Official Dads of TMB Thread

Discussion in 'The Mainboard' started by Boo MFer!, Apr 9, 2015.

  1. Snakes

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    i like telling him i'm setting it for 10 minutes and actually setting it for 5
     
  2. Russellin4885

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    This reminds me I need to start using this tool. Might be daycare but also might just be kids like that structure cause my sister does this perfectly with her kid and he's never been to daycare. Might take it up a notch since my kid wants to do everything her self and let her press the button to start the timer. Might make her feel in control while we are getting the outcome I want.
     
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  3. Pile Driving Miss Daisy

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    I'm going to start using the timer as well. Someone mentioned a few years ago about "okay to wake" clocks and I got one that would turn on a light and change colors since she started opening the doors at night and in the morning. She doesn't open the door when it goes off and waits for us, even though I explain she can open the door when it turns on, so that works for me.
     
  4. John McGuirk

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    This is spot on advice that I think I saw early on after I started paying attention to the thread. Give them a choice and make they feel like they have some control in the situation. Time to go to bed...do you want to pick out a book to read before going night night? Need to get dressed for school...which shirt do you want to wear? You get “buy in” at the toddler level.

    Similarly with potty training... I’ve stopped asking my daughter if she needs to go potty. I tell her it’s time and just act like there are just certain times of the day that require us to go potty and remind her that she gets a piece of candy is she goes
     
  5. webbi

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    Anyone have any ideas on potty training with pooping? My 3yo pees and does everything correctly except poop in the toilet. We have tried everything we can think of. We'll put her on the potty when she has to poop.. still won't go. We have did treats, toys, surprises etc. She just wont go on the toilet..she poops in a pullup.. we asked her pediatrician and he said she will grow out of it but man its frustrating..
     
  6. Pile Driving Miss Daisy

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    100% where we were a couple of weeks ago right around the time our daughter turned 3. She's gotten better, she started doing better at daycare but stubborn at home. Our pediatrician just recommended doing rewards, giving stool softener/laxative so that they'll go more frequently, and just not pushing them too hard.

    Our daughter is constantly begging for cookies now so she's become more motivated to try since we'll give her one if she successfully poops on the potty. If she at least is clearly trying and squeezing then we'll give her a couple of apple slices or something else as a lesser reward since we want her to at least try.
     
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  7. Snakes

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    we got one of those clocks and they didn't really work for our kid. he cries when he wakes up until one of us goes and gets him. he's 3.5
     
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  8. Russellin4885

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    Same deal with my 2.5 year old. 100% potty trained for peeing but will only poop in a pull up. It is funny when she comes yelling at me, "I NEED A PULL UP THE POOP IS COMING!!" She loves procrastinating at bed time like I'm sure every other kid does but apparently she is now holding her poop all day cause she's figured out if she poops right before going up for bed she can buy another 10-15 minutes. She's done it 5 nights in a row, if she does it again tonight I think I'm going to tell her that it's fine but if she wants to stay up to poop then we need to do it on the potty. I'm hoping she'll make that trade to stay up a little longer.
     
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  9. Rabid

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    We are going through it as well. Our son was easier at this age (but really hard from about 3-4.5). We are avoiding playing in to it (ignoring when we can), redirecting to different things (wants X and cries to get it so we ask if she wants Y or try to maneuver her to a new activity), and at other times of day just trying to teach her delayed gratification so when she asks for something we give a pause of a couple seconds before granting it to her. This was advice from a child psychologist with our son that is applicable to her.
     
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  10. Rabid

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    I do this all the time with our 5 year old son. My go to is either say on your mark, get set, go if he doesn’t want to leave or go up to bed. It’s instantly a race instead of a fight. Already works with the 2 year old when she is wandering and not listening at daycare pick up. The other is to challenge him to get dressed against a timer.
     
  11. momux

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    Appreciate the response. This is really dumb, but I googled the same general question I asked and found a few books that seemed to have good ratings. The Amazon reviews actually gave away some of the tips, one of which I've started implementing (and it seems like it's gone well).

    The gist was: try to understand and verbally acknowledge the reason for the meltdown. Basically just try to interpret and verbalize the feelings back to them. As crazy as that sounds, it seemed super effective at stemming meltdowns at the beginning. Maybe last night was just a good day for her, but it really seemed like it worked. :shrug:
     
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  12. Rabid

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    If you can that makes sense. Many times they can’t communicate it or don’t even know themselves at that age. The person we worked with was big on not saying too much at the time but revisiting after the emotions had calmed. The gist is that in the moment they have too much stimuli and can’t process everything so getting angry, yelling, or even talking can be unproductive and redirecting can help mitigate the situation at the moment. Then you teach later when they are ready. If you’re getting a response to articulate the issue then over-stimulus isn’t an issue.
     
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  13. The Blackfish

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    My son doesn’t cry, he just makes this awful whining noise until we come get him.
     
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  14. REGGNECK

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    Happy Father’s Day .
     
  15. Boo MFer!

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    Happy us day, men.
     
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  16. webbi

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    Hope all of you gentlemen had a great Father’s Day!
     
  17. Marbles

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    Anyone ever sign there boys up for Karate. Thinking about trying it out with my 5 year old as he really wants to do it and the gym is offering free lessons from now until mid August.
     
  18. REGGNECK

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    Yes , lasted a year
     
  19. Simon Templar

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    Why karate? Do something like BJJ or Krav Maga that is useful
     
  20. Marbles

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    I don't know the difference in everything and use Karate as a generic term.
     
  21. Simon Templar

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    I was just messing around
     
  22. Simon Templar

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    Every kid that’s did it that my son was friends with lasted like a year. My nephew is a black belt though.
     
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  23. Marbles

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    Yeah, thats why I'm interested because the gym offers the free courses from now until mid August for 4 and 5 year olds.
     
