Ehh, really needs prime/single tlau and dhmb to make it great. Dhmb getting wifed up has been tragic.
Luckily I don't have that situation but I'd probably make myself scarce. Being nice to family or hanging out with them just because they're family always seemed dumb to me though so call me Shawn Hunter
Yes you do. You can easily not talk to people you don’t want to deal with. I haven’t seen or spoken to one of my sisters for about 7 years and my life is just as good as it was. People enter and exit your life all the time. Family members are no different if that’s what you want.
I have disassociated with family members who are pieces of shit, though not immediate family members.
Family is on the verge of civil war. My 3yo nephew got diagnosed with flu yesterday. Pediatrician put him on Tamiflu and told my sister he should be ok for Christmas. My brother who has a 2yo and 9 month old says there is no fucking way he is coming to our family Christmas if the nephew with flu is there. I’ve been asked to take sides. Got laughed at when I suggested he wear a mask
I have an aunt that our family cut off contact with for about 10 years due to behavior and life choices. She finally ditched the behavior and started making better life choices and she will be joining us om Christmas. It is tough because they are family but allowing and even catering to their shittiness does nothing to correct the situation and actually even empowers them more. Good luck man.
When is family Christmas. If you are doing it Christmas Day and you get them on tamiflu on time he could be okay. My Aunt missed out on the family Christmas this evening because of the flu. Started on tamiflu on Tuesday and was looking better. She woke up this morning feeling worse and decided not to come. My FIL who is a doctor said 72 hours on tamiflu would be the minimum amount of time that he would consider being around her with our baby. That was when she was feeling better.
It's really easy to say "don't talk to them" or say fuck it, but this is literally my mom, dad, and sister. They're all I got. Yea, their behavior is abhorrent, but maybe I'm still just naively loyal to family to an extent. I've stopped trying to change their mind, I really feel it's too ingrained. I just bite my tongue and hope the subject changes soon. I've tried to speak my part and it absolutely makes matters worse. Whatever, it's a large part of why I don't live there--I'll deal with it once or twice a year. Shit sucks. I'll be gone in 4 days.
I don’t like 98% of my family and don’t talk to them. I have a relationship with my grandma, Dad, sister and one cousin. Everyone else can get fucked.
You have TMB man. We will all take turns inviting you over for the holidays! Seriously though, best of luck.
I helped my dad throw out of the house one of my uncles back when I was in college. I can't remember what happened to give him the boot but it was a pretty heated conversation. We never saw him again after that. The uncle died earlier this year, I didn't go to the funeral.
Never coddle. Never apologize. Fuck them. If they want to live like a bunch of fucking shit flinging cave dwelling fuckwads, that's their choice. Go all out and continue taunting them and flaunting your wealth and education and cosmopolitan lifestyle until you're not invited back.
Update on the love birds Two Saturdays ago we did the whole Santa picture with all the grandkids. She shows up with BIL because my wife is buying their kids shoes, socks, underwear etc because they aren't willing to do that. She is obviously under the influence of a sedative Fast forward to 4pm, Im at my FIL house. FIL gets a call from my BIL, he is going to jail for domestic violence, so is SIL, but she is also possession of meth, xanax and percs. My wife has to go pick up all the kids. We got 2 of his kids for a week. I'm callused to a lot of stuff. But, its been awful listening to a 9 and 7 year old have casual conversations about how daddy came home to find mommy sleeping with a drug dealer, knowing the cops by name because they come over so much and how they don't have coats because they forgot them at Mommy's HS boyfriends house. My wife said when she went to get the kids you could tell they are unattended all day because the bathroom is covered in markers, dirty clothes are everywhere, empty dressers, dog shit piles in a kids room.
These are the type of people that need the kids taken away then take the POS out back but a bullet in their head and lets move on.
My Holidays should be a real hoot this year. On my wifed side he dad passed away back in June, so I'm sure there are going to be some tears shed when we get together. I have a feeling theirs going to be a blow up or too though. Ever since my FIL passed my bio has almost disowned his mother, cause lets face it she's a overbearing, crazy hoarder, well she has built a condo in the same city as my wife and SIL and she wants everyone to do a walkthrough of her new place christmas eve morning so she can show the BIL. He will show no interest and say something along the lines of I don't care anymore mom and she will break down and have a moment. My guess is we then come back to my house for dinner and gifts where he will sit on the couch and pout and be a real grinch cause he had to leave his small town and come to the big city where us soft city folk live, then proceed to yell at his oldest daughter all day cause she might not be acting they way he thinks she should act 100% of the time. The SIL kids will proceed to be little shits cause lets face it they are. They are spoiled brats who never get disciplined and just laugh at their parents whenever a threat is made. So that should be a fun holiday. My moms side is usually pretty tame but this year my aunt who is still stuck int he 80's is co-hosting it and has already tried to set rules for the guy gift exchange just because her 2 sons are now part of it since they are in college so now no inappropriate items are allowed. Most every guy now got something just to piss her off. Her husband is also a real winner and dresses in a american themed Tommy Hilfiger shirt all the time and wears his gigantic gold necklace, then gets pissed cause everyone just rags on him and makes fun of him. Dads side is no big deal really will just have to listen to everyone complain about Trump and how they are screwing the small guy and how he has no idea what he's doing, well no shit sherlock I told all of you that last year at thanksgiving after the election.
Yeah, the advice given on here has been largely horrible. I've found that stupid opinions by people that I love are best met with ignoring and changing the conversation. If they know you won't acknowledge certain topics they tend to move on. That might not work for everything you described, but it's helped me. It might also help to lay some groundwork and make it known that there are certain topics you don't want to discuss and that you would appreciate if they respected that. You can't choose your family, but as long as you can still see some good in them cutting ties probably won't be the appropriate strategy for most people that give a shit.
Sounds like he doesn’t actually love his sister though. At this point, she’s an annoying person he forces himself to hang out with.