Good on you trying to help out any way you can. I think just waking up and offering to stay up and help during the night goes a long way. A lot of times my wife just got lonely and wanted me to keep her company at 2am.
Make sure you make him pose in overalls with a shotgun and caption it with some kind of “you better not touch her” phrase.
my wife breast fed (and still is) as well. After the first week she told me not to even bother getting up to change the diaper since it only took 1 minute. I made up for it by doing a lot of the other stuff and it worked well.
Yeah we will see how it goes over the next few weeks. Breast feeding is only going okay, but she’s going to a class or two this week. She’s been pumping already so I can help with that, but she still wants to try before giving her a pumped bottle. I know it’s a struggle sometimes initially but it’s important to my wife to breast feed, so she’s determined to make that work. Whatever she needs me to do to help facilitate that, I am all for.
Spent 20 of the last 48 hours traveling, including waking up at 2am to make a flight, but it was all worth it to surprise 1/3 on her birthday.
My son just got his first hit in kid pitch (he’s 9). He’s not the worst athlete in the world but he better hope that kid who is keeps playing sports (he’s not that bad but he’s for sure bottom 1/3 on the team in every sport) . Anyway, he lined one to center field and then ended the game by tagging a kid out at third and got the game ball. After the hit I made a bit of a scene. All the other dads freaked out for him too. He had a terrible game last week and couldn’t do anything right. Same field against the same team. Dumb mistakes bad attitude bad luck. A snowball of bad. After the game he walked off by himself he was so sad and said his team would be better off without him. I’m pretty competitive (well used to be) so being a encouraging parent is hard when my parents were (and could be) more forceful and mostly focused on being a good sport since I was mouthy af. Had a talk with him about keeping perspective when things don’t go your way some times and the only thing you can do is practice and try to get better for the team. He asked me a couple times to play catch and practice this week and I usually have to make him. I would play all day if I could. The stars aligned and I don’t look like a complete idiot father for once. TLDNR: proud papa after first kid pitch hit.
Nanny no showed this morning, and phone was off when my wife tried to call her. My wife said she just figured out what happened, and that she’s no longer our nanny, but wouldn’t text it to me because she said it’s a long story. Anxiously await this one tonight. I knew paying $575/week for 3 kids was too good to be true.
You sir win the prize. Saw your post and did a quick search of the bookings and there she was. Arrested at 11pm and released at 10am. Refused the breathalyzer, so no license for 3 months.
We had a sitter just no show her first day. (We needed help for one full weekday per week.) Early 20s basic bitch looking for a teaching job and babysitting to make ends meet. Turns out another mom in the Facebook moms group offered her $2 more per hour for the same days/times. Also turns out there was some drama because a few weeks later there was a “I do NOT recommend so and so for sitting because...” on said Facebook moms group. Part of the reason my wife quit her full time job was the difficulty around securing consistent yet reasonable in home child care.
How old is she. DUIs are inexcusable, but in your opinion is it a dumb kid thing or a she probably has a bigger issue and doesn't need to be around our kid thing?
She’s 24. We think she’s also having issues at home with her husband who is a decade plus older. For the most part she’s been great with the kid the last 6 months, but it would probably be best to find someone new at this point.
Oh, right. Perfect, you’re even closer to Westchase than I thought. Tell your girl we need a sitter this weekend.
I relate to this. My wife’s sister offered to watch our son 2 days a week and it has been a nightmare. My wife is now quitting her job in June to stay home partly so we don’t have to deal with the weekly “something came up” phone call.
15 month old daughter had a febrile seizure tonight while going to bed - scariest moment of my life. Could only see the whites of her eyes while she was convulsing. Emergency room Dr. says it’s due to a spike in temperature (she’s running a fever) and apparently only 30% of kids have them recurrently. Everything seems ok now though - anyone else have any experience?
We planned to add our kid to my wife’s insurance policy but missed the 30 day window. Now at day 45, we added her after the deadline. I know the first thing will be to call her HR to see what to do, but how screwed are we?
My good buddy did the same thing very recently and they held firm for awhile and he had to appeal the decision a few times and talk to a bunch of people. It was his 2nd kid and he just kept putting it off; he should have known better. We work together in healthcare. Eventually got it taken care of but there was a very real chance it wasn’t going to work out that way. I think most are pretty firm on the 30 day thing.
This is my world. Most employers are easy on you for births and stuff. 90 is usually the carrier retro cutoff. If this was a random event (not your first,etc) they tend to be more strict. A lot of times when they make an exception it won’t go back to the date of event, but just moving forward.
Those are cute socks for Mother’s Day. I wrote my wife a poem that ended with: Spread your legs, bend over more Sit on my face and sixty nine Happy mother’s day, Mrs JBR Are you ready for sexy time? My goal is to have a large stash of inappropriate memories for my kids to find when we die.
