we lost misplaced my 1 year old on Monday for about 2 or 3 minutes. my 4 y/o daughter left the back door open and the baby likes to open and close doors. so I'm in the living room hanging with all the kids and I thought my wife was in the kitchen preparing dinner but she had actually made her way into our room to get dressed. so the baby starts crawling to the back of the house where the kitchen is and I don't think much of it. after about thirty seconds I send the 6 year old to go get him and he yelled over "he's not here!!". so we start checking room to room, under beds, etc. but he was no where. after about a 30 seconds my wife starts freaking the fuck out. I'm pretty calm because I had a better idea of how long he was gone and I knew he didn't get far. Nobody thought to look outside because the doors were closed. Eventually my oldest looks out the window and sees the baby just hanging out on the back porch with a smile on his face. He was completely fine but that it was a real shock to the system. the 1 year old phase of having an extremely mobile child with very little communication or cognitive ability is a pretty stressful stage. Especially when you're on your third.
Jfc that opening sentence made me think the toddler died for a couple minutes. Glad to hear it was nothing as serious albeit still a stressful situation.
Number three arrives in July; a girl. We are all very excited to be having a girl. It will definitely be a shift from the all-boy routine.
With it finally warming up we have broken out the water table and our 15 month old is fascinated! With the addition of this 400gph pump I’m fascinated by it too Kulife FUMAK 400GPH Submersible Water Pumps (1500L/H, 25W) Fountain Pump Pond Pump Aquarium Water Pump with Flow Control for Fish Tank, Fountain, Waterfall, Filtration, Water feature, Hydroponics https://a.co/d/fBBdsdc
Alright this has my curiosity. Is the plan to turn the water table into a more permanent water feature that’s always on for more fun and less dumping/refilling daily? Have you seen anyone else doing it?
I should have bought one of these years ago. My kids though always turn the water table into a mud table so not sure how it’d hold up.
I’ve seen it on tik tok. My guess is the goal is to occupy the child’s time longer. My kids usually lost interest in their water table after 10-15 minutes.
I’d say the goal is to keep the wheels spinning and the top pouring water without having to keep the water hose on and overflowing the table. So yea, more fun with less wasted water
Getting more and more concerned with my 5yos behavior. Extremely defiant if he doesn't get what he wants, when he gets in trouble he'll start saying the worst things he knows (stupid, idiot, i hate you). He is also very hard on himself. A lot of times when he gets in trouble it's "I'm bad. you guys don't like me." etc. He's never had a single issue at school, it's exclusive to home. We are not perfect parents, definitely need to be more structured and stand our ground when boundaries are set. Looking to see a family therapist if not just to get some help with our parenting. What sucks is he is way worse with my wife and she deals with it worse than me. I'm out of town for 5 days and it has been nothing but shit since I left which has her convinced he is this troubled monster.
A 3.5 hour dance recital (for kids as young as 3) on a Sunday at 5 should be illegal. my daughters are in 4 of 70 (seventy!) numbers.
I don’t ask my wife what it’s costing us because she knows what my reaction would be. It’s only intermission
I don’t ask my wife what it’s costing us because she knows what my reaction would be. It’s only intermission
jeez and I thought my nieces 2 hr choir recital was bad. that sounds like some sort of twisted test of endurance/psychology experiment.
Could be normal’ish stuff, but it seems like you’re taking good steps in getting outside opinions. Best of luck.
My wife has been a hip hop / jazz dancer forever. It was cool when we first started dating, because it was a small group of talented university affiliated dancers; see also very hot. The next stop was a cast extremely variable in age and the attractiveness plummeted. It was still entertaining though, so I always attended. Now that we're in a small town, the adults perform in the same shows as the kids. Sincerely the most painful thing I've ever had to sit through, and I refuse to ever go again. Multiple hours, objectively bad performances (not their fault. They're little kids but still), and the lack of skill in the adult group makes even her performances kinda bleh. She gets upset and accuses me of not showing enough support, but the way I see it is: 1. I support you by encouraging your multi-night weekly hobby that takes you away from family time 2. I work very hard on my golf game, but you don't see me making you ride along with me in charity events/tourneys to cheer on those performances 3. I would still attend if there weren't 50 other little kid shows to sit through. They actively discourage showing up to only see a single performance. People also give me suspicious looks in the audience as an older guy they don't recognize sitting there all alone All that aside, I know there would be zero way out of attendance if it were my kid performing, so I'm sorry dude. Sucks. Take some edibles?
She wants to side our oldest up for the "competition team" next year. Read: way more weekend performance and money out of our bank account. So excited.
My wife does the same but it's 100% adults, alcohol is served and they wrap that shit up in 90 minutes or less. 3.5 hours with mostly random people/children is a legit nightmare
they serve alcohol at our daughter's dance recital so we just get a babysitter for the baby and have a view cocktails and enjoy the show. there are worse ways to spend a sunday afternoon.
