i just watched this and it had me sobbing. i was prepared for some 80’s cringe but that was actually so wholesome and understanding. i’m the same person i always was and now i’m just the happiest version of myself. honestly, it’s a net-positive for society that i transitioned. also, shoutout to Odin and all my other friends who accepted me and stood by me. they were all clearly channeling their inner-Gopher
the flip side of all that happiness: i feel a constant sense of dread for every trans person in a red state
also, having people i grew up with not recognize me and sometimes even assume im a sister/cousin they never knew of is really great. feels like a big W
Yep. This crosses my mind a good bit. Especially in rural places like above. But also in metropolitan places where people make casual transphobic comments.
This is so fucking stupid. People get to pick what they want to be called. I go by my middle name. Every first day of school they'd call me by my first name, I'd correct them and say I prefer to be called X, and that was that. Literally nobody gave a shit. Only caring when it's a trans boy or girl is just pure bigotry. It was the same thing with Clay/Ali. It's not about the name, it's about letting the person know you don't agree with their choice.
I've graduated from HS, undergrad and graduate school. Every time I got a little card where you write out phonetically how you want to be called
also, i hope that self-hating grifter oli lives a miserable life imagine looking like this and trying to convince right wingers to take you serious
Got into an argument with a dude I went to college with about this (far-right religious conservative type). He went the the this isn't age appropriate route
i read his wiki. apparently after identifying as “transracial” he identified as a “genderfluid trans woman” for a few months before “detransitioning”. i’m willing to say they were never trans and that all of it is just attention seeking behavior.
I originally edited my post above because I didn't want to out the guy I went to college with. But he’s now playing up the “this is grooming 1 to 6-year-olds” card.
the conservatives constantly bring up explaining sexuality to children but somehow heterosexuality doesn’t count? it just reveals their bigotry in associating homosexuality and transness with sexual deviancy
It's all a big smoke and mirrors play towards calling people groomers. The fact that their mere existence still pisses so many conservative people off shows exactly why pride campaigns are important
my hometown donated a few weeks ago to help fund their production because I'm almost as good an ally as I am a poster (very average)
You gotta think tons more conservative leaning people would be like this if they weren't being fed anti-LGBTQ culture war nonsense daily.
it’s about as good as you could get expect from someone who looks like him. It’s bordering on tolerating or tolerance and not accepting and understanding. “If he wants to change his name or call himself herself” it doesn’t matter to me misses the point that fundamentally “he” was never Sam that “he” has always been a she, that she’s always been Sarah. But, again it would be better if more just adopted the “it doesn’t impact me so why should care” over the one they currently have. I say this as someone who understands having to justify and validate their existence in certain areas.
I totally get what you're saying. I expressed that same criticism to my bff. But, damn, if sheltered rednecks predominately had that mindset then we would be in a much better place.
A lot more rednecks think that way than most of y’all would think. Pretty much all of them who don’t watch Fox News (albeit a small number) do. Most of the worst kind of bigots — the true trump base — live in suburbs and have shitty college degrees and mid-management jobs.
On a somewhat separate note, that Twitter account fucking rules. “Unrepentant Fenian bastard” is a hell of a tagline.
I'm still learning more every day and that's considering my best friend is a lesbian, one of my main investors/friends is broadway level gay, and my wife and gf are both bisexual. I just try to be nice to people - unless they're hurting someone or themselves then do what you want and try to enjoy life as much as you can.
100% - a ton of people from OM have come out here to hang out and no one has ever been a dumbass around my gay friends. Honestly, the drunk lesbian questions are when you have to start keeping an eye on people.
Not gonna lie it may be easier. But we're no kids so I would assume that would dramatically adjust things.
the percentage of rednecks who are libertarians rises by the day. that's not exactly winning this battle but i think it's probably both the best we're going to get and also good enough.
Like a week ago this 60ish year old redneck walks into the bar while I'm bartending. Heavy southern drawl. Sits down and ordered a Bud Light with zero commentary on it. It kinda surprised me, honestly.
Will assume she is Trans and that there will be an uproar? glimmer is saying any form of “passable” considered derogatory?
yes, she is trans. i have to imagine there will be an uproar but who knows. she’s so passable that most people will never give the cover a second look. and calling a trans woman passable isn’t derogatory necessarily but i’d definitely say to be care careful using it. being less passable doesn’t mean someone is any less of a woman. one reason she is so passable is because she went on hormone blockers around 13 iirc and had gender confirmation surgery at 16 (after petitioning the german courts to be exempted from their 18 year age requirement). being trans is marginally easier when you have supportive rich parents
Thanks. FWIW I don’t think being “passable” makes anyone better or worse, more or less of who they are. Passing is a weird thing with POC too so I wanted to make sure I wasn’t being unintentionally offensive. I was talking to my wife about the trans individual who “ detransitioned” to conservative but was still getting a bunch of hate from the people she wanted to be a part of. While discussing her I said she was very passable and wonder if that was okay to say. Unfortunately you have become my go to when I want to ask a question about the Trans community. That’s also not to imply the community is monolithic.
yeah, that’s part of the reason i have the thread and have been so open. i can only tell my story and can’t speak for all trans people, but i’d rather people get answers and form opinions from my lived experience instead of whatever another cis person says about us on the internet.