wife took another yesterday and it was sketchy as hell. could baaaaaaarely see a second line that would be pregnant. I would have more doubt if she didn't feel like shit yesterday from nausea, but we will test again today
We've been trying for a couple months, wife is past her period by over a week now for the 2nd month in a row (last month's eventually happened).
Sarah likes to really invest in the pee stick business at any suspicion of pregnancy. All four tests were visibly positive. Just got back from the Doctor and they confirmed she is officially 5 weeks, so super duper early, but I'm excited nonetheless.
update, took a "pregnant/not pregnant" test today, and it said not pregnant... definitely playing with our emotions now she is going to take one first thing in the morning tomorrow, since those are usually the most telling
While it takes the fun out of trying I highly suggest the ovulation test strips. Once it shows she’s ovulating fuck like rabbits. Took us two cycles before she was pregnant.
Well, after being foster parents for 4 years and caring for 16 kids we are going through the process of deciding if we will adopt a sibling group of 3 girls (6, 11 and 12...all redheads) that have been with us for 16 months. We just had to ask their 18 year old brother to leave the house due to continually going back to drug use (the reason bio mom and dad are in jail and just lost all parental rights). We have 2 of our own (now ages 5 and 8) already. No other kids, or group of kids before did we ever consider, adopting, either it was not an option or clearly not a long term fit to our family. Huge decision, kids would not be up for adoption long if we choose to not keep them because in the agencies adoption folks' words they are..."white, beautiful and physically healthy" Our life with 6 (now 5) kids has been a stressful imbalance and dance of logistics and stress with dark lows (police at house, drugs in the house, scathing reveals in court, child trauma, surprises like violent criminal bio dad waiting by my car at the store, incompetent case workers, oldest girl starting her period) and incredible highs (first sleep overs, first report card A, 1st gymnastics meet, all holidays, family pictures, Disney days, went on a cruise, 1st time they refer to us as mom and dad, watching our 7 year old son get in a fight because someone made fun their "new older sister"). We even moved into a bigger home to keep sane. Yet there is no quiet, not even on the toilet. 5 kids under 12 is A LOT. We have 4 weeks to make a decision and this maybe the most difficult decision my wife and I have made in our entire marriage. end internal emotional battle venting.
I need to keep this in perspective when I feel balancing work, a 2 year old, a dog and a wife is too much.
My wife just got back from a week and a half long work trip to Asia. I have so much respect for single parents. At least there is always an end date on her trips.
So true. Scared the crap out of me the first time. Our almost 4 year old will still come get in bed with us every now and then. I sleep on the edge of the bed with my head looking over the edge. Sometimes she'll just climb over me and other times she'll just start tapping my head until I pick her up. My wife gets a huge laugh out of the different ways the little one wakes me up.
Since you started telling us these stories awhile back, I can't believe you are still doing this. More power to you and your wife my friend. You will figure out what the right thing to do is for you and your family. Keep us posted.
3rd negative test this morning. We are officially back on the "we're not pregnant" bandwagon. She's going to call her doc and see if she needs to do an official test there before cancelling everything. Can't believe the roller coaster of emotions could all be caused by 1 false positive test
It can be frustrating. If she isn't pregnant this time, we are getting the ovulation strips for sure and fucking like bunnies.
1st kid was a one-shot goal as soon as she pulled the goalie. This time would have been an accident. Hey I'm glad we are fertile and feel blessed we may not have some of the frustrating times where couples can't get pregnant, but can't I 'enjoy the process' at least for one kid? too much to ask?
I've always been of the opinion that I would rather just knock out how ever many kids you want and get it done with. It's going to suck in a lot of ways regardless so never totally made sense to me on prolonging those harder parts. We have a 4 month old now and had a bit of a pregnancy scare a couple weeks ago, and I definitely was happy to find out she's not pregnant. I was not ready for that in any way. I'm thinking now we'll start trying sometime at the end of summer so that would put them about 2 years apart which I think would be good.
Our kid is almost 8 months, I'd love for her to not be an only child but I'm just fucking miserable right now. I cannot imagine ever doing this again, I don't know how people have two or even more kids.
JY #2 is on the way. Wife is about 9 weeks. I was really looking forward to "trying". Well both times it only took 1 "try". Nice to have good swimmers and whatever after seeing so many friends struggle to get pregnant but fuck. At least give me a couple of weeks of RDNI'ing.
Not really. Last go around she was always super tired. It got better as it went on but she never got super horned out like some stuff I hear.
Good for you man. We’ve considered adopting. The price is a little scary, a friend of mine did it and said it cost him $30k. That’s an ORIG. We have 4 now, 3 in diapers and no doubt it gets intense. My wife will probably quit working soon and that will be a must taking on #5. I’d insist on taking on someone that is as young as possible. Can’t imagine taking on a teenager.
After our first we went through 3 miscarriages (1 about 8-9 weeks along and at least 2 chemical pregnancies where we had a positive test but within a week or so it was gone) over a 2.5 yr period. My wife started taking a pill (chlomid (sp?)) that stimulates ovulation and we were using ovulation strips. We ended up getting pregnant with twins. The first positive pregnancy test was the night before we met with a fertility doctor. She ended up miscarrying one of the two at about 8 weeks (after we had seen a heartbeat) but the other is at 27 weeks now. It can be a long process with a lot of ups and downs and from my experience it is a lot more stressful on women. Good luck.
