I mean she has 3 kids. Maybe she sucks a good dick nightly and fucks him like a pornstar? Just saying he’s not with her for the looks.
I have some experience with marrying an older woman with a kid. Gonna be honest it was incredibly difficult to deal with an ex husband and all the baggage that comes with that. I got incredibly lucky that he was a total piece of shit I was able to run off before he destroyed my marriage. I am not sure what the ex situation is but that absolutely matters and can make things impossible. For the first few years we were married he tried to do anything and everything to fuck with our marriage. He manipulated my step daughter who I have cared for like my own since she was 3. I am biased but my wife is attractive sorry no pics. She also had a great job when we met and was basically supporting me through grad school. She bought the first house we lived in when we were married. I was waiting tables so she was my sugar momma for sure. Most importantly she gives a good bj. In conclusion tell your buddy if he wants the instant family he can find one with a more attractive partner with far less baggage. My wife just had 1 kid and I wouldn't trade her for the world. 3 would have been too much. I was in my mid twenties when I met my wife and wasn't prepared to parent multiple kids much less teenagers like your buddy is dealing with.
As someone who believes every couple should do what they feel best for them and is personally cohabitating and starting a family before marriage, that’s just not accurate. The data is mixed at best. Certainly historically the data supports the exact opposite. As more and more people cohabitate premaritally, there have been some shifts, but it’s far from a settled issue. Some studies say you’re still at up to a 33% increase risk of divorce, some say you have a lower risk in the first year but greater 5+ years out, and some say you’re at a lower risk if the data is adjusted for religiosity, education, and age (don’t understand that adjustment, seems like cherry-picking, but nevertheless). So you can find credible studies in each direction, but you can’t say categorically one way or the other. Not that people should be making these types of decisions based on minor perturbations in aggregate statistics, anyway.
I was talking about the length of dating, not the cohabitation. This all stemmed from a comment that "not getting married after four years raises some red flags."
Is there a financial incentive? Do her parents have a really nice house? Is she an only child? I’m grasping at straws after that pic.
No he probably makes more money than she does. Her parents have a 3 bedroom house and she sleeps upstairs in what she had made a bedroom for herself. As far as I know she is 1 of 4 kids
So....going back to the number of bjs this bug-eyed gal has given your buddy. <10 in what amount of time? Cuz, like...my buddy says he'd have to go quite a ways back in the past to count his past 10 bjs.
Not even that many BJ’s the stories I’ve been told about his relationship are insane for him to be putting up with it for as long as he has
Nope he did really well in high school and in college met this chick and hasn’t left her after the craziness
I think that is what it is. The father of the kid is apparently a scumbag so he has helped along the way
That's tough. My wife's ex was a total piece of shit. I would have stuck around regardless just for the sake of my daughter.
I couldn't have done 3 or even teenagers. My daughter was 3 when I met my wife so I have been dad for almost 16 years. I guess he has been with her long enough to know what the kids are like. Staying with her for the sake of the kids isn't good for anyone though. Even admitting I would probably do the same thing I now realize how unhealthy that would be. If he marries her its going to change the expectations too. Its one thing to be the boyfriend its a whole different ball game to be step dad.
Yes she was living with the mom I guess post baby daddy and the entire relationship while he has had his own place. My thing is it doesn’t seem like she wants to leave her mom’s house. Maybe she likes know she has a babysitter idk
On the surface she seems pretty immature for someone in her position. Lives at home and dates a younger guy.
Update - the fact that she is 36 and can’t have an adult conversation with my friend is insane. My friend says hey you kinda been weird about your phone. Just the smarts on this lady is mind blowing
“Hey, so I’ve been telling my e-friends about how pathetic it is that you’re dating this ogre with no redeeming qualities and they want to heckle you for your piss poor decision making lol wanna talk to them?”