation. She's been caught in numerous lies.

 

I think you need to give her the idea that she needs to get her shit together so that way you can see if she tries to improve. Meanwhile be doing your due diligence with a lawyer so you are ready to go if/when you are ready to pull the plug

 

I personally don't think you can ask her to be honest while lying or at least keeping the truth from her at the same time. It's very hypocritical.

 

She very well may be posting on a chick message board (filled with standoffish and unfriendly chicks who fear change and sometimes talk Bravo) complaining about how she had a flat tire and tried calling her bf four times but he wouldn't answer...to which the majority of the board is telling her that her bf is most likely cheating on her.

 

Why would she hang out on Clemson message boards. Haha

 

Once again not her only lie.

 

Just eat her booty. It's guaranteed to solve all your problems.

 

Don’t disagree, but maybe our mystery man has a pattern of being difficult to talk to. Maybe little lies are easier for her. Maybe not.

That’s why I’m going back to self reflection. He needs to self reflect some and be sure. Calm and smart communication is key.

Also again, I would lay off the boozin while working through this and encourage her to do the same

 

My man. I’m going to be eatin ass tonight.

Wife just text me asking if she could sit on my face tonight

 

Yeah not buying that. Sorry I lied to you about being locked out of my friends house, and both our phone batteries simultaneously dying.

I just find it hard to talk to you.

 

Bigger picture I would consider how you value honesty and integrity vs.how she does. It seems important to you and not so much to her, possibly beyond the realm of cheating. Will it change or do you want to deal with it forever?

 

Also why only one counciling session last year when the other incident happened? I’m assuming the incident was the punch you in the face night? Or was it something else

 

Go speak to her friend's husband, as was already mentioned. I'd be willing to guess that he can provide additional information and context which should help shine a little more light on the situation one way or another.

 

One of my best friends got custody of his kids and his ex has to pay him child support.

 

This relationship needs to go from hitting in the face to sitting on the face

 

Throw in being a liar, likely cheater along with being abusive and I’d be hitting the road, Jack. Never understood the kids reason as staying in a shitty relationship. I don’t have kids, but I imagine if you’re unhappy then you project that onto your kids and it fucks them up.

 

unless you know this dude well and I mean real well I don’t like the idea of speaking with him.

Could blow up in your face

 

I mean he's divorcing his wife. No better opportunity for a fact finding mission.

 

Odds that a guy wakes up, gets out of bed, drives to the bar, picks up girl, drives her home at 2 am to Anon's house and drives home if he isn't fucking her? Cant be more than 2%, right.

 

He probably had every intention. She also could have played his ass for a ride. We all know dudes that run any time any chick comes calling

Shitty and immature either way

 

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So she did the bare minimum to reel you back in?

 

Why did y’all end counciling?

 

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Then you need to get to snooping.

 

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I’m not trying to come down on you. Just playing devils advocate a bit.

She could have some resentment that you almost left and that’s unresolved. As will you eventually if you don’t get this fixed. That resentment may be why she is behaving this way. Not saying it’s your fault, but that could be a catalyst to this whole thing.

She sounds extremely immature so I wouldn’t be surprised in her mind it’s all your fault for her behavior

 

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Have anywhere you can go for a night or two?

 

Thank you for everybody’s advice in here today. I know it’s a stupid internet message board, but it’s somewhere I can come and be honest and you guys were willing to listen. Jose Canseco e-hugs all around

 

Don’t leave the house

 

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For sure. Just don’t sleep out.

That could be viewed as abandonment and cause a custody issue later.

 

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For what it's worth from a former kid that had a dysfunctional upbringing;

Stop using your kid as a crutch. One of the only regrets about my life is that I wish my mom left my dad earlier. He was a good, kind man that shouldn't have had a kid as early as he did. It doesn't make him a bad person, but it sure as hell made him a bad parent. If you want to end it, end it for the right reasons, don't stay for the wrong ones. Is it fair to your daughter? No. Life isn't fair sometimes. It actually sucks sometimes. Just do the best you can for her. That also means making painful choices.

Only you know what your limit is. Physical abuse would be the deal breaker for many. Reverse the situations and you'd have a domestic abuse charge on you. When you have a family, consequences are magnified. If you're casually dating, her actions could be viewed as immature. As it stands she's actively putting herself in situations that have serious repercussions. Sometimes it's not about doing the right thing in the heat of the moment; as an adult with a family it's having the maturity to not let it escalate to the point where you're telling lies to the father of your child about your whereabouts at midnight.

 

Love that! Females don’t understand what this does to a man

 

The females who do it understand. Completely

 

Anon345 how is it going?

 

Honey, you just don't understand what your ass does to my face

 

She’s in no position to be giving ultimatums, imo

 

If you want, move over to the donor board. I'm sure if your main account has access, a mod will give you access.

I'm sure she has some valid points about you. Kind of like what happened with DUCKMOUTH. One side may be the one fed up, but both of you have things that need to be worked on. However, right now, she is the one who is lying and staying out late drinking and doing who knows what else. She broke your trust and needs to be working to earn it back, not going on the offensive and trying to take you down.

 

Ask a mod to delete the other posts and post more vaguely going forward imo

 

CF3234 edit your post. Don't quote his post.

 

I’ll just donate again to gain access. I’ll start a thread over there for those that don’t want to discuss on the main board

 

The Blackfish could you do me a solid and delete posts quoted in this thread that might be incriminating? I’m going to start a thread on the donor board. Donating now.

 

Have them moved imo.