I usually don’t tell my friends what they can and cannot talk about around me. That would make me a pretty shitty friend.
A friend has a fake job to cover up for their real job (government ish)...it's always interesting to hear them talk about the fake job to people. They've gotten to the point to where I think they could actually do the fake job pretty well.
Mine is the "Director of People & Organizational Development" for the company she works at. I just tell people she works in HR whenever they ask because corporate titles and their meanings are lost on me.
Damn, I knew there were some rich mf'ers on this board, but I never realized just how rich until this post
No it's called boundaries. And they usually understand unless they're self centered and out of touch. When I first got this house we had a couple over that didn't understand boundaries at all. They stayed weirdly late for a school night. The husband started talking about how hard his day was doing construction (he owns the co. so he sits in his pickup), and I cut that shit the fuck out right there. I'm not going to act interested about how hard your job is. You're a grown ass man stop whining. He tried again. No sir. I don't care that you had to make multiple trips that day to get your crew materials and the machines running.
The only time I get annoyed is when someone goes on a long winded monologue that is far less interesting than they think and often far too granular. It's almost always one of a couple childhood friends that are attorneys now that do this. It totally deflates the group's conversation.
I can’t tell if you’re an internet hardo or just a genuinely miserable person. I hope it’s the former.
My wife does this... routinely turns a 60 second work story into a 10 minute one. And while I may Killy Me Please her in my mind, my gripes absolutely do not get vocalized
let’s not get too excited it’s a craft beer distributor that I founded. The rich guys are already a couple generations in and sell household name brands
If your job is the thing you have to talk about with everyone then your life is pathetic. If you dont stop people from doing it they also fall into the trap of perpetually talking about something no one fucking cares about. More often than not the stories are mostly forgetable. Granted i did say if theyre funny stories im all ears but i dont need to hear about the rest of the day. No one is remembering your personal conflicts with Brad from accounting. Im not miserable at all because i avoid talking about work lol. I have a very stressful business. If people ask i might say something but i tell people to stop asking because i dont need to be defined by what i do for money. If you cant understand this than youre probably the person that needs to bore people to death with your day to day misery from work.
Telling adults what they can and can’t talk about is psycho behavior. Just change the subject. No one needs a conversation arbiter in social interactions.
people feel the need to bore people to death with how fucking lame their jobs are and now theyre upset i dont care to listen.
Teachers are the absolute worst with this in my experience. Like they are the only occupation that deals with assholes. Also, you’re in the northeast right? Like 90% of the board can’t relate to this take. Just different social make up and routine.
Nurses more than teachers. They spend all day talking shit about their coworkers to their coworkers and then go home to talk more shit. They also all have marital issues and cheat. So its always a delight!
To be clear, like I said earlier, I seldom ever talk about others’ work and almost never talk about my own. I’ve still never encountered a situation where it was necessary to tell someone that “no one fucking cares” and tell them what they can/can’t talk about. That’s insane.
Killy Me Please I get where you’re coming from. Work does not define us. I personally don’t shut people down about it but I won’t encourage them.
Lol. You're totally that guy holding the party hostage talking about your boring work stories. It's ok wes. Just follow my 12 step program to stop boring people to death at social gatherings and you too can become the life of the party again
ahh, IC I grew up around a couple of kids whose dad owned the AB distributor that covered like the whole region them fuckers were spoiled
yeah I ran into my old boss who owned the AB distributor in NYC after I started the company. I started work at 4am that day and was bringing yesterday’s checks to the bank at 9:30 and I ran into him on the street near his house. I asked him if he was heading into the office and he said “nope, I’m going to help put my kids boats in the water.” I’m like oh, your kids have boats? Hes like “yeah, my other two are already in but im helping with my 10 year olds today”
Most people don't listen to what other people are saying, and just wait to talk, so does it really matter if wes tegg drones on about tortfeasors in your kitchen?
Instead of talking about your job, you can say stuff like “how about this weather” instead. People like that.
When things get uncomfortable in conversations I just always ask the group, “What do you guys think about puppies?” And it always turns it around.
Sounds like we need to get wes tegg and Killy Me Please in a room together with 10 other people and see who captivates their audience and who is a bore