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Discussion in 'The Mainboard' started by glimmer, Nov 17, 2021.
i didn't fully realize i was trans until after i turned 30. but with hindsight i look back on my feelings and know that i started feeling dysphoria at 11 or so - i just didn't have any context for those feelings at all in early 2000's rural alabama.
with wins come losses. the 11th circuit court ruled that alabama's ban on minors receiving gender affirming care can go into effect
wrong thread i think lmao
This can’t be true. I drank a Bud Light the other day, and now I’m living life as a woman. Thanks a lot, Joe Brandon!
I've often wondered just how many people are like you, that look back and realize feelings and thoughts they had many years ago were their own personal signs that they just did not understand
Having a child of my own now makes me think about things like this when he asks funny questions like I remember him once said to me when we saw a gay couple on tv, he said "wait, a boy can marry another boy?" And I just said "yea"
He just shrugged it off like saying 'huh' and went on.
I have actually thought about explaining how sometimes a person is born a boy but grows up to be a girl and vise versa. But really haven't had the opportunity present itself to make it feel right.
He has met a few drag queens though, and he thought that was fun
if the opportunity to explain trans people comes up definitely do, but just teaching your child to be accepting and non-judgmental of other people can go a long way on its own.
and there's probably a lot of people who only deal with the symptoms of their dysphoria/repression without realizing what the root cause is. it can take a lot to finally say "im actually a girl/gay/etc."
It kinda cracked me up when I think about it how simple it was, like he just was like OK, and went on
I don't think i had ever thought about how to teach him about anything like that before, it just sort of happened. And he was cool with it.
I don't know why, but it has since made me think about more situations that might seem out of the ordinary to him and how to handle them. And I honestly kinda hope they just come along some day so we can tell him about it in the same its no big deal kinda way
Was kinda the way it was with the drag queens in New Orleans last summer
After we had met them, he asked me 'were those boys dressed as girls' and I said yea they were, some guys like to do that. He never asked another thing about it
two years ago today i started hrt and it’s without a doubt the best decision i’ve ever made. happy tranniversary!
Not a drag queen:
glimmer your nose ring is cool
thanks!! i’ve got the septum hoop, a rhinestone heart stud in each nostril, and the chain across the bridge - all 24k gold. i’m very happy with it.
There is a gloom & doom preacher that frequently preaches on the sidewalk at my son's high school with a big ass speaker, it's so loud. I've hated him forever. He was on some transgender bullshit this morning during drop off. Glad to report in redneck East Texas didn't see a single student acknowledge he was even there. Fucking asshole
Odds are he's not allowed within 500yards of a school but he's trying to find his next 16 year old girlfriend
Lucky for him there's not an actual hell, or people like him would be headed to it
Bell Hooks is brilliant. I have never seen that quote before but according to the second part of it, I am queer af because that explains my whole existence.
a/s/l sup boo
happy two year anniversary to this thread!
and happy awareness week 2023!
we’ve come a long way as a board tbh
there are some real doozies here. maybe not everything needs to stay archived forever?
when I saw you gave me a like I thought oh shit. What the fuck did I say. What I wrote isn’t cool and I won’t attempt to justify it what I will say it’s honestly something I need to work on. I can’t say if I feel any differently right now. I do feel it’s not as straightforward as before. Before I just felt I wouldn’t now I think it depends on the person. I don’t know what that says about me. I stand by my posts in the cycling thread. I honestly apologize if I offended you. I need to be better and I can honestly I try to grow as a person every day.
it’s all good, i wasn’t trying to call anyone out. i think the overall growth of the board is apparent and i’m happy for it. i had dumb opinions on trans people in 2018 too and look at me now
It’s all good Sis. I deserve to be called out when I say something dumb or hurtful. It’s the only way I’ll grow. I am grateful to know you because you’re helping me grow as a person.
If you can’t beat’em, join’em
thanks to the #Alabama Crimson Tide posters for making our thread so gender inclusive. wokest fan base on the board
Our hate is never towards the LGBTQ community, but always towards BoB and Pete
What a bunch of fucking losers in that first thread
I think most of that thread is banned haha
It's kinda shocking with how the board is now to see someone explicitly say they are transphobic and hate trans people.
That was 2018. I didn't even remember it still being that bad in 2018
Rules was a world class POS poster
Yeah he was absolute garbage
While this board has continued to shift and it's indisputably more hospitable today than it was 5 years ago, I still tend to think that some folks are just quieter about it now rather than having changed minds entirely.
It'll just take one trans girl who has the audacity to win a state championship for a group of mediocre dudes to start lamenting about fairness despite having never given a shit about women or women's athletics in their lives. Hope I'm wrong about that.
No there's definitely guys who still feel that way but have learned you can't say it out loud, but that's still progress!
honestly all i ask for
idk if trans wisdom is a thing, but I'm a believer after watching Jalen Milroe's evolution
I'm still conflicted on the sports stuff tbh and have said as much privately to glimmer. It's just a complicated issue for me. On one hand I'd never want a trans girl to be left out, they already have enough to deal with in our society. On the other hand I don't think it's fair for a cis girl to compete vs a trans girl. I just don't know what the right answer is. If I have to lean one or another, I'll lean to inclusion but I still think it's complicated. I don't think that makes me a had person, idk maybe it does.
Now if we're talking pro/Olympic level and the trans woman has been on testosterone blockers for however long and the Dr's way smarter about me say it's fair, have at it.
Overall it's such a small issue that's way overblown by people that just want to hate. Definitely not going to derail this thread with it.
Like others have said, it is progress, and I don’t see those people as necessarily evil. There have been times in my life where I don’t know who, or how, to ask questions. I credit this thread to opening my eyes to many things I’d otherwise be ignorant to.
And here we go. Just know that your feelings about this issue are not based in any measurable or certifiable fact.
California high schools have been allowing transgender athletes to compete with their gender identities for a literal decade, and there's no proof of an unfair advantage.
Maybe men should stfu about what’s fair about it, quit pretending like you really care your hypothetical daughter gets beat in a sport she probably isn’t good at
I’m very ready to defend my trans homies on the sports issue again. Haven’t argued in a while, I’m all pent up.
The good that comes from allowing kids to compete far out weighs the bad. I am also smart enough to know I don’t understand the biology behind it so I won’t talk about what’s fair or not. Felt that way before and feel that way now.
I’ve never seen a more contrived thing to be mad about than people get about this issue, which isn’t a real issue, when almost no one who is mad about it can come up with a real tangible example of it happening in their life in a way that affected them or someone they know - because it simply doesn’t.
No one is transitioning to be good at sports. People who have transitioned that play sports that are medically transitioning aren’t dominating sports at some obscene rate. There is very little evidence of any competitive advantage I’ve seen in any study of the limited sample of cases where this happens.
Even if they are, the people complaining need to stop being so fucking soft and looking for their participation trophies. Fucking boomers and their participation trophies.
Let people be happy and do things they love you cunts.
I think at the Olympic/pro level it's fair to have some questions about competitive fairness. But when you're talking HS sports, why not let kids compete and have fun? Who cares? It's so ridiculous and really just a shield to signal dislike of trans people in a more socially acceptable way.