  24. Simon Templar

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    Why not then. If anything it will teach him other ways to use is body and improve coordination. Let them do everything they can until they have to start specializing in things was always my thought.
     
  25. Marbles

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    Yeah. Since I work for the Scouts, hes been doing scout stuff since 3 years old.
     
  26. Simon Templar

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    That’s one thing that was never big here. Really no kids did it which was surprising. My kid plays in the creek or follows it to the river every day to play and swim now despite all the pools. I love him being a kid.
     
  27. jbr

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    My older one is supposed to start kindergarten this year. Our county just released the school year plan for 2020-2021. Kindergarten isn’t given the option of virtual learning so my kid, with asthma, allergies, etc, either has to go to the classroom or get homeschooled.

    My wife is going to be on one of those Karen videos in the next 48 hours. I’m fucking pissed too.
     
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  28. momux

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    Sucks man. You guys know what you're going to do?
     
  29. jbr

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    Nope, not yet
     
  30. Rabid

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    Not that we know all that much but have you talked to a doctor about the risks for your specific situation? Before you make any decisions I would talk to a doctor.
     
  31. Name P. Redacted

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    Nah fuck that consult a Facebook mom group
     
  32. jbr

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    We’ve talked to his allergist and dermatologist. They both said, given what they know right now, that my kid getting sick likely wouldn’t be a big deal. They both also said that they have concerns about my wife who has moderate asthma and allergies.

    We had always planned on distance learning until this shit is under control and assumed the school system had that covered.

    Apparently kindergarten isn’t required in the state of Georgia.
     
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  33. Rabid

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    Kids at that age group (and I have one starting K this year myself) have a very low prevalence of actually contracting it. Within the household, it’s much more likely they get it from the parents than vice versa. The asthma is the thing that I would be the most concerned and I don’t know how great the data is on that yet.
     
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  34. Marbles

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    In the same boat. Kid is starting K this fall. I hate it for him as he has been excited about going to big school for a year.
     
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  35. kezarmyaj

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    another in the supposed to be starting kindergarten this year. our district hasnt really said how theyre going to work it, but theyve hinted at some sort of staggered scheduling like half class at home and half at school and alternate days. hopefully its something because shes been talking about going to this school since the last day she went to her pre-k 4 months ago
     
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  36. webbi

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    My middle child is starting K this year too. She’s really excited. The school board is voting on schedule in the next few weeks. What sucks though is in any of those scenarios there is no recess which is crazy to me.
     
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  37. webbi

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    Question for those with boys. My oldest is 8 and recently(start of May) he’s been putting away food like he’s being starved. I thought this happened much later? I took him to get a haircut last Thursday and he put down an 8 count meal from Chick-fil-A like it was nothing.. my pockets are frowning lol
     
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  38. Boo MFer!

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    My 8-year-old eats adult meals on the reg and he’s a string bean.
     
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  39. webbi

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    Good to know.. he can definitely use the weight he’s a string bean too
     
  40. BlueDuck

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    Welp, just dropped my 7 day old son and wife off in the NICU.... fucking brutal that I can’t be there with them.
    He had 1 major dip in his o2 levels two nights ago... then 3 dips last night. Took him to the pediatrician and his o2 levels wouldn’t get above 90. Scared out of my mind right now
     
  41. bama1

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    Lot of us with the little ones starting kindergarten. :beerchug:
     
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  42. Pile Driving Miss Daisy

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    Anyone have their toddler suddenly be terrified of baths? Our 3 year old daughter a couple of weeks ago was playing with the valve on the faucet, pulled it up, and so the water started coming out of the shower head which freaked her the fuck out. She's done this before and gotten scared but this time I think it scarred her. The past couple of nights she's been very upset when we started bath time, but tonight she absolutely lost it when I put her in the tub. The water was already drawn so no running water was coming out, but even that scared the ever-loving shit out of her.

    My wife has been gone for a week and has several more nights, she unfortunately had no choice but to go to the other coast to help her rapidly declining mom move into an assistance care facility, and I'm completely out of patience trying to deal with figuring out how to get my daughter over her fear of baths. Tomorrow night I'll try and bathe with her in our big tub or something to see if that will help, but I'm doubting it won't and I'm already dreading it.
     
  43. Rabid

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    Are you bathing her every night? We do like 2-3 per week.
     
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  44. Pile Driving Miss Daisy

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    Yep, every night, which hasn't been a problem generally. Do you mean you shower your kid the other nights or just only clean them that infrequently? I don't even know if I'd want her to skip more than once a week.
     
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  45. Rabid

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    They bathe or shower 2-3 times per week. It absolutely doesn’t need to be an every day thing. They get more dirty in the summer so it is more toward every other day then.
     
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  46. The Blackfish

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    We bathe our 3 year old like 4 times per week max
     
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  47. Pile Driving Miss Daisy

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    I could try that although she tends to stink after being at daycare all day when they're outside more. I'm not sure if not doing it every night would make her less scared though.
     
  48. The Blackfish

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    this sucks man. I’m sorry you’re having to go through this. He’s in good hands though. He’ll make it through. I know it’s tough that you can’t be there.
     
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  49. Rabid

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    Yeah, taking a bath daily can dry out their skin. They don’t need that until puberty when they’re sweating and stinky. https://intermountainhealthcare.org...2018/05/how-often-should-you-bathe-your-kids/

    That doesn’t solve your problem of being scared at baths but it does reduce the frequency you have to deal with it.

    I might try to get in there with the child with no water and play beforehand and then slowly add water. Or just let her play in the dry tub with clothes on getting her comfortable with the area again.
     
  50. Rabid

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    I’m sorry to hear this. Best wishes. Any idea what the problem might be?
     
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