Well this is a new one for us. We've never really had behavioral issues with either of my kids. A 5 year old daughter and a 2 year old son. Lately my daughter has become very combative and argumentative. My son has started to pick up on some of these behaviors. Last night was my wife's 15th class reunion and my inlaws had the kids overnight. We get up this morning to a phone call from them to come pick up the kids asap. Turns out my daughter was so naughty and disrespectful they wanted them out. My wife and I are so beside ourselves on what to do here. She can be the sweetest kid at times and an absolute bear. Nothing like this has ever happened before. Anyone have any recommendations for any behavior books or methods? We are trying to curb this before it gets out of hand. We've done the standard taking away things etc. Just don't know where to go from here. Small comedic side note. Just had some tortilla chips. My son apparently decided he likes the taste of the salt on said chips. He pulled out a bunch of chips, licked the salt off and then put them back in the fucking bag. Cant help but to chuckle about it.
Honestly, yeah. I'm not huge on spanking as my dad absolutely whipped my ass when I was little(sometimes I deserved it, most of the time I didn't), but yeah she's had her ass spanked alot lately.
I’m not sure if this is what you’re going through but our son, when he was three, was a bear to the point we were afraid he was going to get kicked out of daycare. His behavior was mostly trying to avoid things he didn’t want to do like nap, bedtime, etc. We were trying to take away things he liked and it had stopped working. We brought in a child psychologist and she taught us better methods. The keys were to say less when he was in the situation and do more to direct through body motions/signals. Divert attention or change the subject was another method (instead of forcing a toothbrush in his mouth, go read his bedtime book and he would just walk over and sit on our lap and let us brush his teeth). And lots of forced choices, if he won’t get in to bed instead of forcing it we would ask do you want to be on top of the covers or under? Do you want your stuffed animal on the right or the left? It is amazing what giving them the feeling of control did. But talking to them or yelling in the moment just stresses them out and it’s hard for them to process. We also did a lot of, you can do ____ after but first we are going to do _____.
Good advice, my 3.5yo can be a nightmare when it comes to the things you mentioned above. Gonna try some of these tips.
Be consistent and get buy-in from both. Before meeting with the psychologist, I was more consistent and gave a shorter rope than my wife and he realized this so he manipulated her more. She had a longer climb to reprogram his behavior. We kept a sleep log and received coaching from the doctor when we encountered new challenges like “I have to go potty” once he was already in bed. (Trick: tell him before bed, this is his last chance to go potty and stick to that). Feel free to ask questions in here and I’ll respond as best I can. It is a hard age and the coaching really made a difference in our mood/mental health and the relationship with our son because everything wasn’t so difficult.
not to be that guy, but children don’t understand spanking and it has the potential for a lot of negative outcomes down the road.
Just took a 2-day, 16 hour road trip to San Diego and Disneyland with our (almost) 3 year old and our 3-week old. All our friends said we were crazy and it’d be hell. Our 3-week old slept the whole drive and our 3 year old is so psyched for Disneyland that she is on her best behavior the entire time. Fuck the haters.
Not even worried about it. We’ve always made a point to live our lives similar to how it was before kids. We want our kids to have lots of experiences, so it’s inevitable that some will be bad at times. But the good outweighs the bad 10-fold, so we’ll keep doing it. We stop every 2-3 hours so its really not too bad.
We're about to take our almost two year old to Orlando for one day of disney and some other stuff. Will be an 8+ hour ride probably counting a couple of long stops so she can run around, not looking forward to it but hopefully we can have fun there.
About to take the 12 hour drive back home for my nieces wedding with a 5 yr old and 2 yr old that’s potty training. So glad we bought the van with a dvd. Pray for us.
16 hours in a car sounds miserable to me kids or no kids. My threshold these days is about 6 hours in a car before I'm looking at flights.
we have a almost 2.5 year old, and a 5 month old. Wife wants to go to the beach at some point like we took our first at 9 months, but it was 2 on 1 and we could manage him on the plane alright. the thought of driving or flying to a beach with 2 kids at that age sounds like a NIGHTMARE from Oklahoma. No beach is close
No kidding, Day care prices are crazy, when we went looking around and they said their rates I couldn’t imagine paying for 2-3 kids
So far my son has been a champ. He’s usually up for about 30-45 mins around 8am and then he sleeps until about 5pm only to fall back asleep until 1130 at night when he’s up for a good 45 minutes. Last night was the first night where he really struggled going to sleep. I fed him, changed his diaper, buttoned up his onesie and his pajamas and got him back in bed, turned the light off and then.... *massive diarrhea noise* He didn’t end up falling asleep for another hour after that. He must be going through a growth spurt though because he went from 2 ML’s to about 3 ML’s now. /end dad log 5-13-19
Starting in June we are going to be paying 30% more than our mortgage for daycare for our 3 until we find a dependable nanny, that won’t go out and get a DUI on a random Tuesday night. Kill me.