So my dad died this morning, prostate cancer. Been up in Portland this past week getting him into hospice and making sure he was comfortable and as much at peace with things as possible. Currently in a dive motel in Yreka on the way home, the place has ants and A/C that sounds like a fucking jet engine Exhausted
Love all y’all in here. Lost my dad a year ago this past June to stomach cancer. Was back home this weekend helping my mom clean up the yard after a huge storm blew through and took a bunch of limbs down. Got to messing around with one of his old Mustangs and really felt the loss, all over again. AptosDuck and asshole (thanks for making me type that in a serious post), I hope y’all are able to find some peace.
Thanks for the kind words. He'd had heart issues for nearly 20 years so when the prostate cancer came he thought he would die with it but not of it, so he decided not to pursue treatment when it would have been effective. Finally decided to do the chemical castration this spring, but then in late June he fell and broke his hip while putting on his pants and had to stop his oncological therapy while in the hospital/rehab center. Ten or so days ago he was taken to the ER for a UTI and their ct scan showed rapid cancer progression, one tumor blocking a ureter and threatening kidney failure and sepsis. He said no to their recommendation to do an emergency nephrostomy to remove pressure from the kidney, and went back to the rehab center for hospice. Middle son and I spent this last week with him doing hospice paperwork and taking care of his final needs. Tuesday was a good day, he was lucid and in good spirits, Wed/Thu he went downhill fast and needed a lot of morphine for the pain, and Friday morning he passed about 15 minutes after we arrived. I made my peace with him many years ago, but being strong for everyone else including his vicious cunt wife and my blubbering sister wore me down. Gonna go take a long walk on the beach
Sounds like you've been carrying a heavy load. I hope you have time to take a deep breath and get your feet back under you. Hang in there.
My dad passed away peacefully with my mom by his side at home this morning. To watch a 69 year old man that could still outwork me turn into a 120lb shell in 1.5 years while under the care of one of the best cancer centers in the world is just a humbling experience one cannot prepare for adequately until they experience it. On to the next chapter. Headed home from work early to book a flight for the morning and meet my brothers at my parents moms house to make arrangements.
Sorry for your loss mate. It's going to be tough for you now. Remember let those memories flood your mind.
Having one of those streaks where it feels like it's everywhere. My mom has stage 4 lobular breast cancer Wife's best friend's mom has terminal lung (non smoker) My best friend just called to say his wife (37) just found out she had breast cancer And my wife currently has a biopsy out that's probably nothing, but the doc said 30/70 so not out of the woods
I’m sorry. We did go through it. My dad, my FIL and then the wives of 2 close friends with BC all in a short span.
Not cancer but a friend from college died from ALS today. Had liver disease and a transplant 5 years ago and then a week after their third child was born he was diagnosed with ALS. That was less than 2 years ago. Leaves a wife and 3 young kids behind.
My Mom is a 1x breast cancer survivor. Chemo, double mastectomy. She now has metastatic breast cancer. Do not know how much it has spread. Meets with her original oncologist next Monday. Fuck cancer.
My eldest son and mom are cancer survivors. Fuck cancer. Sorry for your loss Beeds07 and I hope your mom beats this shit again Cornfed Buffalo
Mom update: This is a very rare spread of Cancer. Even the pathologist and Dr Copur have not seen this before. Surgery to look for any residual cancer in abdomen. Chemo pill with follow up. 5 rounds of Chemo. The path they take will all depend on what the scan shows. The scan is on Thursday.
I just started my treatment for Stage 3 rectal cancer on Monday. I had my first colonoscopy in December. No real issues other than thinking I might have IBS. As soon as I woke up the Dr told me I had cancer without seeing the biopsy. Imaging in Dec to stage it. Finally learned after the New Year the stage. The goal is to shrink it up as much as possible before surgery ~7 months later. I’ve been lucky to be in great health my entire life so it was quite a shock. But hopefully my otherwise good health will get me through this. Stage 3 (T3N1 to be exact) for this is definitely not a sure thing. I encourage all of you gents (and ladies) to get your colonoscopy if you have been putting it off. I should have done so about 3 years earlier (I’m 48) but took my health for granted. I think the cancer treatments and surgery in this area of South Florida is good. I can always go to Houston (some of the best cancer care) as well. Work has been very adaptive with me. I’ve been there 25 years and have a lot of trade secrets so I am definitely not going too hard. Good support system in place since my partner of 20 years is a doctor. Anyway, wish me luck to beat this shit.
Best wishes to you. FWIW a good friend went through something similar about fifteen years ago in his early 40's, and you'd never know it other than the fact that he has to irrigate and drain his colon through his port/stoma for a few hours every three days. He's an avid cyclist, travels the world, and eats/drinks whatever he wants.
Scan showed some in her bones, lymph nodes in neck and a small spot on her lung 4 rounds of chemo over the next 11 weeks and then another scan to see if it's working Prognosis is positive. So we will hope and think positively and help as much as we can
My mother was part of a melanoma TIL therapy clinical trial at UCSF in 1996. Glad to see its finally having some success
Figured I would give a little update. Finished my last radiation treatment last Wednesday. I was pretty good until session #19 then it went downhill for #20-28. Pain was REALLY intense for the last week and I would say that it was the worst week of my life. It’s gotten better with me figuring out how to space the pain medication more effectively (and higher doses) and not having to get my asshole blasted with protons each morning. Next up is IV chemo starting the 11th or 18th of March.
I’m slow posting this but we lost my father-in-law last week. It isn’t directly from cancer but he had a bone marrow transplant in 2020 and developed host graft issues that led to a downward spiral and things failing. Please cheers to Papa Mike if you have a drink tonight. He was a great father and grandfather.
Mom has completed 8 rounds of chemo. PET scan showed almost all lesions have shrank. Hoping to make the change to pill/shot going forward.
Anyone have any experience with Leiomyosarcoma? Was diagnosed earlier in April with stage 4 in the abdomen. Went in for a CT scan due to major discomfort in my stomach and lack of appetite. Was notified I had a mass the size of a volleyball pushing against all organs inside the abdomen. Currently scheduled for surgery on May 6th to remove it and then to begin chemotherapy afterwards.