Made a huge mistake last night. Kid wanted a pop tart, so I gave him one. My error? Well like a complete asshole I broke it in half so it would be smaller and hopefully make less of a mess. You'd think I literally shat inside the package and tried to feed it to him. HD did eventually ate it when I convinced him "two pieces" will taste the same as the "big piece" he wanted
It rarely happens, but my daughter will get set off by something so odd like this at times. Also she's six now and we just spent a bunch of money with a psychologist to assess her cognitive skills, unsurprisingly (if any of you have followed my struggles with her) she has ADHD and something called Auditory Processing Disorder the latter being basically she struggles to understand directions and concepts if these things aren't repeated to her and needs visual aides. Among other things she's basically below average in all her cognitive skills and struggles to be able to work independently, without her teacher basically staying on top of her, if given a task. A big reason for this is that she's still needing once a week occupational therapy to work on her fine motor skills as she's struggling writing being a lefty (neither my wife or I are left-handed) and using utensils. I'm pretty stressed out since we're in the middle of a huge move across the country and the Psych can't prescribe her anything. My wife isn't immediately wanting medication but I think it will come to that point sooner or later and we'll have to get her an appointment with a psychiatrist once we're settled in a few weeks. From researching online the common treatment plan is to use the generic for Ritalin or Concerta. I don't want to zonk her out at six years old, but she's incredibly hyperactive, extremely controlling, and doesn't respect boundaries very well which gets extremely exhausting for me in particular, to the point where I'm generally irritable with her by the end of the day and usually after 1 day of a normal 2 day weekend. I get pretty depressed since I hate feeling this way, but she's extremely hard to get out of her comfort zone and do activities that the whole family can enjoy (particularly things like walking on trails, nature, etc.). Not sure if any other posters here have their kids on this kind of medication and what the results are, but we're spending the money to keep her in a private school that gives lots of mental breaks and also has a very small class size so that she can get more than average time with her teachers.
best of luck, man. Being a parent is so fucking hard. Our son isn't perfect and has had his struggles at daycare. I feel like that is something that's frustrating, but maybe on the low end...but it's exhausting & you just want to make it better/fix it and can't. I've never been around young kids. Neither has my wife. We often struggle/question what is normal if we need to see someone, hope time will fix certain things. hope you find what she needs and the move isn't too bad (Top 3 most stressful thing outside of divorce and kids is moving. gl)
sending all the love man. i read somewhere that bad parents never question if they are bad parents or not. they don't feel the kind of guilt you are feeling.
I don’t have experience on the parenting side but do have some on the personal side. I personally would not view medication as “zonking her out” but rather potentially assisting her in controlling her mind and emotions better. It’s not like you’re just putting her in a morphine catatonic state. If your docs think it could be beneficial then I wouldn’t hesitate.
I’m sure this isn’t much help but I’ve always viewed it as whether it’s mental health, neurodivergence or physical health if the professional recommends it there is a reason. Would you not give her insulin if she was diabetic?
my BIL has severe ADHD. His 6 or 7 year old was recently diagnosed and put on medication and is doing much better. Not sure on what medication it is, though.
I think the thing is that it feels like a lazy way out when we probably should buckle down and do more at home to work on these issues (which we have done somewhat when our lives haven't been in disarray) first before falling back on medication. I'm obviously not being rational either in my thought process as this will take a multi-prong approach, but it's been such a tumultuous couple of years for us with my MIL passing and my wife getting, understandably, bitter and wanting to move.
my brother that is just not how it works for mental stuff and you're going to build resentment with your child (and her with you probably). she's been diagnosed, it's not some kind of puritanical personal failing.
I think you're thinking I'm actually going to hold off suggesting medication, I'm just trying to deal with my own issues because I've been taking psychiatric medications since I was 13. I'm well aware of how much it's needed in certain people, especially my own self. I'm also using this thread to vent.
When you're out of town and your wife texts you "I bought the kids a water slide" and you don't think about it again until you get pictures later in the day....
Anyone feed their kids kodiak protein pancakes? They like to do waffles/pancakes once a weekend. My wife and I like them, but I think they use whey, so not sure if that's hard on little stomachs.
Staple in our house on weekends for the little guy. No issues edit: Kodiak protein waffles not the pancakes. Haven’t tried those
I think she got excited and sent pics before she started the water. The red bucket thing over the three slide side also continually fills up and dumps water down on the head of the middle slide person per the video sent to me.
I'm not sure if this answers your question, but we do the protein noodles for pasta and sauce with the kids just for an added protein and they haven't had any issues.
We make our own protein pancakes and our boys inhale them. Super simple to make and delicious. Perfect thing to make when you don’t have much time. 1 Cup rolled oats 1 Cup cottage cheese 4 eggs put everything into a blender and blend until smooth (no oats visible). Then pour onto a griddle and cook as usual. don’t turn your nose up at the cottage cheese, you won’t taste it at all. A typical pancake night for us is a double batch 2cups, 2 cups, 8 eggs, and we almost polish off the whole thing. throw some bacon on and it’s pretty much all done at the same time.