It was quite a ridiculous ask. Her brother has a Master’s Degree in Guitar but works as a handyman. The brother offered to go get a Uhaul with me to take it back the day his flight left back for Atlanta at 11AM which was obviously not logistically possible. I had no idea that this was a rental until the night before. I honestly thought that the shop guy was just getting a used electronic piano out of his store for cheap. So I was just wondering where we were going to put this piano in the house after they left until I heard the real story.
Why not stop the whole thing at, “we are paying for there to be a piano in the house for our nephew?”
I love my nephews but I’m sure as fuck not renting a piano for them to play in my house while they stay, much less go pick the goddamn thing up in a uhaul
I actually just moved an upright piano using the old fashioned two men and a pickup truck method. Afterward, I found out local piano stores move pianos if you pay them. I will be doing that in the future
A partner who would agree to do some dumb shit like this for her brother and nephew in this manner would raise so many red flags that basically anything else she does for the remainder of this relationship is your fault for not running to the goddamn hills, like yesterday.
Hell, if the ~BIL had rented a full size piano himself and paid for all the transport, I still would’ve been annoyed as hell. Who the fuck rents a piano and moves into somebody else’s house for a goddamned visit?
I’ve been with her for 16 years so not really worried about her but just frustrated that I didn’t learn about the proposal first to shit on it and embarrass him for asking. She’s just very generous to a fault to her family unfortunately.
Sounds like there may be some overindulgence, but encouraging a kid in music is never a bad thing Sanjuro. I think you might be in a good family
This is what it'd be at UofSC::https://academicbulletins.sc.edu/graduate/music/music-performance-mm/ Study with this guy: https://sc.edu/study/colleges_schools/music/faculty-staff/Berg.php
while I’m out of town my wife calls me this morning, ‘I took down all the paintings and decorations in living room! Ready to put the new painting samples on wall!’ ‘ok’ ‘oh, and I may have fallen off the couch while doing this and broke the coffee table.’ ‘what, how?’ ‘well I was standing on the couch ...’ **here I visible sigh** ‘ ... and the dog came on the couch and I didn’t know it and almost stepped on the dog and fell down on the coffee table.’ I guess :fuckyocouch: (oh, and I’m the asshole because I asked how bad the coffee table was before asking her how bad the fall hurt. This might be a valid point)
I will take that out, it was not overly insensitive but this was a stupid joke that does nothing good.
Kinda want to tell my brother that MLS is getting really into some absurd musical instrument (harp, bassoon, etc.) and that we need to procure one for our next visit just to see the response.
Update on the piano: It was cheaper to just buy it than get someone to come get it: $400. So now I’m a proud owner of an electronic full size piano that neither myself or my girlfriend can play. We are rearranging the house to give it a permanent place.
My thoughts exactly. Is this guy some sort of bum or vagrant? Why in the actual fuck did he not pay the bill from the get-go? This is so absurd it seems fabricated.
dude, congrats on your piano but it appears you have never had a hard conversation with your girlfriend. The conclusion you came to is to keep it and not have a discussion with the her or the shitbird? I feel like we are missing some key information or she is taking advantage of you.
The weirdest part isn't paying for it but rearranging his house to accommodate an instrument no one in the home can play or has any interest in playing as far as I can tell
The kind a BIL would choose to rent from for his teenage son to play while he stays and visits family.
We had the conversation and she knew it was stupid after the piano got here. By then it was too late. She tends to give to her brothers because she is in a place financially to do so. The money wasn’t as much the issue as it was the absolute gall of her brother to ask of the temporary arrangement without having a plan to return it. Keeping it was logical given the price. I would much rather keep something of value than just pay more to get it out. I hope at a future point we may know someone that wants a piano for themselves or their family member. Maybe we can donate it to a charity and get a tax deduction. It certainly sucks that we have less room until that time but hopefully she has learned her lesson on unrealistic requests from her family.
My gf was just trying to do something nice for her nephew because he’s the only kid in our family. She gives plenty to his college fund as well. She just didn’t work out the logistics of a full size piano going in and out of the house. Her brother is a bit of a bum though.
http://www.nwpianogallery.com/Kurzweil_Mark_IV.html It’s in good shape but that looks to be the price to get a used one.
Your BIL’s endgame is you guys paying for the kid’s college. He’s just pushing you now to see how far you’re willing to go down the road.
I get people need help sometimes or that you want to help out a family member who is trying but doesn’t have tons of financial resources. That goes out the window though when he renting a piano for a visit and sticks you with the bill. If that was my brother in law I would tell my wife I’m never doing shit for him again.
Yea, I honestly had more questions about how someone maintains a 16 year long girlfriend relationship than the piano absurdity. No judgement, I just literally can't fathom it without getting stabbed at some point for not proposing.
My niece had spinal fusion surgery this past week. My wife, being the good aunt, got her some stuff for a care package from Amazon…that was delivered to our house…so my wife could take it out of the Amazon box, put it in a new box with a card, and ship it to my niece. $20 in candy and sudoku is now $40 in candy, sudoku, a box/card, and shipping.
Despite me saying it’s a bad idea, my wife committed the classic blunder of cutting bangs with a straight cut. Now my kid’s hair has a slightly upside down parabolic shape. My kid’s first haircut will be to fix her bangs that her mom messed up. At least I got to say I told you so.
We have a reservation at a restaurant for 8:00. It's busy season for restaurants here. It's currently 8:10 and she hasn't left the bedroom yet. She'll be absolutely bewildered if they've given our table away.