He passed away a couple of hours ago. Thank you all for your kind words. For those in here who are struggling with alcohol, please know I am rooting for you.
My and my family’s deepest and sincerest condolences for your loss. I told my wife (she remembers you as my SS) she sends her condolences and if there is anything we can do please let us know. Take care of yourself brother.
Sorry man. I lost my dad pretty unexpectedly and quick. It fucking sucks. It still hurts today. Remember the good times y'all had together and keep his spirit alive talking about him to your kids.
Late to the party but hopefully here to stay. Not a sip this past weekend on vacation and really had no urge.
I was a little nervous I might be on my way down a bad path (and had some health issues) so I haven’t drank since July of 2020. It was a little difficult at first but now I barely even think about it.
Congrats to all that have succeeded haven’t had a drink since Christmas. Thought I’d celebrate this weekend, but I have zero desire and actually have plans to DD Friday night
Made it as well. Working this weekend so will be able to push it to the Super Bowl. Only ever drink on the weekend but it’s usually every weekend so it’s been nice feeling good on Sunday mornings, especially with little kids and their early wake ups.
but in reality, (lately I've kinda wanted to test the waters) I had a talk with a friend that knew I wasnt drinking but she wanted to know the reasons why I actually quit and it instilled the belief that I dont need to go back because it would be a disaster and I would hate myself if I did
IMO If you truly feel like blacking out on alcohol was leading you to the point of quitting for the better, I agree with your friend. Alcoholism is a progressive disease/trait. It was explained to me that is like a box fan being turned from low to medium to high. Once you get to the highest setting, the knob breaks. Only keeping the fan unplugged stops it. I don't have a low or medium setting anymore. I drank myself through those phases. I'm afraid if I tested the waters, it would be worse than before. Maybe not on the 1st weekend but soon enough.
Yeah there was never a low or even medium phase for me. first time I drank I had 10 shots of vodka when I was 13. When I was 15 drank 18 Miller Lites and HS grad weekend I got introduced to $5 liquor pitchers on strip here in tally.
If you convince yourself you have it under control and you're good to go back, you may be for a week, a month, 6 months, but odds are eventually you'll get back to where you were before. Your brain is good at lying to itself.
I love this. I'm stealing it. I've read a couple memoirs of people who got into drinking problems and were able to quit and while I'm not as bad as some of them, I definitely noticed some similar traits.... and this analogy is damn spot on too.
made it and had a single drink to celebrate with my wife last night (she did it too) and had zero desire for more than 1. dropped 7 pounds (began lifting and running), my phone informed me that over 5 weeks my heart rate dropped by 8 beats a minute, and I’m sleeping the best I ever have. I’ve never been ‘out of shape’ I’m pretty fit for the average 38-year-old but I feel so damn good. Started way more projects around the house, started eating healthier and honestly became a better husband. Think alcohol will become something that enhances a meal, is completely a social event, and for a celebration type thing. No longer a daily ritual of 2-3 drinks to ‘decompress.’ Best decision I made in a long time.
Same here This has been a great month. Down 10lbs and feel fantastic. Will be interested to see what my reaction to drinking again will be. I have a feeling I’ll drink less going forward. Hope I can keep it that way.
Last year I was good for a few months coming off of Dry January but I eventually reverted back to the weekly over excesses by the time summer rolled around. hoping to be a little more aware this year.
Tonight we dine drink in hell my underwear on the couch binging Disney+. Will probably make Dry Jan a yearly habit. Definitely helped me drop a few lbs to get ready for hot boi spring break.
i've done Dry Jan for the last 4 years now. after this most recent one, i think i'm going to try and avoid alcohol, period. i just feel meaningfully better. i also listened to this podcast episode which was very thought-provoking.
one thing that really helped me is the St. Agrestis Phony Negroni (link). it's crazy how close it gets to a real negroni, one of my favorite cocktails. also been experimenting with NA wine (in addition to the usual NA beers) and have found it to be surprisingly solid. Misty Cliffs and Lautus are the ones i've liked best.
Anyone extending to Q1?? Gonna try. Birthday in Mid April then a surf trip. Planning to hold.put until then
have a Spartan race at the end of February. Was planning on going through that, might have 2 glasses of wine on V Day
I wouldn't say I was an alcoholic, but I drank every day 5+ drinks. October 2022 I woke up hungover and said to myself , "I was never going to drink again". We've all said it before when we felt like crap, but I figured why not actually try and do it. I haven't drank alcohol in more than 2 years now.