33 and we are planning to start trying for a kid in the next 9 months. We are pretty busy with work now, not sure how we would add a tremendous responsibility on top of that. How did you guys with kids balance work and home after they were born?
Just hope you have a flexible employer. And/or family around to help. My wife's job isn't flexible at all so I get to do the majority of doctor visits, snow days, etc. Luckily I can disappear for a while and still answer emails at night, etc. to stay afloat. Her company blows and won't let her do that and makes her track the actual hours she's out even though she's a salary employee. You'll find a sweet spot with the balance and figure out the things you can sacrifice to make it work, it just takes time to get used to a new normal.
Start looking for child care right meow. If you’re going the private elementary school route start looking for that as well. Not a joke.
I remember when I thought I was old for joining this thread - now I'm halfway to 40. Fuck. Wife, kid, dog, and a mortgage that's a little too big. Hooray.
Guys can have kids almost forever, but risks of things like autism go up after 40 years old. My best friend is 37 and has a 15 year old half brother. Everyone assumes he's the father bc his dad is 68 years old and retired. lol
Turned 32 yesterday. GF recently moved in and pays $1,000/month, so it's essentially a $12,000 raise--living in sin has its perks. It's nice brotha. My only dependent is my dog. I live downtown in one of the most beautiful parts of the fucking world. I could not afford this at pretty much any other point in my life. In my age 31 year, I went to Africa on two separate occasions, 2+ weeks each time. Mexico City. Hawaii. Going to Spain in September. I went to a Burning Man festival in South Africa last month that I'm not sure I could have done in my early/mid-20s because I would've partied too hard and "burned" out. Now I know my limits and don't really like getting sloshed. Strongly prefer a handful of cunty craft beers and party favors over a dozen natural lights. I'm going back next year.
Also, guys, do yoga. It'll do fucking wonders for your joints and low back, especially if you have a desk job.
Damn man, your vacation game is putting me to shame. How many fucking airline miles do you have? :) I a lot less, but spend more money on good booze now. I also use a little to help with anxiety in the evenings sometimes.
You figure it out with kids. My wife and both work 50-60 hours a week. You just have to split up responsibility for the kids. We luckily have my in laws in town to help.
Things I do now (because I’m old) that I didn’t do when I was in my late 20s/earlymid30s — Wake up around 7:30 every day, at 8:30 is the latest if I’m hungover Go for a morning walk Drink less than 5 days a week Wear sweats to the bar Actually finish movies again Stopped smoking (mostly) Am punctual Meal prep It’s a whole different world of little self destruction (and in some regards — less fun and in some, more)
31. No kids. No wife. Great friends. Strongest I’ve ever been. Great job. Lots of upwards potential. Life has it’s ups and downs, but it’s pretty good in my 30s
My bosses' kid just started playing lacrosse and also has practice/games all summer. The kid is an amazing athlete. Could potentially be a D1 athlete as a safety. He didn't realize lacrosse isn't like football and was running for a ball and decleated a kid sending him about 5 yards in the air. Got a nice 3 minute penalty for that one.
Could you cite this for me so that I can leave a copy of that medical journal on my kitchen counter for LadyRez to find? Thanks in advance for saving the last bit of free time I might have.....38, own my own business, work 60 hours a week, live on a farm, no fucking clue how we will work kids in, but she is all in regardless.
I was always under the impression this was a TheChatch thread title because that’s something he would say. Anyways, 32, single, renting but looking. SoCal real estate is stupid. Looking to get a new car soon as well.
31, engaged, and under contract on a house whose monthly payment will be less than some apartments I've rented. Very much looking forward to all of this, especially the DINK part. I will unfortunately be saddled with student loans for at least 5 more years, though.
34, turning 35 in August, no wife, no girlfriend, no kids, have pets, used to have a cactus but I couldn't even keep that low maintenance of a plant alive, in a job but it's just holding me over until I start whatever my next career will be.
Turn 37 tomorrow. Wife, no kids, a dog. No job although I did just start looking and have an interview tomorrow. Health wise I can say I was at my leanest/most cut for my wedding last Oct but I did tear my left bicep during the process so there’s always that to watch out for.
I tore my ACL with a microfracture and had to get three surgeries from age 23-25. I was basically on crutches for 2 1/2 years. I play non-competitive slow pitch softball--the kind where you bring a beer in the field with you--but really don't do any high-intensity sports anymore. It's the side-to-side movement that kills me. My knee sounds like bubble wrap every morning, but it's mostly pain-free. At least I can still hike and climb mountains. It's honestly a little motivation to keep in shape and flexible because I'm worried if I let it get out of shape and stiff the recovery would be 10x harder.
Also, I’ve tried to like yoga but it’s just not my thing. I know it’s amazing for your body but I just don’t like it.