This. Need to know the state to get an idea of the laws. True. But it does recognize a legal right to palimony.
Marvin action is a pretty high bar and requires much more than mere cohabitation for a period of time. I get what you are saying though.
Don't know about trying them as we don't have that cause of action. I just know the cause exists because it is something I have to be aware of so I can refer to someone who deals with that stuff more. Just basically saying that even if there's no marriage, that doesn't necessarily end the inquiry as a bunch of states have loopholes such as common law marriage and palimony. Even if your state doesn't have either, simply traveling to a state that does recognize common law marriage can screw you. I read a New York case where the couple traveled to Pennsylvania for a couple weeks vacation before that state abolished common law marriage. Court found that in the limited time in PA, the couple met the requirements and it resulted in a common law marriage under PA law. The court held that the NY courts were required to recognize the common law marriage. Bat shit crazy theory, but sometimes things stick when you have a sympathetic client.
My friend works for a law firm that handles Union Contracts/HR type bullshit in KCMO. Every once in awhile someone from the local contacts him about Missouri not having common law marriages, but still are seeing what benefits there are via taxes/what not. When he tells them that he can add their partner to their pension he never hears from anyone again. Nobody wants to potentially give their partner a share bc if they split they're screwed.
Now that my saga is trending in the right direction, it’s time for us to help the next one... The last week has been amazing and things continue to improve. I’m not gonna update as regularly any more unless something shifts negative. Hopefully some of my shit can help the next person that enters.... Honda Hawk keep us posted man.
No progress made. For me the kids and keeping up with the house is my number one priority. Got home from a 12hr shift and house was worse than when I took the two olders to school at 730am. Neither one of the kids had their (reading)school work done and the four year old was running around buck nekkid commanding Alexa. I sat down and buckled in on homework...didn't have dinner. She was upstairs on her phone .Dinner was done and she had laundry going, but nothing got folded/handled beyond that. I know her and our little feller went to the gym for her workout. The older kids told me mom got home about 20 minutes after they did (330ish). She's always going to the gym around 9am on Tuesdays...what's going on for those other six or so hours, assuming she's not home. Maybe she was home..I dunno. The mind plays tricks when going down shitty avenue. If I did ask her she'd get irritated and wouldn't help anything. Woke up today and she's always gone by 430am on Wednesdays. She works out then goes to work til 7pm (50/50 on if she gets home before 8...her commute is less than 30min). Got all three kids ready for the day. Dropped olders off for school, came back home and started cleaning til 930 then got the little guy to an eye Dr appt. Then got groceries. Came home and made little guy lunch and decorated tree/house. I just got laundry in and am starting in on dinner shortly. I'm keeping busy. Keeping my mind off things and doing what I can not to bother her and to let her think things through, but it's hard. She's happy as hell when on the phone with others, and she's upbeat and positive on social media. But when I'm around it's cold. I gotta get dinner started. Fuck.
According to South Park you should get her a Buddha Box. I'm sorry you are dealing with this man that is completely unfair to you and your kids.
Honda Hawk Get out of that ASAP. Sounds like she’s beyond selfish and probably cheating. What you’re miraculously pulling off isn’t sustainable and completely unfair to you. Pulling for you, buddy
It's usually her close friend from work, however, on Sunday I went upstairs and our daughter was in our bed watching TV and she was in the master bath closet talking on the phone. Don't know if she was spilling the beans to someone so our daughter couldn't hear or if it was some other stallion. I've probably asked her ten or so times if theres someone else or if she's ever cheated. She always denies it. Not a shocker. If she did admit to something this would make things a lot easier.
I'm no angel. Again, her main reason for doing this is that over the years I've brought her down and am nagging. I've got a bit of a temper, but I just can't handle this shit at times. What am I nagging about? 70% of the time it's the house. It doesn't get the attention a family of five should get unless I have a day off. There are times I'm worn out and just cant get motivated to to do shit. In the last two years it would be her being more absent from the home scene. I'd say it's 20% of my nagging is abiut the working out and villeyball two/three nights a week. The other 10% is whatever.
Your wife is acting like the teenager who is told she has to help with chores so she is pouting and pitching a fit. You are more her father now than her husband at this point.
why how dare you? i'm the one that brought up ass eating, p sure i'm responsible for saving all of our marriages *if someone else said it first i have them on ignore and i still get full credit
As mentioned before. She's off at 7. Just got a text that she's going to meet up with a couple of coworkers then get something for a potluck tomorrow. Pretty sure she'll come stumbling in at midnight and alarm goes off at 4am for her workout. Sorry for today's play by play...feels kinda good "journaling".
Frustrating that she won't go. Not because it would be a slap of reality for her, but at least I'd have a fighting chance to make things better and have a nonbias opinion on things.
This isn’t good. Not sure your situation but could you try a “perfect, so and so said they can watch the kids tonight. I’d love to join you guys” and see what her response is
She's a tech in the ER. Been doing so forever...since I met her. Dr could be the sugar daddy... Shitty Avenue.
Journal away. It helped me in here just to vent. You need to go to 1 on 1 therapy. It helped me a ton just to vent in that way too
Therapist isnt going straight up nail her to the wall, but they would likely have you share your feelings and see how she responds and vice versa. Problem is she might get defensive and act like you are ganging up on her anyways. I say its likely your last chance at this point and if it doesnt work then you will know you did everything you could and will at least have more closure. Good luck, man
Try not to let your imagination run wild with possibilities. It could be something, but it could be nothing, just as easily. Hope it works out for you man. Do what makes you happy.
Is she or her friends/coworkers posting pictures of her out? My wife is an ER nurse and every time they go out, it's all over social media. If not, I'd be finding someone to follow her.