Yep, I am not too concerned, this will be the 3rd anyways. Hoping for a boy, but I'd bet money we will be hitting the girl trifecta.
Over Christmas, our son peed in my buddy's son potty chair which was the first time he showed interest in doing so. We ordered him an Elmo potty chair and he pooped in it last week. Big milestone. Now he is completely over even trying. Its like his toys, very cool for the first week but forgotten about by the second week. We tell him he gets a treat or M&Ms if he goes on the potty. I had him sit it on this morning, it last 30 seconds and he got up and proceeded to poop in his diaper. A week ago, I thought potty training was going to be easy but not so much any more.
i can't speak to it yet, but my wife and I have been discussing with some friends successful efforts of their 'weekend inside, no diaper, no pants' and the kids figuring it out. It's an all out go, you can't have plans but we've had a couple of friends swear by it
That is a bold, bold strategy but I could see it working. To answer the above question, he turned 2 in November.
you basically follow them around all weekend, it's a full time job. you give them liquids and ask like every 15 min if they have to go or maybe even try 15 min. I don't know all the ins and outs cause we aren't there, but by monday you're basically done
Kids will be 18 months apart. Gonna be busy. Plan is to keep the train going and have #3 2-3 years younger than #2.
Congrats. Ours are 24 months apart; I'm thinking 36 months for the third (if we do a third) would be the ideal spacing to avoid the possibility of 3 in daycare at one time. You and lechnerd ought to get together for a playdate for the kids and swap investing war stories.
You sir, are a saint. My younger brother and his wife are currently fostering (no kids of their own) 2 great siblings under 3. Seeing what they are going through and the rights absolute shitbag parents have is just baffling/sickening/maddening. They can't tell me much about the situation but everyone knows everyone where I'm from. I'm hoping they get the chance you got as they would do it in a heartbeat. Good luck in your decision.
I do not spend a lot of time on here so when I have over 20 alerts I have to take a double look, totally forgot I had posted in this thread yesterday. Thanks for all the kind words. It's a very long story but I will try to keep it brief... Our kids had 1 hr every other week supervised visits with bio-mom at a state facility. The facility is 2 blocks from my office so made sense for me to pick up kids after visit to take home instead of the state sending them back to the aftercare center. This facility has 1 entrance for safety. Foster parents are supposed to be anonymous (so they don't follow us to our home or see our cars etc.) those with visitation leave 10 minute after the visit to give foster parents time to pickup kids and leave unseen. I walk in at my appointed time to pick up my 3 foster girls and have my 2 bio-kids with me. The wait is about 5 minutes before we walk out the door and to my truck where I see the bio-dad pacing back and forth a few spots away . Bio-mom had told him she was visiting the kids that day and where the facility was. I had only seen him from the courtroom hearings where he was in handcuffs. He was supposed to be in jail. Earlier that day I had noticed he was no longer listed as an inmate, meaning he was somehow released. This man is a opiate addict, has been baker acted twice, diagnoses with multiple mental illnesses, multiple convictions of assault, battery, domestic violence, drug possession, larceny, child abuse, child neglect, child endangerment, among other items. So here I was along with 5 kids with a man right out of prison and I have his kids he has not seen in 9 months since he was arrested at his daughters 10th birthday party (battery/domestic violence). Fortunately this guy was on the far side of the truck (drivers side) and was clearly hoping I didn't recognize him because he just stood there watching and the kids were pre-occupied and didn't notice. As I was getting the kids in, all through the passenger side he started yelling and jumping to get their attention and walked over to the truck and banged on the tailgate. I told the kids to lock the door once they were in and then I told him to get the fuck out of here and I was calling 911. He ignored me and just kept yelling at the kids until I slammed my hand on the hood. I started to walk around to the driver side and he just started walking away. Could have been a lot worse, who knows how desperate, what drugs he was on, what his state of mind was but it was pretty intense at the time. Kids were scared to death, they all though he was in jail, knew he wasn't supposed to be there, and the older girls knew he basically had chosen drugs over them. All visits were cancelled after that. It was the last time they saw their father and mother.
Yeah man good luck. Teenagers with trauma is a hard task. If we didn't have all the other kids we could have kept him home and made it, but we just can not expose our other kids to the constant drugs, benders for 3 days where he goes missing and we all are worried. His dealer was murdered on Jan 1 and 4 days later he passed out stoned at the same house and a neighbor had to call us to come get him. This kid is really a 13 year old in mentality and 18 year old physically. He was beat for years by his dad and took the brunt so his sisters would be left alone. That will mess you up, and now as an adult he has no chance of having a real relationship, job, education or future because of the trauma he sustained. We tried, but the damage is done, We hope he can at least be around to be a part of the girl's lives and not totally fall off the deep end/ go to jail/end up dead. all of which are equally likely at this point. tl/dr-- Damaged teenagers are hard to deal with and it's sad we can't help them. They didn't ask to be abused.
Thanks fellow AAC fan! I will keep posting updates and maybe when I have time I'll start my own thread and just tell some of the stories..some of the shit we have been through in the last 5 years is just fucking insane/sad.
My 5 year old loves the movie 8 seconds, and watching bull riding on tv. So I am taking him to watch a live event tonight. I am so pumped for him. He is going to love it.